All About Autism

[nugget]

ImMeeMee.


My son feels like he has privilege cos he is oldest. he is quite egoistic and bossy.

Maybe let your doter take care of certain things and give lots of praise. It might help to boost self esteem.

Like my son now likes to help all of us refilled our water and water bottles. He feel very good when he did a good job.

[ImMeeMee]

helplessmum3:

Imeemee.


I'm as guilty as grandmother ...

I shout at my son very often n I also use words like \"shut up\"\"\"

helplessmum, try to control your temper. Your son is a bright child and the last thing you want is to push him the other way.

[ImMeeMee]

nugget:

ImMeeMee.


My son feels like he has privilege cos he is oldest. he is quite egoistic and bossy.

Maybe let your doter take care of certain things and give lots of praise. It might help to boost self esteem.

Like my son now likes to help all of us refilled our water and water bottles. He feel very good when he did a good job.

My doter is not into things like that ... she likes intellectual stimulation and enjoys praises in this area. Now she is telling me she wants to do school work like her two jie jie ... :yikes:

[nugget]

ImMeeMee:

My doter is not into things like that ... she likes intellectual stimulation and enjoys praises in this area. Now she is telling me she wants to do school work like her two jie jie ... :yikes:

ImMeeMee,

Thats very good. My son doesnt like to do homework at all. I stress hahaha. He likes to do housework! :rotflmao:

[helplessmum3]

ImMeeMee:

helplessmum3:

Imeemee.


I'm as guilty as grandmother ...

I shout at my son very often n I also use words like \"shut up\"\"\"

helplessmum, try to control your temper. Your son is a bright child and the last thing you want is to push him the other way.

Imeemee.

How do u control at the spark of moment ...

I feel Sooo guilty after math

[ImMeeMee]

helplessmum3:

Imeemee.

How do u control at the spark of moment ...

I feel Sooo guilty after math

Helplessmum, its true that its difficult to control at the point.

For me, I feel guilty after every flare up, and I will reflect on what I can do better next time round.

At the next instance when there is a trigger, I find that I am able to hold slightly better. But there are times when I slip too. When it gets slightly better every time, after many times, the improvement becomes significant.

It doesn't come overnight, but if you keep at it, it becomes better.

[helplessmum3]

ImMeeMee:

helplessmum3:

Imeemee.

How do u control at the spark of moment ...

I feel Sooo guilty after math

Helplessmum, its true that its difficult to control at the point.

For me, I feel guilty after every flare up, and I will reflect on what I can do better next time round.

At the next instance when there is a trigger, I find that I am able to hold slightly better. But there are times when I slip too. When it gets slightly better every time, after many times, the improvement becomes significant.

It doesn't come overnight, but if you keep at it, it becomes better.

Thanks imeemee I wil definitely try w u can manage I will able to try too

[sharonkhoo]

helplessmum3:

ImMeeMee:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]Imeemee.


I'm as guilty as grandmother ...

I shout at my son very often n I also use words like \"shut up\"\"\"

helplessmum, try to control your temper. Your son is a bright child and the last thing you want is to push him the other way.

Imeemee.

How do u control at the spark of moment ...

I feel Sooo guilty after math :([/quote]It's not just controlling yourself, but it's good to find an alternative reaction. Can you identify what triggers you to shout, and then find another way to handle your son? For me, I used to shout a lot, then trained myself to take a couple of deep breaths, look my daughter in the eye and tell her firmly to stop whatever it was she was doing to annoy me. If she didn't, I would then tell her what the penalty would be (mostly time out), give the instruction again, then impose the penalty if she didn't stop. I ran those scenarios over and over again in my mind to 'train' myself (like social stories!) so that I would be able to carry it out the next time. Maybe you can try this.

[helplessmum3]

Slmkhoo…

Ok I will try the deep breathing n repeat n repeat …

I totally salute u n imeemee…

[sembgal]

helplessmum3:

sembgal:

This is a recent article and have you read it?


http://www.medpagetoday.com/Neurology/Autism/37987

No helping at all...

Share something that show help ..

Hey base on what the parents do or say that make u think they are not receptive ? Example pls ...

Example like I say something about the child regarding progress, the defensive parent will defend back like some of you people out there defend yourself or your children like that. It ended up I gave up speaking to the parent. The child is so adorable but the parent is refusing to accept constructive feedback. Nevertheless, patience works. My endurance and patience has surpassed my imagination. Just have to tell myself, don't have too high expectation on the child. 一步一步来。