Ang Pow Issues...

[concern2]

phankao:

concern2:

[quote=\"phankao\"]
We don't go by age of the child. Aiyoh, imagine - I have toddler and also secondary and JC kid - won't it give you a big headache if I were your relative? Then you have to prepare different-value angbaos for each of my kids? My kids get jealous when they open their angbaos, then how??? HAHA!!! You have headache or I have headache over that situation? *hehe* :slapshead:

:rotflmao: Yes, phankao, I have these 'demominations' in my Ang Pow wallet: S$4, S$6, S$8, S$12 and S$20, each parents' S$100, set aside from the rest, and I differentiate them by Ang Pow Packet designs. Sec and JC same amount, those working but not married another amount. But to close nieces and nephews, all S$20, so no need to fight over.

You must go visiting to many places then! haha. I used to have those in the earlier years - really headache. Then I realised that I don't really use much of the different values. So now it's only S$6 or S$20.[/quote]Yeah, I'd probably consider simplifying them hereon...

BTW, how do you feel about giving Ang Pows to older relatives who are still single? I find it could get awkward. For those younger than me, they'd say thank you and accept gracefully, but for some who are older, you have your MIL or DH shooing you to give on one hand and the older, single relative rejecting on the other hand :oops: Donno what to do..put back to own wallet also paiseh..
Some relatives reject by saying,\"No need, no need, we are working already, no need\" whilst pushing your hand away assuringly. Those are easier to handle..

[Funz]

:? I was told the protocol is the one who is an 'elder' in status and is married has to give ang bao to their 'juniors' who are unmarried. Not suppose to give to your 'elders'. Only exception is your own parents and grandparents. You give as a symbol of filial piety.

[MMM]

For us, we mainly prepare the following :

$500 - parents, pils and grandparents each
$100 - kids and our maid
$20 - close nieces and nephews
$10 - Family with only 1 child or grown up cousins. Also sils’ maids who always come to our place
$6 - General (We’ve 3 kids so we don’t want others to lugi).
$4 - Maids we meet at relatives’ house.

So far, I don’t give cousins/ relatives who are single and older than me. There is a elderly auntie whom we visit. But I never give her red packet because she is well to do.

Separately dh also gives angpow to his auntie whose family situation is so so.

[jedamum]

Funz:

:? I was told the protocol is the one who is an 'elder' in status and is married has to give ang bao to their 'juniors' who are unmarried. Not suppose to give to your 'elders'. Only exception is your own parents and grandparents. You give as a symbol of filial piety.

yes...we follow this protocol and give ang baos only to unmarried juniors in the same 'generation ranking' ie our junior uncles and aunties, we also did not give any angpows

[concern2]

jedamum:

Funz:

:? I was told the protocol is the one who is an 'elder' in status and is married has to give ang bao to their 'juniors' who are unmarried. Not suppose to give to your 'elders'. Only exception is your own parents and grandparents. You give as a symbol of filial piety.

yes...we follow this protocol and give ang baos only to unmarried juniors in the same 'generation ranking' ie our junior uncles and aunties, we also did not give any angpows

My, this would surely make things less embarrassing. I wonder why my DH's side of the family didn't have similar practice. They're Cantonese. Does that explain the difference in practice?? :?

[phankao]

concern2:

BTW, how do you feel about giving Ang Pows to older relatives who are still single? I find it could get awkward. For those younger than me, they'd say thank you and accept gracefully, but for some who are older, you have your MIL or DH shooing you to give on one hand and the older, single relative rejecting on the other hand :oops: Donno what to do..put back to own wallet also paiseh..
Some relatives reject by saying,\"No need, no need, we are working already, no need\" whilst pushing your hand away assuringly. Those are easier to handle..

I don't know how elderly you are referring to. My husband will always give to certain elderly relatives (some single, and some widowed). These are usually very close relative and siblings of his parents and are really not so young. It's a form of respect. They usually don't refuse.

We don't for example give to older unmarried siblings - why would we?

[concern2]

phankao:

concern2:

BTW, how do you feel about giving Ang Pows to older relatives who are still single? I find it could get awkward. For those younger than me, they'd say thank you and accept gracefully, but for some who are older, you have your MIL or DH shooing you to give on one hand and the older, single relative rejecting on the other hand :oops: Donno what to do..put back to own wallet also paiseh..
Some relatives reject by saying,\"No need, no need, we are working already, no need\" whilst pushing your hand away assuringly. Those are easier to handle..

I don't know how elderly you are referring to. My husband will always give to certain elderly relatives (some single, and some widowed). These are usually very close relative and siblings of his parents and are really not so young. It's a form of respect. They usually don't refuse.

We don't for example give to older unmarried siblings - why would we?

I am referring to those in same generation - cousins in their 40s and 50s, still single (actually, was trying to avoid having to hint my age group lah!). Possibly traditionally these older singles are deemed to 'need' support from family, so had been a tradition to give them, but these days, the singles are so much better off than us so that's why it becomes weird - I suppose.
For DH, he still gives his older brothers (who are single), but I think that is out of respect - and are from the lower income bracket.

[phankao]

concern2:

phankao:

[quote=\"concern2\"]
BTW, how do you feel about giving Ang Pows to older relatives who are still single? I find it could get awkward. For those younger than me, they'd say thank you and accept gracefully, but for some who are older, you have your MIL or DH shooing you to give on one hand and the older, single relative rejecting on the other hand :oops: Donno what to do..put back to own wallet also paiseh..
Some relatives reject by saying,\"No need, no need, we are working already, no need\" whilst pushing your hand away assuringly. Those are easier to handle..

I don't know how elderly you are referring to. My husband will always give to certain elderly relatives (some single, and some widowed). These are usually very close relative and siblings of his parents and are really not so young. It's a form of respect. They usually don't refuse.

We don't for example give to older unmarried siblings - why would we?

I am referring to those in same generation - cousins in their 40s and 50s, still single (actually, was trying to avoid having to hint my age group lah!). Possibly traditionally these older singles are deemed to 'need' support from family, so had been a tradition to give them, but these days, the singles are so much better off than us so that's why it becomes weird - I suppose.
For DH, he still gives his older brothers (who are single), but I think that is out of respect - and are from the lower income bracket.[/quote]We don't give to older unmarried siblings lor - as I mentioned. Nor unmarried older cousins. Can't be bc of dialect group? We're Cantonese.

[BlueBells]

I gave my parents and PILs token amount because we gave them bonus spending $$ before CNY. And whatever amount I give to my parents, she would return the same value (x 4) to my family of 4, so no point giving more.


I also give to our grandparents, my elder single sister (whom we are all very close to), my married younger brother and his family. My sister would also give a red packet to my children despite not needing to.

Values for my nieces and nephews - S$10, DH side - S$8. Will also give to the helpers of the households that we visited, usually S$6. We also give one to the foreign worker who washed our car every night.

[concern2]

phankao:

We don't give to older unmarried siblings lor - as I mentioned. Nor unmarried older cousins. Can't be bc of dialect group? We're Cantonese.

Great. Looks like I'll have to set the records straight from now on.. :rubhands: