All About Autism
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nugget:
My boy gets very upset to see a \"X\" (cross) on his worksheets. Wants me to erase away. I think he has some ego issues to deal with. Its okay to make mistake.. But I dun want to brush it off like its no big deal.. then it might have a adverse effect..worse if he start to anyhow do everything wrongly cos mummy say \"its okay to make mistakes\". I havent thought of how is the best to bring it across.
Maybe you need to expand on your statement? I tell my kids \"mistakes are OK if they help you learn something from them\". I feel that takes away the 'disgrace' (I think some kids feel it that way) and puts the focus back on learning. I also try not to correct mistakes I see as my kids are working. When they were young, I would tell them to show me their work at a stated interval - after 5 questions, after 10 lines or whatever - then point out their errors then. Rather make an X on the mistake, I will circle or underline - somehow it looks better! You can try using a colour other than red too. -
nugget:
NuggetImMeeMee,
Just to share, I have recently attended a course at pathlight. I met this parent whose dd is already P4 there. She lives in Jurong (if I recalled correctly).
SHe told me she first put her dd into mainstream too.. But shortly after, her dd get bullied and was crying. She in the end sign up for pathlight.
She said pathlight helped her dd a lot. Its a very good school. Class room size is about 20 students but will have at least 2-4 teachers helping out.
Some are assistance teachers, some are special needs teachers to help to deal with sensory etc issues. Her dd is very well supported.
During the break, I went to the canteen and toilets.. I like the school environment too. There are lots of signs and picture display everywhere to help the students.
They are also very high tech. Teachers are using iMacs and IPads to conduct their lessons. I am super impressed.
If my son really cant adapt into mainstream. I will enroll him for pathlight next year.
Actually I feel our kids can adapt in mainstream better if there are no bullies around although I know it is impossible. Even NT kids, the more timid ones will be bullied. I was bullied in school before so that feeling really sucks! I can't imagine how heartache I will be if my son comes crying to me next time. I am also planning for him to go mainstream, hope I made the right decision too. -
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My older daughter is also Asperger's, and she had the same problem! How we coped was that we told her that she should go to the toilet before classes started, during recess, and after school. That way, she didn't need to ask for permission. As for not asking for help, I don't really know how to advise because my daughter is still that way, and she's 16yo! Some teachers were more watchful and would keep an eye on her and ask her if she needed help. If not, I would check with her when she came home. As she got older, she learned to cope more by herself and may even ask for help sometimes, but it's still mainly in response to my questions.Hi mummies (and daddies, if any)
Need some advice. My son's going to Pri 1 next year, and his therapist says I need to work on some issues with him. He's diagnosed with Aspergers. The most pressing issue now is that he won't open his mouth to ask for help, or to ask to go toilet etc during class. His kindy is only 3 hrs long so he will go toilet at home before class, and when he comes home after class - but primary school is gonna be a lot longer and I'm sure he won't be able to hold it in. I've tried speaking to him about it, and he promises me that he will ask the teacher for permission when he needs to go.. but so far he hasnt. In fact he has wet his pants twice during therapy because he refused to ask to go toilet. Same thing about refusing to ask for help.. he'll dawdle over the work until his teacher/therapist notices and comes over to help. Was wondering if anyone has any ideas how I can help him along? Thank you! -
nugget:
nugget, thanks for sharing. School screening will only take place during the last quarter of the year, so now can only wait. Actually it would be good to know outcome sooner, so that I can plan early for next year. Hopefully she can get in and I can start to consolidate a few things. Now she goes to two schools daily and the ferrying plus everything else is taking a toil on me. :sad:ImMeeMee,
Just to share, I have recently attended a course at pathlight. I met this parent whose dd is already P4 there. She lives in Jurong (if I recalled correctly).
SHe told me she first put her dd into mainstream too.. But shortly after, her dd get bullied and was crying. She in the end sign up for pathlight.
She said pathlight helped her dd a lot. Its a very good school. Class room size is about 20 students but will have at least 2-4 teachers helping out.
Some are assistance teachers, some are special needs teachers to help to deal with sensory etc issues. Her dd is very well supported.
During the break, I went to the canteen and toilets.. I like the school environment too. There are lots of signs and picture display everywhere to help the students.
They are also very high tech. Teachers are using iMacs and IPads to conduct their lessons. I am super impressed.
If my son really cant adapt into mainstream. I will enroll him for pathlight next year. -
slmkhoo:
Slmkhoo,
Maybe you need to expand on your statement? I tell my kids \"mistakes are OK if they help you learn something from them\". I feel that takes away the 'disgrace' (I think some kids feel it that way) and puts the focus back on learning. I also try not to correct mistakes I see as my kids are working. When they were young, I would tell them to show me their work at a stated interval - after 5 questions, after 10 lines or whatever - then point out their errors then. Rather make an X on the mistake, I will circle or underline - somehow it looks better! You can try using a colour other than red too.
I think you are right. Using Circle might be better than putting a cross. Will tell him mistakes are okay if he learn from it and don't make the same mistake next time. Also will tell him is also okay to say don't know.
Working independently is something I am working on right now with him. -
ImMeeMee:
BTW, forgot to mention that MOE and KKH have just organized a talk on mainstream schooling for parents with age-appropriate special needs children. The first run has just gone by and I think there is a second run coming up soon. Do check it out with CDU.
ImMeeMee,
Did you attend the talk? The one they sent me is on special school options in Singapore for kids enrolling into primary 1. -
slmkhoo:
Thanks slmkhoo! Your daughter goes to mainstream school yes? Did you contact the teachers or AEDs before she started school, to explain her condition and what they should expect?
My older daughter is also Asperger's, and she had the same problem! How we coped was that we told her that she should go to the toilet before classes started, during recess, and after school. That way, she didn't need to ask for permission. As for not asking for help, I don't really know how to advise because my daughter is still that way, and she's 16yo! Some teachers were more watchful and would keep an eye on her and ask her if she needed help. If not, I would check with her when she came home. As she got older, she learned to cope more by herself and may even ask for help sometimes, but it's still mainly in response to my questions. -
nugget:
yes, I attended the one on mainstream schooling. But I didnt receive any invite on talk relating to special school. :scratchhead:
ImMeeMee,
Did you attend the talk? The one they sent me is on special school options in Singapore for kids enrolling into primary 1. -
ImMeeMee:
ImMeeMee,
yes, I attended the one on mainstream schooling. But I didnt receive any invite on talk relating to special school. :scratchhead:nugget:
ImMeeMee,
Did you attend the talk? The one they sent me is on special school options in Singapore for kids enrolling into primary 1.
Can share what they cover in the talk?
Hb and I remembered the one they invited us is for seeing what options are there for special need kids. How ready are they, what kind of sped schools available? Cos since we are not putting into sped school, so we didnt attend.
If I received the one on mainstream schooling, I would have attended. -
Double E:
Nugget
Actually I feel our kids can adapt in mainstream better if there are no bullies around although I know it is impossible. Even NT kids, the more timid ones will be bullied. I was bullied in school before so that feeling really sucks! I can't imagine how heartache I will be if my son comes crying to me next time. I am also planning for him to go mainstream, hope I made the right decision too.
Double E,
I really hope so. I am crossing my fingers and toes... :xedfingers:
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