All About Autism
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helplessmum3:
helplessmummummies,
pls pray for me, i manage to find a cc for my son, they have trails for two weeks, hope goes well. wish me luck mUmmies
Thought to share about my current quest for a mainstream childcare centre for my daughter, which I have not posted much about.
Since my daughter was diagnosed about 2 years ago, I have always placed her at a EIPIC school. Because she didnt seem ready to go to mainstream childcare, I have put that off for a while. But along the way I have come to realize that she needs to build her social awareness and social interaction skills, and she needs to be more familiar with crowds (and chaos) to eventually prepare her for primary school education. Since sometime last year I have been looking for a mainstream cc for her. You know, up to today I am still looking.
The things that I tried along the way:
1. one montessori cc who had vacancies, and was willing to let her try. I brough my daughter to 2 paid trial classes, but realized that it was not suitable - the kids could climb ladders at their own will and play with glass things.
2. then spoke to a cc and the centre was understanding to special needs children. was about to enrol when EIPIC informed that we needed to make changes to her program including timing and location. had to put the cc on hold, since I didnt want my daughter to have to adapt to too many new things at one time.
3. after settling down at EIPIC, spoke to the cc again, ding dong for a few times and finally was informed that there were no vacancies.
4. called up a cc near the EIPIC school, and it had vacancies. Went for viewing and the P was empathetic. But realized that it was not suitable cos the school was ethnically not the right fit.
5. called up a cc near home and was informed that the school had vacancies. Was happy and informed the school about my daughter's condition. School promised to follow up with P, but next day when I called, the cc informed that there were no vacancies. Left a message for P to return my call but dead silence eventually (this one, I really felt bitter).
6. along the way called up all the kindergartens around my area only to be told that there are no vacancies and had to be placed on wait list. Some of them had vacancies but could not fit in terms of timing.
7. Just viewed a cc that is newly opened last weekend, and now waiting for the school's response on my daughter.
Truth be told, I feel totally frustrated and exasperated just clearing this hurdle. And I have not even reached the stage of dealing with challenges when she enters the cc, which is a differnt hurdle altogether.
Just want to share with you that it can be a tough process, but I have not given up yet cos giving up is not an option. And every time I interface with a cc I will be upfront with them on my daughter's condition, cos I feel it has to be fair both ends. The school must be willing to embrace my child before we can proceed further.
Hope this helps and best wishes on the new cc. -
Thanks Mashy, will try to find out. Just realise my boy had a opened date appointment with Rehab centre- way long before he was officially diagnose
Maybe it helps
Jia you to all the mummies. I think I was lucky that the cc I send my boy to are very accommodating. I think part of the reason is the cc I send my boy to is rather small (it was in a mature HDB estate, so they don't have that many kids). Another option you can consider with the cc is offering help to shadow your child- can ask your helper or other family members if you are working. Professional shadow can be rather ex
I'm not sure how rest of you think, but I felt that many people from the public didn't understand why we are fighting so hard to let our kids be at mainstream, while they should be 'better of' at a special school, some even conclude that we are in denial of our kids condition. They don't understand we are just trying to help our kid to learn to interact with the \"normal people\", just as much as we hope the rest of the world can accept them for who they are. -
Immeemee,
Have you, would you consider catholic kindergarten schools? Usually they are extremely accommodating. I’ve heard and seen special needs kids attending to such schools. My son is in a catholic school, ive seen a down syndrome boy attending the school. Although, his helper accompanied him throughout the lesson. The down side is these schools are normally 3 hours, not full day child care. If you can work that out, can consider. -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DPeBgwuqz8&fb_source=message
teacher abusing austistic kid 4yo -
specialboymum:
I agree with u. Mine wasn't even about special school. Before my son was diagnosed, I was complaining about how his prev sch was so unaccomodating etc, I have a friend who made me pretty upset. She said that the reason why I'm placing my son in the earlier cohort (we could choose earlier or delay one year but by default, he is with the earlier cohort by birthdate) was because of my PRIDE. She went on to boast about how her son could spell so well at K1 and admonish me for wanting my son to be with older kids.
I'm not sure how rest of you think, but I felt that many people from the public didn't understand why we are fighting so hard to let our kids be at mainstream, while they should be 'better of' at a special school, some even conclude that we are in denial of our kids condition. They don't understand we are just trying to help our kid to learn to interact with the \"normal people\", just as much as we hope the rest of the world can accept them for who they are.
I did question myself if it was indeed because of pride but realise it isn't so. If it is indeed pride, I would have simply delayed him so that he can top his class all the time. As of now, his knowledge already surpasses some of his peers. He may be slower writing and can't talk very well but it's fine. Eventually he will get there. His social skills have also improved leaps and bounds and I'm simply so proud of him. Just yesterday, while saying our goodbyes at my ils' place, he said goodbye to everyone and even looked out for the uncle whom he didn't see to say goodbye to. Last time, he would just walk out saying nothing and we had to drag him back.
I think throughout our journey, we will have naysayers around us who question our decisions. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Some don't agree with the way I see things and I also don't see eye to eye with others all the time. It's fine. It's our own kids. Ultimately, we are responsible for them. -
ImMeeMee:
I heard chiltern house had a resident therapist! If u can afford, maybe can call and ask if they still have a resident therapist. I thought its quite unusual for a cc to have a therapist.
helplessmumhelplessmum3:
mummies,
pls pray for me, i manage to find a cc for my son, they have trails for two weeks, hope goes well. wish me luck mUmmies
Thought to share about my current quest for a mainstream childcare centre for my daughter, which I have not posted much about.
Since my daughter was diagnosed about 2 years ago, I have always placed her at a EIPIC school. Because she didnt seem ready to go to mainstream childcare, I have put that off for a while. But along the way I have come to realize that she needs to build her social awareness and social interaction skills, and she needs to be more familiar with crowds (and chaos) to eventually prepare her for primary school education. Since sometime last year I have been looking for a mainstream cc for her. You know, up to today I am still looking.
The things that I tried along the way:
1. one montessori cc who had vacancies, and was willing to let her try. I brough my daughter to 2 paid trial classes, but realized that it was not suitable - the kids could climb ladders at their own will and play with glass things.
2. then spoke to a cc and the centre was understanding to special needs children. was about to enrol when EIPIC informed that we needed to make changes to her program including timing and location. had to put the cc on hold, since I didnt want my daughter to have to adapt to too many new things at one time.
3. after settling down at EIPIC, spoke to the cc again, ding dong for a few times and finally was informed that there were no vacancies.
4. called up a cc near the EIPIC school, and it had vacancies. Went for viewing and the P was empathetic. But realized that it was not suitable cos the school was ethnically not the right fit.
5. called up a cc near home and was informed that the school had vacancies. Was happy and informed the school about my daughter's condition. School promised to follow up with P, but next day when I called, the cc informed that there were no vacancies. Left a message for P to return my call but dead silence eventually (this one, I really felt bitter).
6. along the way called up all the kindergartens around my area only to be told that there are no vacancies and had to be placed on wait list. Some of them had vacancies but could not fit in terms of timing.
7. Just viewed a cc that is newly opened last weekend, and now waiting for the school's response on my daughter.
Truth be told, I feel totally frustrated and exasperated just clearing this hurdle. And I have not even reached the stage of dealing with challenges when she enters the cc, which is a differnt hurdle altogether.
Just want to share with you that it can be a tough process, but I have not given up yet cos giving up is not an option. And every time I interface with a cc I will be upfront with them on my daughter's condition, cos I feel it has to be fair both ends. The school must be willing to embrace my child before we can proceed further.
Hope this helps and best wishes on the new cc. -
Immeemee,
i hold on to the current cc while trying out the trials. i will postpone rainbow… let my son try a small size classroom in normal cc first. if he survive, i think life skill i can teach him at home… also EPIC at rainbow use PECS, my son cant related tis … i worried fall back cuz my son is very verbal now.
also because of current cc cost, i cant afford rainbow…
at rainbow everying is very structure , they use E-step… no good!
so example, if my son can write free hand, why mus he die die mus use stacils to write… its thier top down teaching, so cant helpit kind… they are trying to cater for all special needs kids… -
Thanks mummies for your kind concern.
Yes did enquire about church kindergarten but the timing was not right. I don’t think I have a chiltern near my house n vicinity is also one key consideration for us due to logistics needs. -
helplessmum3:
Not all EIPIC centres use PECS n follow the same structure like Rainbow. some centres are more flexible n mix autistic n non autistic children together. You can check out with CEL.Immeemee,
i hold on to the current cc while trying out the trials. i will postpone rainbow.. let my son try a small size classroom in normal cc first. if he survive, i think life skill i can teach him at home.. also EPIC at rainbow use PECS, my son cant related tis .. i worried fall back cuz my son is very verbal now.
also because of current cc cost, i cant afford rainbow..
at rainbow everying is very structure , they use E-step... no good!
so example, if my son can write free hand, why mus he die die mus use stacils to write.. its thier top down teaching, so cant helpit kind.. they are trying to cater for all special needs kids... -
Uh? I did not know. But y rainbow has the higher wait list ?
I thought all cel eipic are the same.
Ok I will cel to check.
Thanks
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