All About Autism

[helplessmum3]

Behavior ? What sort of behavior ? I thought if not much speech issue mean lesser behavior issue as they are able to communicate their thoughts ?

[Summer tan]

He doesn’t know how to socialise. Hit friends and disrupt teaching.

[mashy]

Summer tan:

He doesn't know how to socialise. Hit friends and disrupt teaching.

I think in order to go mainstream, he must first stop hitting friends. Because no other parent will allow their kids to be hit repeatedly even if your child has special needs. You will need to resolve that before being able to consider mainstream. Otherwise, you will be called up very often and apologizing to other parents all the time. It won't be good for him either when he is viewed as a 'trouble maker'. He needs to learn to channel his frustration and energy into something else.

[Summer tan]

Yes mashy, in fact some parents at pcf already stopped talking to me already. The problem is we don’t know how to resolve that. We tried many ways both soft n hard but it’s still the same. Can u imagine how stress I am everyday seeing the parents and the way they looked at my son? Even if it’s a short 4 hours my mind is constantly on how my son behaves. Fetching him from school is worst for me. So if the mainstream cannot accept him then I seriously don’t know what to do. Maybe I’ll jump down from the building.

[Summer tan]

slmkhoo:

mashy:

[quote=\"Summer tan\"]He doesn't know how to socialise. Hit friends and disrupt teaching.

I think in order to go mainstream, he must first stop hitting friends. Because no other parent will allow their kids to be hit repeatedly even if your child has special needs. You will need to resolve that before being able to consider mainstream. Otherwise, you will be called up very often and apologizing to other parents all the time. It won't be good for him either when he is viewed as a 'trouble maker'. He needs to learn to channel his frustration and energy into something else.

Summer tan, how old is your son? I agree with mashy that he must learn self-control - not to hit other kids or be disruptive as no mainstream school can have a child in class who hits others or regularly disrupts teaching. On the other hand, if your child is still a couple of years from Pr school, there will be time to teach and train him. Don't despair just because he is not ready yet, but do your best to get him to the level he needs to be.[/quote]He's five years old now. K1. If he has self control then he won't be ASD.

[nugget]

mashy:

Summer tan:

He doesn't know how to socialise. Hit friends and disrupt teaching.

I think in order to go mainstream, he must first stop hitting friends. Because no other parent will allow their kids to be hit repeatedly even if your child has special needs. You will need to resolve that before being able to consider mainstream. Otherwise, you will be called up very often and apologizing to other parents all the time. It won't be good for him either when he is viewed as a 'trouble maker'. He needs to learn to channel his frustration and energy into something else.

I seconded what Mashy say.

My son also doesnt socialize. But he is non disruptive. Kept to himself most of the time. Doesnt hit or talk to his friends even when they talk to him. The teachers in fact say he is a very very good boy.

In order for him to stay in mainstream, he first has to be non violent and non disruptive. Else its very hard for teachers to keep him.

[helplessmum3]

summer, even normal kids will act like your son. now.


for me the biggest challenge of ASD is their communication & comprehend skill.

have yr son got diagnosed already?

[nugget]

Summer tan:

Yes, I understand where the (good) cc are coming from. As much as I want to convince myself that my son is disruptive and adding stress to the teachers, I can't help but feel a tinge of sadness and anger in me.

Will my son be able to cope at the ICCP centre next mth on? Will the teachers be able to handle him? Will my son end up being rejected by peers and the centre? Will he end up not studying in a mainstream pri sch?
He's so vocal and smart I just don't know where to place him.

For him, I know I must stay positive I cannot give up.

Summer Tan,

I also felt the same as you. I am always angry that why my mainstream CC still stigmatize my son. My son basically go there, teachers wont bother to draw him back to teach him. He most of the time back to wandering around again. But then, I am still keeping him there cos I am working, no one else to look after him and most importantly, I want him to know and feel what the mainstream environment is like.

I think ICCP will be able to help your son. They are set up to manage special needs kids in the first place.

Is your son under any EIPIC or therapy yet? I am not too sure if ICCP have therapy sessions for your son. If they do, I am sure you will sure see improvement in your son's behaviour after he goes into ICCP.

[Summer tan]

nugget:

mashy:

[quote=\"Summer tan\"]He doesn't know how to socialise. Hit friends and disrupt teaching.

I think in order to go mainstream, he must first stop hitting friends. Because no other parent will allow their kids to be hit repeatedly even if your child has special needs. You will need to resolve that before being able to consider mainstream. Otherwise, you will be called up very often and apologizing to other parents all the time. It won't be good for him either when he is viewed as a 'trouble maker'. He needs to learn to channel his frustration and energy into something else.

I seconded what Mashy say.

My son also doesnt socialize. But he is non disruptive. Kept to himself most of the time. Doesnt hit or talk to his friends even when they talk to him. The teachers in fact say he is a very very good boy.

In order for him to stay in mainstream, he first has to be non violent and non disruptive. Else its very hard for teachers to keep him.[/quote]That's why I feel it's very unfair sometimes. A bright and vocal boy like my son cannot go mainstream. I cannot imagine him going to pathlight school when he speaks so well. It's not as if he wants to hit friends. Yes i also don't want my child to be hit repeatedly which I will definitely complain to teachers and even the principal. but my son just couldn't control his anger. He doesn't even remember he does that at times.

If I'm the parent who is defensive and protective of my son then I have nothing to say. But I have tried so many ways, so many schools, therapy. Why can't parents of normal and quieter kids understand what people like me are going through.

[Summer tan]

helplessmum3:

summer, even normal kids will act like your son. now.


for me the biggest challenge of ASD is their communication & comprehend skill.

have yr son got diagnosed already?

Yes PDD-NOS diagnosed by Zhang Guiyue from JMC CDU.

I just sat in the room and cried just now.