All About Autism

[ImMeeMee]

Fizz:

Somehow, the official diagnosis puts an end to answers which we have been searching for a long time. We initially sent him on suspicion of ADHD, but it was proven not instead. For the longest time, I felt like an incompetent parent. My IL repeatedly commented that my SIL (her daughter) could discipline her daughters very well while my boy was so hyper, climbing and jumping, and seldom obeying instructions. Even now, she felt that my boy must have been scared badlly during infant time and hence he had autism. Even my dad said that he was not obedient because we spoilt him rotten. Some friends would insist that a kid could be disciplined as long as the parent was strict and consistent enough. I was forever questioning myself, am I too indulgent?...am I not strict enough?...is there something wrong with my teaching? But when I compared my gal to other kids, I did not think so. But others will always look at my boy and make these comments. At least with this, I can guide him along knowing the direction.

fizz, we all go through that stage. Now that things are settled, its never too late to support the child with all that we have.

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[ImMeeMee]

Karkar:

Cheers to ImMeeMee. No one could ever imagine the effort we need to improve even a small thing on our kid. after months, i still couldnt get my son to drink from the straw bottle or sippy cup. so in playgourp, he's the only one who couldn't drink water without feeding. headache.

karkar, patience prevails. I have taken many months to do many things with my girl, and there are things which have not been set right yet.

[mashy]

Karkar:

mashy:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]me too.. i start to defends when pp complaint about weird persons.


Mummies.

school these days keep complaining my son during nap time he is very active, what should i do? i also duno why my son recently start to be very active?

books & cards & sequence pixs does not help my son. he don't understand.

hiaz.. parents w special kids always at losing end when teachers complaints....

Then the teachers just have to find activities for him to do! Some kids stop their naps earlier than others. It's their jobs to manage them. My boy also stopped napping very early.

Sometimes u need to ignore these teachers. What can u do when u are not even there? Are u to solve their problems?

Teachers are the reason why i am sending my son so far away from my house as i trust them. only 3rd day in morning playgroup, i didnt' have much expectation. but i didn't tell teachers his problems. teacher just said he's spoiled but at least he sometimes can follow instruction, although he's still running around in the classroom. i just would want honest feedback.[/quote]Agree! Quality and patient teachers are so important to their developments. Don't need those who are just there to collect paycheck.

[mashy]

ImMeeMee:

Karkar:

Cheers to ImMeeMee. No one could ever imagine the effort we need to improve even a small thing on our kid. after months, i still couldnt get my son to drink from the straw bottle or sippy cup. so in playgourp, he's the only one who couldn't drink water without feeding. headache.

karkar, patience prevails. I have taken many months to do many things with my girl, and there are things which have not been set right yet.

Try putting sweet drinks/coke in the straw bottle. With motivation, u will be amazed at how fast and proficient they suddenly become.

Think my son picked up the skill when he tried to share our bottled drinks.

[Karkar]

I have a sinking feeling. Why is KKH confirming kids so late? i know confirmation is a confirmation, it gives parents more direction from the assessment on which areas to improve.


recently chanced upon a Taiwanese website http://www.autismawakening.org/, the owner sets a very good example. i bought her book. maybe you can find it useful to under the education of your kids without being fooled by lot of service providers. the best gift to your kid is your involvement in their intervention, you are their hope. Salute to the mummies here, who nvr give up.

[Karkar]

ImMeeMee and Mashy, thanks for the tips. maybe from very young, we didnt’ allow him to suck on his fingers much, he didnt have a habit of putting everything into his mouth. now i think we have overdone. that’s the sensory sensitive period that we missed.


I tried putting honey/sweet stuff on the straw. whenever it’s put in front of him, not even close to his mouth, he turns his head away and refuses to let it get close without a cry. I dont want to force him as he will only remember drinking water is bad. inlaws used to feed him water spoon by spoon, now hes able to drink from a cup with us holding the cup of course, else he would turn the cup upside down like every ohter bottle with opening.

[helplessmum3]

verykiasumummy:

i beg to differ from mashy.. afterall, they are still our own kids... how can we say its the teachers' problems?


helplessmum3, how old is your son?

He jus about to 3

[mashy]

Karkar:

ImMeeMee and Mashy, thanks for the tips. maybe from very young, we didnt' allow him to suck on his fingers much, he didnt have a habit of putting everything into his mouth. now i think we have overdone. that's the sensory sensitive period that we missed.


I tried putting honey/sweet stuff on the straw. whenever it's put in front of him, not even close to his mouth, he turns his head away and refuses to let it get close without a cry. I dont want to force him as he will only remember drinking water is bad. inlaws used to feed him water spoon by spoon, now hes able to drink from a cup with us holding the cup of course, else he would turn the cup upside down like every ohter bottle with opening.

If he can use the cup, just skip the straw! Concentrate instead with him holding the cup. Of course the first few (or many) times, he will spill but eventually he will get it. My gal also pours her water everywhere for fun. Eventually she learnt to hold a cup with her hands and drink properly.

If u force, he won't want. But if u say cannot drink, he will want to drink. Lol. Like learning to feed themselves, u need to let go. Let it be messy. Of course it will be messy. He will drench himself. Once u get over that messy stage, all will be well.

My 3 yr old can feed herself better than my 6 yr old. Coz during my boy's time, we kept feeding him. My hb said it won't be long before we won't be able to feed him. And guess what, we still have to feed him sometimes. So for my younger gal, I let her feed herself from very young. Now she's able to use her fork to eat noodles properly and spoon to drink soup and eat rice. My son still uses his hands to eat. Sigh. Ok, maybe it's because of his condition. But I think it's also becoz we didn't let him feed himself when he was young.

[Fizz]

Verykiasumummy, ImMeeMee


Thanks for your encouragement! We move forward, yah!

Mashy

Thanks for your info! KKH Rehab will be an alternative. I don’t understand the reason that KKH, being a restructured hospital for children, is recommending so many kids to private. I thought that at least these kids should be referred to IMH if they are aged 7 and over.

[Fizz]

helplessmum3:

verykiasumummy:

i beg to differ from mashy.. afterall, they are still our own kids... how can we say its the teachers' problems?


helplessmum3, how old is your son?

He jus about to 3

Helplessmum3

My boy does not like to nap in school too. But because he is already in K2, I am not concerned. For a 3 yr boy, it may work if you let him bring something familiar to hug to sleep. Waking him up earlier may work too as it gets him tired earlier and he may just KO by nap time.

If the teachers are willing, they may try to put him alone (accompanied by one teacher, of course) in a separate room with a dim light. Some kids find it difficult to sleep with so many kids together as they are distracted while some find it scary in a dark room. As they grow, they needs and fears change and we just trial and error.