All About Autism

[wamin]

@helplessmum3, not sure what should be young age then? around late 20s?

I am not sure boys here in SG even can marry in that age, doing NS, getting certs, finding job. I think early 30s to mid 30s don’t seem very old.
@Nugget, i pray that your baby is alright.
I am hearing a lot about vaccination, but being here in SG can you dispute that you don’t want to have your kids vaccinated?

[mashy]

If u are looking for social skills board games, can try superduperinc.com.

[sharonkhoo]

helplessmum3:

Slmkhoo agreed .


Double e, my colleague's fren give birth after 35yo got ASD boy.

My fren also after 35 she got ASD girl.

So I thought these day ASD getting more due to late marriages .

To balance these cases, I have many friends who had kids in their 30s and had NT kids. I know of 1 who married in her late 30s and had kids around 40 and her kids are NT. I also know at least 1 couple who had an ASD kid in their 20s.

[ImMeeMee]

Lavina:

So should we send our child to schools which had/have more special needs children (but less resources per child) or less special needs children (but less experience teachers)?
:?

One school on the list told me that they have a higher ratio of ASD kids, and so they have a higher number of AEDs. So the equation of more kids to less AED resource or vice versa may not stand.

[ImMeeMee]

How and why a child gets ASD may be multi-factoral - genes, health conditions, condition of pregnancy, infancy etc.


Currently there is a very large study in the US that is looking into the risk factors of ASD as one of the objectives. Hopefully it will shed some light one day.

http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/seed.html

[ImMeeMee]

windie:

Can I consult any mummies who have sent their kids to Behavioral Mgt Classes before? If so, did you find it effective in reducing disruptive behavior in class?


Thanks in advance!

Windie, you may like to try ARC where there are scheduled workshops to coach parents on behaviour management.

[MummyOats]

wamin


Kudos to you being such a good daddy who is so hands-on

Just want to share what I heard from an ABA therapist regarding the 2 cases she has handled. I hope it can help you.

The first case is a high function ASD whose parents are rich. So all kinds of therapies are engaged, ABA, Glenn Doman, you name it. But end up the child did not turn out so well. He was still pretty ASD and became violent in later years.

Another boy is moderate function ASD and came from middle income family. Both parents are working. During ABA therapy, the mother will sit beside and learn. After that, she will work with the child after work. They also hired a good maid whose job is to play, talk with the child,etc. No housework, no cooking. Her job is simply to engage the child and make sure he does not slip back into his world. The child has turned out very well and is now in mainstream.

She thinks for the first case there was no follow-up after the therapies. That is, after the sessions, the child is left alone again. So his other waking hours he is back into his world. For the second case, the maid, constantly playing with the child, \"forces\" his antenna to be up.

If you read Temple Grandin, she recalls that apart from her speech therapies, she had a nanny who is always trying to play with her. Slowly she opened up and now she is the author of several books and teaches at the university.

ASD kids takes a long time to learn if they are just left alone. That is because by nature their \"antenna\" is down. Hence the caregivers need to facilitate (at least initially) and help them pull it up. Engagement is extremely important as their young brains are still developing. Which way the brain wires is dependant on which part of the brain gets exercised more (NT or ASD activities).

[wamin]

@MummyOats, thank you for sharing both stories.

We are not that rich who can afford a lot of therapies and both of us are working with no grandparents to look after kids :(.
I am thinking to reduce my day time working hour and push the work to night (maybe sleep less ;)) and bring kids home early to play with them. My both kids are fast picker my son can power on our piano and can choose different music type (guitar, piano and what not) and can play it (no tune though) and i never show him how to do it :). Using IPAD he have learn puzzles and my daughter learn counting 1-10 and ABC from IPAD. We do play with toys and i also give them time to play with IPAD. At times when i go fetch my wife i give them IPAD to stay engage while driving (but i am reducing that also but at times it keep them busy).
My son is bit hyper, maybe its boy thing but my daughter is not that hyper.

[wamin]

BTW don’t take it that my wife don’t want to participate, due to some financial commitments we cannot afford to lose jobs…

[ImMeeMee]

wamin:

BTW don't take it that my wife don't want to participate, due to some financial commitments we cannot afford to lose jobs..

:salute:

It takes a lot of courage for both husband and wife when it comes to have daddy stay home. My hubz always says that if only one parent were to work, it actually makes better sense for the wife to work cos she gets better tax reliefs and we would have better savings.