All About Autism
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hi Tamama
My son is coming to 5yo soon n in full day iccp. He is moderate asd but has improved quite a bit from the help from school teachers n biomed. I am hoping that he can enrol into pathlight 2 years down the road which means more therapies r needed during this period. I am still contemplating whether to withdraw him out from private iccp ( high school fees ) n put him in a normal kindy. N we would have more money n time to do 1-1 session with him.
But I am worried. I am working n my girl just started P1. If I decide to withdraw my son n to put him in normal kindy n do more therapies, I might not be able to cope. He will have to adjust to new environment, new teachers n therapists all at the same time. If the kindy rejects him after awhile, then i will be facing same issue as u too. Alot of rescheduling for everyone. I also afraid it might do more harm than good to him. So am in dilemma.
Btw may I know what is full time therapies? -
Watch channel 5 now. Very touching mum w ADHD boy, she try to commit suicide 5 times
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Watch channel 5 now. Very touching mum w ADHD boy, she try to commit suicide 5 times
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Watch channel 5 now. Very touching mum w ADHD boy, she try to commit suicide 5 times
Thanks so much imeemee. I
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Sorry mummies I miss ur post reply there not email prompt until I come in again…
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Hi jme,
New environment, new teachers and new routine are really stressing to my boy. Children with autism needs more time for adjustment but most teachers just expect the same from the NT kids. And most of them are just picky on what he cannot do but neglecting what he can do. That makes me hurt and puzzled. I just wish the teachers in this kindy can be more patient… These few days I have some many butterflies in my stomach… Feel so bad.
My boy has gone through two years of ABA plus special preschool (only for ASD kids) plus weekly social skill training class. We did not continue him on normal kindy cos we realize that therapy is more important for him. And as two years ago he still needed his nap in the afternoon so no time for afternoon kindy. I did homeschooling for him.
This year, as planned to be the last year before he enroll into pathlight (we sent the application form already, waiting for their reply) next year, we decide to let him try to go back to a typical kindy so that he can learn social cues and play with typical kids. In the afternoon he will also have the ABA therapy three times a week.
Like you, we have another older girl who is p4 this year. She has her enrichment schedule. I begged hard last time to switch his ABA sessions from am to pm. And also move some of my girls enrichment schedule to let my boy goes to am kindy everyday. I am so anxious that the school may just kick us out. But I have decided to stay communicate with the teachers everyday! I feel I need to. I also teach my boy to stop his misbehavior by drawing pictures to show him what should he do in the school. He responds to me pretty well and I hope he will remember our teachings tmr.
When your boy is still young, try to get more training for him. -
Hugz Tamama
Sorry to hear of your kindy woes. Unfortunately most kindys are still privatised so you can't force them to take in your kid. PSC kindys do take but the class ratio is extremely large so I wouldn't recommend it also. I went though the whole shebang 3 yrs ago and was also angry and depressed at the rejections. However take heart that you will pull through with time and look back that this period which made you stronger.
In the meantime, suggest you set up an appointment with the principal ASAP to discuss the problems and concerns. Don't dwell on the what ifs and get yourself anxious. It's only been 3 days also, give it a week. If it doesn't work out, return to your child's previous school as the worse case scenario or try other special needs schools. Child not ready cannot force.
Always focus on the end game which is your child's wellbeing. Try and shrug off the rest of the negativity.
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TamAma.
I feel for u…
I’m a single mom, single income , maid no mother(granny) or MIL to help out or fall back …
I work from 9 to 6, fetch my son by 7pm , pack dinner , bath my son eat dinner , wash dishes n already 1030, pack son next day school bag…
This are my daily bz routine.
Weekend I do house work n do laundry …
My salary is just enough to meet dead end n pay son full day childcare…bank almost zero Every month .
I got noting left for private therapy…
I already myself is a therapist as always learn tactics from mummies here …
My son school stil don’t know about my son condition …
School 100% will reject when I tell them the true… So I give up telling.
Thankfully my son don’t have behavior n sensory issue for now. He plays w kids , listen to instructions , see friends do what he do what , peer imitations … Follow routine in school well . The only issue is he communication…
He know how to go toilet himself n request what he want from teachers …motor imitation is better now…
Most importantly kids must have enough rest to optimal their potential …
A lot of therapist n not enough rest they can’t absorb …
He use to go rainbow but always very drowsy n sleepy n tired because he did not nap properly … As rainbow is v constrain for their classes schedule n it’s barely 2hrs for all the trouble to there no choice n that’s their constraints …
Rainbow is good for those kids who have maid or other family member to help when the main care giver is at work…
I have feedback to them already they understand but too bad that’s how they can manage now … -
Tamama
I agree with belachanbabe that since it is only the third day, give yourself more time. Continue to communicate more with school as what u have been doing. Perhaps things are not as bad as u thought it is. Sincerely hope that your son will be accepted by path light
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Tamama
During the time when my doter was 5 yo, I took one year to look for a mainstream cc for her. At that time, I wanted my doter to have some interactions with the NT peers and learn some social skills.
It was a tough year. Call after call. Visit after visit. its either rejection, no vacancies, fees were exorbitantly high, or just something which didnt fit right. So much so that one day I penned this while tearing in the MRT train.
天地之大，竟无我容身之处
It truly reflected my despair at that point of time. After a year of much pain, we finally found one center for her. One the first day of my doter going to the center, I followed her and saw that she was able to adapt well. So I penned this.
寻寻觅觅，终于有了着落。一整年的心血，总算没有白费。心存感激和欣慰。
It was a true reflection of my relief and gratefulness at that time.
Just wanted to share my ups and downs during that period. It may look like there is no light at the end of the tunnel now, but it will come to pass. In the midst of all this unknown, always remember that you are part of the equation as well. If you feel despair, vent it out, find a shoulder to cry on, fall back on your spouse or family, do something to clear your mind. Take a short break and find your own compass.
When you have a higher energy level you may find that you will have a more positive perspective. All the best. :hugs:
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