All About Autism

[mashy]

helplessmum3:

Double E:

Helpless mum, why think so far ahead?

really far ah? i had a fall & quite bad, i wonder if i sudden in coma or die, my son how..

there on wards.. whenever i see my son, i feel so sorry for him.. so poor thing to born like this...

sorry, if i affect u again..

U won't even know what will happen tomorrow. And why so pessimistic? Maybe he will be able to lead a normal life in adulthood. Our world is how we view it. And what's so poor thing of him to be born like this? At least he has all his limbs, he can see, he can read, he can run, he can hear, he can talk. There are so many more suffering out there on oxygen tanks.

In fact, u are very lucky already.

Some families raise their children only for them to die before them through accidents or illness. Be thankful that you still have your son with you. I've seen some severely autistic kids and when I look back at mine, I'm really thankful. At least mine is verbal and doesn't roll on the floor when he throws tantrum. Be grateful.

[Double E]

Aiyo, mine sometimes will sit on the floor n kick. Or he will cry out loud n jump n jump. Till now I haven’t found n effective way to curb his tantrums. How to let him know that he can shout or cry loudly in public? Any tips?

[mashy]

Double E:

Aiyo, mine sometimes will sit on the floor n kick. Or he will cry out loud n jump n jump. Till now I haven't found n effective way to curb his tantrums. How to let him know that he can shout or cry loudly in public? Any tips?

Have u tried teaching him another way when he want to show his anger and frustrations? This could be the only way he knows how. My son recently did the lying down and throwing his fists like crazy in e air when we were at home. I sent him straight to time out. I'm glad he understood when I explained to him that it is not appropriate to do that when he is angry. Instead he should talk it out if he is angry. I told him that even when daddy and mummy are angry, we don't do that. Instead we talk it out. I think he kind of understood. So crossing my fingers.

[peapot]

Thanks everyone for the advice but I have spoken to her parents and they apologise many times and thank me for my understanding. But it still didn’t solve the prob. Although hitting my gal was not intentional and stem from the fact that she lacks control, I can’t fault her either. Her parents has talked to her but I think it didn’t help because it happen again and again.


I have no prob with my child mixing with her it’s the hitting part that I am not comfortable with. I mean who would like their child to be hit in school all the time? Whether intentional or not.

I m getting my gal to try hang out with other friends beside her. I think that is the only way for now.

[sweetbaby]

slmkhoo:

Why don't you wait till you are back to look for the various classes? It would probably be best to see for yourself. Also, your son will need some time to just get used to Singapore, so there is no hurry to start all these classes yet. Too many new things at once will be unsettling. Personally, since you already need to start school in Jan (presumably P1? sorry, I've forgotten), maybe you want to focus on that first.

Slmkhoo

Thank you for a reality check. I guess when I get worried, I over planned. Yup, planning for p1 2014. But I read in this thread about p1 readiness assessment? Is this compulsory? How to I go about this? Kkh?

[ImMeeMee]

helplessmum3:

really far ah? i had a fall & quite bad, i wonder if i sudden in coma or die, my son how..

there on wards.. whenever i see my son, i feel so sorry for him.. so poor thing to born like this...

sorry, if i affect u again..

helplessmum, sorry to hear that you had a fall and hope you yourself are OK.

There too are times when I wallow in self pity for my doter that she is born different from the majority. My DH will tell me 'what she doesn't know, she doesn't miss'. I think this carries a lot of truth. What matters most is for the child to be happy, and if the child is happy, he/she is really not poor thing at all.

Yesterday, while we were at the restaurant eating dinner, and while the waitress was refilling drinking water, out of the blue my ASD doter held up her glass, looked the lady in the eye and said 'Can I have some water?'. The waitress heard her loud and clear and refilled her water while smiling at her.

Where previously she was oblivious to such things, to know that she is beginning to be aware of what's happening around her, and that she is able to initiate a request by herself without prompting at all, really made our day and gave us so much joy.

I really believe that more good things will come as long as we keep to it.

Cheer up and keep going.

[mashy]

ImMeeMee:

Yesterday, while we were at the restaurant eating dinner, and while the waitress was refilling drinking water, out of the blue my ASD doter held up her glass, looked the lady in the eye and said 'Can I have some water?'. The waitress heard her loud and clear and refilled her water while smiling at her.

Where previously she was oblivious to such things, to know that she is beginning to be aware of what's happening around her, and that she is able to initiate a request by herself without prompting at all, really made our day and gave us so much joy.

I really believe that more good things will come as long as we keep to it.

Cheer up and keep going.

It's little things like this that cheers us on, doesn't it?

I'm also very happy when I saw my son initiating contact and even self introduced himself. I was really beaming with pride and tearing up.

We are our children's biggest cheerleaders and beacon of light. If the light goes off, then they will be lost. So we should always try to keep shining for them.

Cheers!

[ImMeeMee]

mashy:

It's little things like this that cheers us on, doesn't it?

I'm also very happy when I saw my son initiating contact and even self introduced himself. I was really beaming with pride and tearing up.

We are our children's biggest cheerleaders and beacon of light. If the light goes off, then they will be lost. So we should always try to keep shining for them.

Cheers!

yes, they do.

My next aim is to get her to know how to play simple games with her peers. So I am teaching her a lot of turn taking and some simple games. I am hopeful that when she grows up her social skills will improve.

[helplessmum3]

Imeemee,


Thanks Im better now…

Yr girl is fantastic … Way to go…u are a great mother.

[Summer tan]

Hi, any recommendation of a dietitian or nutritionist in singapore that is not too costly? I’m thinking of changing my son’s diet, giving him supplements. I’ve read from different sources about certain supplements including fish oil, zinc etc but am worried that I give my child the wrong dosage.


Since I’m here, may I know if cod liver oil or fish oil is more effective? Which brand do you recommend? GNC sells child life cod liver oil but it’s $55 whereas online store is selling at around $30 after shipping charges.

By the way, someone asked what is DSP, it refers to Development Support Programme. Sorry for the late reply…