All About Autism

[ImMeeMee]

windie:

Can I consult any mummies who have sent their kids to Behavioral Mgt Classes before? If so, did you find it effective in reducing disruptive behavior in class?


Thanks in advance!

Windie, you may like to try ARC where there are scheduled workshops to coach parents on behaviour management.

[MummyOats]

wamin


Kudos to you being such a good daddy who is so hands-on

Just want to share what I heard from an ABA therapist regarding the 2 cases she has handled. I hope it can help you.

The first case is a high function ASD whose parents are rich. So all kinds of therapies are engaged, ABA, Glenn Doman, you name it. But end up the child did not turn out so well. He was still pretty ASD and became violent in later years.

Another boy is moderate function ASD and came from middle income family. Both parents are working. During ABA therapy, the mother will sit beside and learn. After that, she will work with the child after work. They also hired a good maid whose job is to play, talk with the child,etc. No housework, no cooking. Her job is simply to engage the child and make sure he does not slip back into his world. The child has turned out very well and is now in mainstream.

She thinks for the first case there was no follow-up after the therapies. That is, after the sessions, the child is left alone again. So his other waking hours he is back into his world. For the second case, the maid, constantly playing with the child, \"forces\" his antenna to be up.

If you read Temple Grandin, she recalls that apart from her speech therapies, she had a nanny who is always trying to play with her. Slowly she opened up and now she is the author of several books and teaches at the university.

ASD kids takes a long time to learn if they are just left alone. That is because by nature their \"antenna\" is down. Hence the caregivers need to facilitate (at least initially) and help them pull it up. Engagement is extremely important as their young brains are still developing. Which way the brain wires is dependant on which part of the brain gets exercised more (NT or ASD activities).

[wamin]

@MummyOats, thank you for sharing both stories.

We are not that rich who can afford a lot of therapies and both of us are working with no grandparents to look after kids :(.
I am thinking to reduce my day time working hour and push the work to night (maybe sleep less ;)) and bring kids home early to play with them. My both kids are fast picker my son can power on our piano and can choose different music type (guitar, piano and what not) and can play it (no tune though) and i never show him how to do it :). Using IPAD he have learn puzzles and my daughter learn counting 1-10 and ABC from IPAD. We do play with toys and i also give them time to play with IPAD. At times when i go fetch my wife i give them IPAD to stay engage while driving (but i am reducing that also but at times it keep them busy).
My son is bit hyper, maybe its boy thing but my daughter is not that hyper.

[wamin]

BTW don’t take it that my wife don’t want to participate, due to some financial commitments we cannot afford to lose jobs…

[ImMeeMee]

wamin:

BTW don't take it that my wife don't want to participate, due to some financial commitments we cannot afford to lose jobs..

:salute:

It takes a lot of courage for both husband and wife when it comes to have daddy stay home. My hubz always says that if only one parent were to work, it actually makes better sense for the wife to work cos she gets better tax reliefs and we would have better savings.

[jme]

nerov:

Hi JME, Where can we buy the New Beginnings Epsom Salt cream? Thanks

Hi sorry for late reply. You can get it from back to basic blk 88a telok blangah heights #01-01. Tel 62760872

[jme]

specialboymum:

jme:

Specialboymum,


New beginnings Epsom salts cream. It is paraben free

Thanks. Can't find this brand in shops here. I have place order directly from New Beginning website.

I ordered from nb website too cos more cost effective

[wamin]

ImMeeMee:

wamin:

BTW don't take it that my wife don't want to participate, due to some financial commitments we cannot afford to lose jobs..

:salute:

It takes a lot of courage for both husband and wife when it comes to have daddy stay home. My hubz always says that if only one parent were to work, it actually makes better sense for the wife to work cos she gets better tax reliefs and we would have better savings.

My wife at times ask me if i will be ever jealous if she start earning more money than me, and i always tell her i would be more than happy not only for her but for us. I don't know but i know she have what it take to be successful. BTW she is in-charge of every thing from buying kids stuff to hunting their school (she is very good at it).
Sorry too much :offtopic: .

[nugget]

ImMeeMee:

wamin:

BTW don't take it that my wife don't want to participate, due to some financial commitments we cannot afford to lose jobs..

:salute:

It takes a lot of courage for both husband and wife when it comes to have daddy stay home. My hubz always says that if only one parent were to work, it actually makes better sense for the wife to work cos she gets better tax reliefs and we would have better savings.

My Hb always say he wants to be a stay at home dad so I can claim all the relief too. Lol.

I am a full time working mum whom is constantly trying to juggle in between my 3 kids. Its pretty stressful and the constant guilt. Cos night time is so precious and sometimes is impossible to spend time with all 3. I am still doing my best for them.

[jme]

ImMeeMee:

Mummies


How much do you think about your child's future, and about how they will sustain themselves when parents are no longer with them?

Hi, I think you have posted similar question before n I believe it has been a constant worry on your mind. My greatest fear is what will happen to my 2 young children should mishap fall upon my husband n myself. I cannot bear the thought of leaving my babies behind. What will happen to them? Who is going to look after them? Will they be loved n well taken care of? I try not to think about it as my heart wrenches when I imagine them having a life without parents.

I got my husband to write a will with me. There will be guardian n co guardian. We even stated a second guardianship should first guardian n co guardian were no longer around. This is the most important n difficult decision. We had to decide who is the \"right\" person. Someone who can love my children as their own, who is willing to sacrifice their time n effort
to raise them, guide them. And this is even harder when it involves with a special need child.

I am also concern whether I will be able to leave substantial amount for the
guardians to look after my children without worrying for the cost n have my children living comfortably n that my son to continue with expensive therapies n diet. I am already grateful that they r willing to look after them n it is unfair to burden them on the finances.

Perhaps my child is different from most of the kids here. He is not hf. I am doing my best to help him and my goal is to improve his condition n that one day he is able to enter path light or mainstream. As for his future, it is just way too far to plan. I just want him to be happy.