Ang Pow Issues...

[Big fish]

For a family of four, though yours kids are small, u still take up at least 3 seats plus 1 baby chair, if per head is $60 to $80 ( depends on the price of hotel ), at least $200 is presentable, not to mention that it is a RELATIVE, that means u will meet someday. I would say $60 is toooo stingy ( sorry…). For me I will give $250-$300. Remember next time your children also will grow big and get married, imagine pp come and give you $60 for a family of 4… it is REALLY not nice.

[CMF]

mummyJune:

hi all, not sure if this topics falls in here.


i need to know, how much angbao $ to give for wedding dinner at hotel @ orchard. is a relative wedding. & my family of 4. but basically my kids still very young(1Y & 3Y) so husband stingy, say give $60 angbao.
i told him not nice la, later my mum say make her lose face :torchme:

so how much angbao $ to give for my whole family?

Note as a gauge of Grand Hyatt's (hotel located in Orchard Road) wedding packages, http://singapore.grand.hyatt.com/hyatt/hotels-singapore-grand/events/weddings/offers.jsp, it starts at an average of S$97/person (weekday) or S$113/person (weekend). As a norm, a guest would usually try to cover his/her dinner cost. If kids are not going to occupy two additional seats, then \"minimum\" angbao would be S$200/couple - S$230/couple if one wants to at least cover couple's dinner costs, excluding consideration that the wedding couple is a relative.

[auntieM]

Must the whole family show up? Maybe can find an excuse.. ..

$60 for per person considered low liao, don't mind me saying but your DH really... :faint:
Can take the risk and show up, hopefully your relatives wouldn't notice..

[mummyJune]

ya my DH is very stingy. is not per person $60, he said whole family $60. siao right! i so angry, quarrel with him. anywae, its really not nice to give so little since we are relatives & will meet during festive seasons etc.


just now my mum said for my relative wedding dinner, per table is $1.6k, den if i give $200 for whole family, is it ok?

[CMF]

mummyJune:

just now my mum said for my relative wedding dinner, per table is $1.6k, den if i give $200 for whole family, is it ok?

If it's S$1,600/table, then for a table of 10 it would be S$160/person, if S$1,600/table is without GST & tax, then it would be S$187/person (with GST & tax). S$200 angbao would just cover one person's cost at the table.

[mummyJune]

then like that how much to give?

[CMF]

mummyJune:

then like that how much to give?

I would say between S$380 - S$500 is a \"decent\" amount, considering it's a relative + family of four attending.

[Pris.011283tang]

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[Big fish]

mummyJune:

then like that how much to give?

Why don't you or your husband pretend sick and and keep the older child at home, then go with smaller one and pay about $150? :xedfingers:

[tutormum]

My uncles and aunts were so stingy that the married ones gave me a very small gift each for my wedding. The gifts were so tiny that can't cover my fingertip though it's made of gold. The unmarried ones didn't give anything. Their logic was as family there's no need to give anything cos it's considered family dinner. Married ones gave as a gesture only. :mad: I was the eldest niece in the family to get married and they were about 3 to 12 years older. I was so embarrassed that I didn't dare to let DH know and thankfully, he never bothered. We came up with an agreement that he'll take care of his family side while I take care of mine when it comes to such occasions. So when it was my uncles' and aunts' children turn to get married, I didn't give much but definitely much more than what they gave me. :pokeeye: I gave one of my cousins a specially made set of silver necklace, bracelet and earrings for her wedding. It's not valuable but priceless as I got my friend to design and made them for her. Definitely more presentable than the miserable tiny gold studded earrings her parents' gave me. :boogie: Worst, her mother grumbled to me during the wedding about the cost of the wedding dinner and I just :heresmyfish: Anyway, I understand that the standard procedure is to record what you have received from your relatives and give the same in return. :razz: