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    • N Offline
      nugget
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      slmkhoo:
      helplessmum3:

      Mummies , how will u react if someone come n ask u this \" is your kid austistic ? \"


      This person do not have any kids herself that is ASD ..

      If the person is well-meaning and not just being nosy or nasty, I would say \"what makes you ask that?\", and take it from there. That has happened to me before - it was a good friend who is a teacher and learned about ASD in her studies. If the person intends to alert me or sympathise or offer advice, I won't be offended.

      My son attend EIPIC and mainstream CC in alternate mornings. Some parents did ask me before \"is your child attending a 2nd kindergarden on top of this childcare?\" I told them nope, he is attending EIPIC cos he is autistic.

      I don't feel ashamed nor offended. Autism is a condition. If we are ashamed of our kids, how will they stand tall in front of other people next time?

      I decided to be open about it because there was once, another parent whose kids are in the same class as my son ask me why he is attending another school as well. I told her he is a bit speech delay... then she goes \"oh its okay one lar. not autistic right???\" I told her \"yes, he is also a bit autistic as well\". I can tell the mother is a bit awkward and embarrass by it. I felt bad. Why do I want to dodge the question in the first place?? Even though I don't need to announce to the whole world my son has ASD, but I also no need to hide it .. cos I think for my son, his condition at his age now is quite obvious esp when he starts to talk.

      I dun feel inferior or ashamed of my son's condition. He is just different but NOT less. That is what I been telling myself.

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        braverymom
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        Dear nugget,

        You have not meet such parent like that, when you tell them your child is ASD, they immediately go to the school and request to change class/ withdraw their child from the center, because they don’t want their child to pick up bad behavior from ASD child! Guess what, that mother is a pre school teacher!

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          helplessmum3
          last edited by

          Are ASD child that obvious to others ?!

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            nugget
            last edited by

            braverymom:
            Dear nugget,

            You have not meet such parent like that, when you tell them your child is ASD, they immediately go to the school and request to change class/ withdraw their child from the center, because they don't want their child to pick up bad behavior from ASD child! Guess what, that mother is a pre school teacher!
            Braverymom,

            If I were in that situation, I will be offended but I won't care less cos there is nothing I can do. As long as she don't request my kid to get out of that school. Its for the school to handle that parent.

            My child is mild enough that's why they allowed him to be enrolled. If they want me to withdraw, they got to give me a very very good reason.

            We got to deal with many people, not everyone is understanding.. Sometimes we got to bear with unpleasant remarks and we need to be thick skin enough to deal with it..

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              helplessmum3
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              Nugget , yr son is in K1?

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                sharonkhoo
                last edited by

                braverymom:
                Dear nugget,

                You have not meet such parent like that, when you tell them your child is ASD, they immediately go to the school and request to change class/ withdraw their child from the center, because they don't want their child to pick up bad behavior from ASD child! Guess what, that mother is a pre school teacher!
                Such people are not worth getting upset about. It's their loss if they want to shut themselves off from a wider range of people and experiences. Actually, this happened to me when I was a child - I transferred into an English-medium school from a Chinese-medium school (this was in 1973, when there were still Chinese stream schools) in mid-Pr school, and one of the girls asked the teacher to move her seat away from me because her parents were afraid that I would affect her English adversely. What they didn't know was that I had changed school because my Chinese was atrocious as I had lived in the UK, and my parents had finally given up the idea of keeping me in a Chinese school!

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                  sharonkhoo
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                  helplessmum3:
                  Are ASD child that obvious to others ?!

                  It depends on the severity of the traits. Some will be so obvious to anyone, but some only to those who are more aware. Now that I have an Asperger's girl, I can recognise it in others quite easily. I would say that a lot of people just think that my daughter is odd or strange without knowing what name to put to it.

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                    Coolkidsrock2
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                    Sometimes, NT kids who are not disciplined by the parents behave worse than kids with mild symptoms.

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                      MelodyMelody
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                      Dear mummies,


                      I am trying to find a shadow teacher for preschooler - kindergarten level.
                      Would anybody know of any good shadow teachers who are available in the north east area? Please advise of their rate (salary) for 5 day basis (4 hours a day) if you have the information.

                      I cannot seem to get anything from the internet, except that I remember that ST published it costs $3000 a month to hire a shadow teacher for primary school kid.

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                        Coolkidsrock2
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                        My friend’s daughter’s therapist does it but not on a full time basis like what was reported in the ST. She would be there for a period to understand the school’s environment and her behaviour. Based on this, she will advise the parents.


                        In DD’s primary school, some parents volunteer with the school so that they are at hand if needed.

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