SAHP or working is better?
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having said the above, i feel that if the SAHP is able to find time eg. when the kids r off to school, its stil good to be able to work and earn an income for extra cash. so its doesn't mean one has to choose either only SAHP or only work. best if there could be a good balance
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another arrangement: put the child in full time childcare (not those expensive kind), mum does chores during the day, kid goes back after 5pm...and mum then can teach the child? how about that? good?
Skunk,
I agreed with your point, my boy find it hard to sit down and learn. I think he is used to 'learn thru play'method. I know some topic can be very dry, and not fun at all. so when it comes to such topic, he :siam: .hahha.
but some fun is ok, I know Tamarind is using such method and she teaches her children very well.
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foreverj:
as for maids - worse. they probably quite heck-care although i've seen domestic maids being very attached to the children and care and love them very much. but stil, again, not much discipline. they likely just want the children to love them back.
I totally agree. My previous maid was very attached to my kids, esp DD2. To the extent that she tried to stop us from disciplining DD2. That happened a few days before her contract ended. I did not say anything as i thought it was poitnless. But I knew we could not let her continue working for us again, unless we want DD2 to become a spoilt brat :stupid: -
smurf:
Sounds like a good plan. Kids learn in school too and Mum less stress. Me dreaming of the day I do something like that, hee.another arrangement: put the child in full time childcare (not those expensive kind), mum does chores during the day, kid goes back after 5pm...and mum then can teach the child? how about that? good?
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While I must agree that there is no gaurantee that a SAHM will produce a child with fantastic result, she will definitely have more time to monitor the child so that there will not be too much hanky panky.
SAHM is the path that cannot be measured with how good the child’s result versus the $$ that had been sarificed. That usually will not quate. The decision have to come from the couple and the whatever the final outcome (child’s result or character) there is no return and you have to accept it. -
KSP:
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SAHM is the path that cannot be measured with how good the child's result versus the $$ that had been sarificed. That usually will not quate. The decision have to come from the couple and the whatever the final outcome (child's result or character) there is no return and you have to accept it. -
jedamum:
Agree wholeheartedly!
:goodpost:KSP:
SAHM is the path that cannot be measured with how good the child's result versus the $$ that had been sarificed. That usually will not quate. The decision have to come from the couple and the whatever the final outcome (child's result or character) there is no return and you have to accept it. -
skunk:
It is actually possible to make study fun for the kids, but it takes a lot of efforts to think of something \"fun\" and \"new\" each time. I try to mix up games with homework. e.g. when my DH correctly writes a Chinese character (from a ting xie list), I'll reward her a letter (alphabet) from a box. If she fails, I'll take one. At the end, we'll use the letters we each collected and make words. The one who makes the most words win. By doing so, I've done both Chinese & Eng for the day without making her feel forced. Sometimes she even asks me to give her more Chinese words to write so she can earn more letters!tamarind:
Learning at home is effective only if mommy can make it fun and enjoyable for the child.
I agree with everything u have said, except this point.
Learning/studying is dead serious business...if it's \"fun and enjoyable\" all the time, then we would all be scholars lol....sometimes it really isn't fun, and TV and computer games are more enjoyable...and if both parent and child understand this and approach it with a more stoic and pragmatic attitude, I believe it would be more sustainable.
Thus, sometimes, some scolding might be necessary....of course, i agree that mommy can't be screaming at the kid all the time....
When it comes to piano, I'll make up a story linking all the songs she has learned and do a musical. When she plays, me and DS will either sing along or dance. The difficult part is I always have to come up with some fresh ideas to keep her interested. :idea:
I've tried yelling & screaming before, and believe me, it doesn't work. Only resulted in sore throat for me. Also, I don't want to force her too much as she's still young. When I was her age, I really didn't do anything except play. -
KSP:
hmm, I dun quite agree leh. the 2nd example: the gal's mum look after her children, and yet, the gal can go out in the middle of the nite to meet 3 guys ALONE. the father was so mad until he fainted. I mean, what can a gal do with 3 guys alone?? luckily, the grandma saw that the gal was trying to escape and hence informed the parents (they stay together).While I must agree that there is no gaurantee that a SAHM will produce a child with fantastic result, she will definitely have more time to monitor the child so that there will not be too much hanky panky.
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KSP:
while i m no FT SAHM, i've chosen to sacrifice my career to be around for my dd. i remember when i saw my peers climbing up the corp ladder and getting good bonuses and all, i told dh that for me, my payout wil probably come in another 20 yrs time when dd graduates. he agreed.While I must agree that there is no gaurantee that a SAHM will produce a child with fantastic result, she will definitely have more time to monitor the child so that there will not be too much hanky panky.
SAHM is the path that cannot be measured with how good the child's result versus the $$ that had been sarificed. That usually will not quate. The decision have to come from the couple and the whatever the final outcome (child's result or character) there is no return and you have to accept it.
when dd got the kumon bronze award end last yr, he joked that this could be my KPI - something that is measurable haha. but of course, deep down, we know its never a fair measure. whether dd gets good results, to me, is inconsequential cos i think i reaped much more happiness from being with her, enjoying her laughter and stories abt her day, spending quality time with her doing the little things like taking bus, going to library on weekdays etc. things that most FTWM wil have little energy to do after a hard day's work and political battling in the office :love:
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