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mashy:

Nugget

This is normal child behavior. I've heard of many friends' kids who pull out some stunts when their sibling came along. Suddenly they became very uncooperative and even babyish. So hang on. It will get better.

Thanks. Sorry I need to let it out here cos I feel so loss over this. Esp now he is getting bigger (about 20kg). I do not have the strength to carry him whenever he pull the \"lie on floor\" stun. I hope he really will stop doing that.

[mashy]

nugget:

mashy:

Nugget

This is normal child behavior. I've heard of many friends' kids who pull out some stunts when their sibling came along. Suddenly they became very uncooperative and even babyish. So hang on. It will get better.

Thanks. Sorry I need to let it out here cos I feel so loss over this. Esp now he is getting bigger (about 20kg). I do not have the strength to carry him whenever he pull the \"lie on floor\" stun. I hope he really will stop doing that.

No prob. Some people advocate ignoring such bad behaviour and rewarding good behaviour. Attn due to bad behaviour is also attn so don't give any.

I wonder if you close the door behind him, what will he do? Coz like my son, he has very high inertia. Simply wouldn't move from place to place. So when we are going out, we close the door when he's simply too involved in his toys or tv. He will suddenly scramble over once we do that.

If he refuses to come home, just close the gate? I did counting before. When I count to 20, I will close. My son was caught outside once or twice I think. Now when I start counting, he quickly dash in. Now he used that on my daughter when she's distracted! Lol.

Actually even my dd has her moments. Just recently, she made a big fuss every time I went to fetch her from school. She will suddenly be 'unable to walk', cannot carry school bag, cannot wear her own shoes etc. it was quite bad for a few days. Coz she likes to wear dresses, so on days when she behaved badly, I made her wear shorts. Also huge fight lah but she stopped her nonsense after that.

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Mashy,


I hope its that easy. I also try not to pay him attention if he do the wrong things. But he lie down on floor in front of all the teachers, classmates and parents. I can’t be standing there to do nothing. Sigh. I snapped this morning and I slap him on the legs.

Its not about me losing face (I already grew very thick-skin). But I really feel heartache for him cos I see the looks on his classmates’ faces, some puzzled, some laughing at him and one of them even ask me "why he is crying and lying on the floor?". I dunno how to answer his classmates. When he is in school, these kids might feel that he is a nutcase, and even isolate him further. I seriously dunno what lies ahead for him which gives me endless worry.

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I came across this blog entry. I am sure many of us here can relate to it.

I just hope my son will not turn violent and keep lying on the floor. There will truly be one day when he is stronger and bigger than me, and I cant subdue him anymore.

*note: the boy in this blog is special needs - not ASD*
http://anarchistsoccermom.blogspot.sg/2012/12/thinking-unthinkable.html

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slmkhoo,


Thanks. Your suggestion sounds really good to me. I never tried those before. Yes, even though he has ASD, but he still have his sense of pride and ego…

Sometimes after crying he will tell me "can you cry? Only baby cry". I think your approach might work. And he told me he always want to be a good boy.

[mashy]

When my gal did that, I totally ignored it. Yes, she also rolled on the floor. And she’s NT. So I believe it’s just a tantrum. When they are 12 and still doing that, then I will be worried. But kindy kids do that. So don’t worry ok?


Hehe, I think I really thick skin now. The teachers tried to bribe her with sweets, I took it away. Why should she be rewarded for bad behaviour? I simply told her I’m leaving, with or without her. She still tried to push her luck and end up held on to my legs as I walked. U know, like those drama? I walking and she on the floor, holding onto my legs? When she finally got to the door, then she refused to wear her shoes. So I just threw her shoes far away and I walked off. The teachers must be thinking I’m so hard hearted. She’s the princess in the school and everyone loved her to bits. And here I am being so harsh to her. Tsk tsk tsk.

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Mashy, slmkhoo,


I guessed I must be hard hearted like you all. Now even my NT 2 years old also learning from Kor Kor and sit on the floor.

K1, K2 still can lie on the floor and fuss and its normal??? I thought they are too big for this stun. Really look so ugly, childish and not appropriate.

My boy is either doing this to gain attention and trying to get things he wanted in his own way.

[mashy]

nugget:

Mashy, slmkhoo,


I guessed I must be hard hearted like you all. Now even my NT 2 years old also learning from Kor Kor and sit on the floor.

K1, K2 still can lie on the floor and fuss and its normal??? I thought they are too big for this stun. Really look so ugly, childish and not appropriate.

My boy is either doing this to gain attention and trying to get things he wanted in his own way.

They probably thought what they did at 3 would still work at 5? I've seen some boys done that to get their way. i guess boys are a bit more immature than girls. It will be over soon. Just hang on. My elder boy, when he was younger rolled and knocked his head on the floor (very carefully). Lol. Anyway he realised it's painful and a stupid way to protest so he stopped after a while.

[mashy]

slmkhoo:

nugget:

Mashy, slmkhoo,


I guessed I must be hard hearted like you all. Now even my NT 2 years old also learning from Kor Kor and sit on the floor.

K1, K2 still can lie on the floor and fuss and its normal??? I thought they are too big for this stun. Really look so childish!

My boy is either doing this to gain attention and trying to get things he wanted in his own way.

My experience, from my own kids and hearing from others, is that there is another 'terrible 2s' phase around 4yo, called 'fearsome 4s' by some writers. If the earlier phase was handled well and the child has experienced that it doesn't work, the 2nd phase should be very short. There will be challenges to parental authority every now and again throughout a child's life, especially in the teen years. The 2yo and 4yo phases are the noisiest though!

Yes, I think they do some odd stuff every 2-3 yrs. guess it's them trying to gain independence and want things done their way. We can't always get our way too, so slowly we have to let them make some decisions themselves. I've been exposing son to more decision making process and help him learn to make decisions himself. Like previously, we will decide what he wears and what he eats, what he does that day. Now we slowly let him decide within guidelines. I think when they 'feel' that they are in control, they behave better.

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slmkhoo,


Thanks for your advise. You really an experience mother. I was starting to question my parenting skills and wondering where went wrong. Its good talking to you. Thanks for enlightening me. I will remember the suggestions and give them a try.

Mashy!
You put a smile on my gloomy day

[quote]My elder boy, when he was younger rolled and knocked his head on the floor (very carefully). Lol. Anyway he realised it's painful and a stupid way to protest so he stopped after a while.[/quote]

This is so funny. *no offense* but I am sure now you looked back, you find it funny. Ok I will hang in there. And keep talking and drilling into his head.