All About Autism

[sembgal]

happyheart:

sembgal:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]Sembal. So u are a educator ?

I would say I have friends who are educators in mainstream as well as preschools.

Sembgal, having friends who are educators in mainstream is not the same as understanding what these mothers are facing on a daily basis. E.g I can read many books on Autism, but I may never really understand their situation and emotions. Pardon, but have your educator friends been painting biased pictures of these group of kids? Unless you are faced with the challenges yourself, I do not think your comments are very sensitive. My DS has classmates who are normal ( sorry, no offend to anyone but just to illustrate) have been consistently creating real problems for teachers and others. DS has also been a victim. Can we say just because they are not labelled special, the same behaviours give them more rights than special needs kids to be in the mainstream?
It is true that not all families have the means to go for special needs education, and btw who wouldn't want it if financial is not an issue. We understand you have a voice and you want it to be heard, but perhaps this is not the right thread because you are addressing parents with real kids, real challenges.[/quote]I agree that there are normal typical children who behaves beyond the control of the teachers in the classroom. However, the strategies used to manage normal typical children and children of special needs are entirely different.

As I have mentioned, I have encountered children with special needs before and the ones who improved greatly have parents who are truly receptive of the feedbacks provided. Having to deal with defensive parents is harder than dealing with children of special needs. I empathise with special needs children. But not defensive parents.

I have shared my views in the hope that parents with special needs children, eg: ASD, can be receptive to feedbacks from others whom are working closely with your children in normal stream

[sembgal]

This is a recent article and have you read it?


http://www.medpagetoday.com/Neurology/Autism/37987

[helplessmum3]

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I have a soft spot for these special needs kids. My staff were initially unwilling to accept any of such kids but I told them to open their minds and hearts. And over time, these staff told me, they feel the greatest sense of achievements whenever they see any of these kids make even the slightest progress.

Every kid is special but these kids are more so.

May God bless u n your family n to your teachers n their family too.

Pls stay strong n healthy forever .. We need u n yr team ..

Too bad not all educators are like u

[helplessmum3]

sembgal:

This is a recent article and have you read it?


http://www.medpagetoday.com/Neurology/Autism/37987

No helping at all...

Share something that show help ..

Hey base on what the parents do or say that make u think they are not receptive ? Example pls ...

[helplessmum3]

happyheart:

sembgal:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]Sembal. So u are a educator ?

I would say I have friends who are educators in mainstream as well as preschools.

Sembgal, having friends who are educators in mainstream is not the same as understanding what these mothers are facing on a daily basis. E.g I can read many books on Autism, but I may never really understand their situation and emotions. Pardon, but have your educator friends been painting biased pictures of these group of kids? Unless you are faced with the challenges yourself, I do not think your comments are very sensitive. My DS has classmates who are normal ( sorry, no offend to anyone but just to illustrate) have been consistently creating real problems for teachers and others. DS has also been a victim. Can we say just because they are not labelled special, the same behaviours give them more rights than special needs kids to be in the mainstream?
It is true that not all families have the means to go for special needs education, and btw who wouldn't want it if financial is not an issue. We understand you have a voice and you want it to be heard, but perhaps this is not the right thread because you are addressing parents with real kids, real challenges.[/quote]Very true

[ImMeeMee]

While I was fetching my doter from her EIPIC school, a grandmother whom I know was waiting for her ASD granddaughter too.


When the kids came out of class, the grandmother handed her granddaughter a cup of cut fruits. Maybe the g’daughter was not looking or maybe she was careless, she dropped the cup of fruits on the floor.

The grandmother was greatly annoyed, and scolded the girl loudly ‘没有用，真的是没有用’. She did that a couple of times. The poor 6yo gal was equally upset and I saw her hiding her face. The EIPIC teacher was kind enough to intervene and gently asked the gal to apologize to her Ah Ma, which she did, and that ended the episode.

On my way home, I kept thinking about the girl and the impact of the g’mother’s words and actions to her. Really, I felt bad for her. Granted, old folks are old folks and the way they discipline kids and their knowledge of disciplining kids is quite different from new-age parents. Maybe it could also be that the old g’mother was frustrated or tired and could not hold her temper.

Whatever the cause, its a good reminder to parents and caregivers, whether to ASD children or otherwise, to be careful not to damage a child’s self-esteem in our interactions with them. Certain things once done cannot be undone.

[nugget]

I agreed with ImMeeMee,


I also feel my son, even though autistic, also dun like to be reprimanded and also need a lot of praises and assurance. No different from other kids.

He also will feel jealous and wants our attention. And being the oldest, he loves to boss his two younger siblings around.

ASD kids are as sensitive as normal kids.

[helplessmum3]

Imeemee.


I’m as guilty as grandmother …

I shout at my son very often n I also use words like "shut up"""

[ImMeeMee]

nugget:

I agreed with ImMeeMee,


I also feel my son, even though autistic, also dun like to be reprimanded and also need a lot of praises and assurance. No different from other kids.

He also will feel jealous and wants our attention. And being the oldest, he loves to boss his two younger siblings around.

ASD kids are as sensitive as normal kids.

nugget, its a good sign that he feels jealousy.

My doter recently feels upset at times when she sees her two sisters going to school in the early morning without her. She will say she wants to go to the school too and that she wants to wear the school name tag.

Since our application to school next year is not fixed yet, I cant talk to her about looking forward to new school at this point. :sad:

She's at the stage where she needs some managing of self-esteem now, so I do find it a bit tricky.

[helplessmum3]

Imeemee… Nuget .


My son too will get jealous when I carry other baby