All About Autism

[tyeogh]

I now recall how my NT kids fared in P1. The eldest fell sick within a week. She could not adjust to the longer hours. The second one kept wetting her panties. She could not control it. A few times throughout the year. My third did not know how to buy food for months even though he was taught how to by the buddy system. He once came back with someone else’s shoes. Such should be common. Anything that can screw up will screw up. Messy bag, missing items, someone else’s items etc


NT does not mean super. Aspie does not mean lacking. Just perhaps a little slower. They both take time to learn, and the teachers are trained for it, imho.

[tyeogh]

Niu2009:

I remembered some parents mentioned St Andew, is it a good school with AED support?

Should be me ba. Can't tell you whether good school or not. My 3rd is in P2 there. They have 2 Allied Educators for Sped. My interactions with the AE were limited.

What I can say is compared to my daughters' primary school, St Andrews is super laid back. Play play school. They have a No More Than 1 Hour homework policy. I never saw my boy do any homework in P1. Seldom see him do 15 mins homework in P2.

Their focus is on Asthetics. Character development, sports, games, upbringing. Every other day is just P.E., games day, carnival. Everyday like having fun. You will never find St Andrews in the top 30 PSLE scorers. Suits me I suppose?

[sharonkhoo]

mashy:

Gifts from Heaven:

Actually, I find that pre-school teachers are more demanding and expect a lot from the kids, esp the K2 ones.

I agree! In terms of the school work expected of them and their behaviour. I find my boy enjoyed primary school much more and improved a lot in primary school.

It could be the age, it could be the environment. I think primary school definitely benefited mine.

Same here. My daughter was in a kindy that had a lot of play and hands-on stuff , but she found the noise level and freedom quite bewildering and tended to withdraw. We didn't realise this until she went to P1, then she did much better in the quieter and more structured environment.

[mashy]

tyeogh:

I now recall how my NT kids fared in P1. The eldest fell sick within a week. She could not adjust to the longer hours. The second one kept wetting her panties. She could not control it. A few times throughout the year. My third did not know how to buy food for months even though he was taught how to by the buddy system. He once came back with someone else's shoes. Such should be common. Anything that can screw up will screw up. Messy bag, missing items, someone else's items etc


NT does not mean super. Aspie does not mean lacking. Just perhaps a little slower. They both take time to learn, and the teachers are trained for it, imho.

Yes! My son came back wearing the bully's tattered and torn shoes which were much bigger than his! I forgot to label his shoes. The bully told him those were his and my boy gong gong wore the oversized lousy shoes. It was only when I saw how come his shoes are so big and worn when I just bought it that I found out. His parents still dare to say the dad just bought for him. They even washed the shoes coz my son accidentally splattered some paint on it. The bully had feet so much bigger than my son's and I can't believe that his parents will lie for him. He was already suspended for stealing from the bookshop and the parents thought it was an over reaction from the school.

So, remember, label the shoes. Write on the underside of the shoe cushion.

[alphatoomega]

slmkhoo:

tyeogh:

I learnt a lesson. Do not belittle our aspie children. Just let go.

I've learnt that too. It may take a bit more prep (that's what I find comparing my kids), and can be a lot more nerve-wracking, but they can usually do it. They may get messed up more often, or take longer to figure things out, but they can generally manage if we let them.

Indeed, most of the times, it is us, as parents and adults, that box and limit the potential of a child because of our misconceptions and mindsets. Expand our minds and watch them fly.

[sharonkhoo]

alphatoomega:

slmkhoo:

[quote=\"tyeogh\"]I learnt a lesson. Do not belittle our aspie children. Just let go.

I've learnt that too. It may take a bit more prep (that's what I find comparing my kids), and can be a lot more nerve-wracking, but they can usually do it. They may get messed up more often, or take longer to figure things out, but they can generally manage if we let them.

Indeed, most of the times, it is us, as parents and adults, that box and limit the potential of a child because of our misconceptions and mindsets. Expand our minds and watch them fly.[/quote]On the other hand, there's a fine line to tread. If we let them go too soon or without sufficient prep and safeguards, they are likely to crash and burn.

[tyeogh]

Let them crash and burn. Watch closely from behind. Intervene if they really can’t get up. It’s better than not letting them try. I have crashed and burnt my entire life. In fact, I am still crashing and burning as I type this now…

[Snow24]

Hi


Does anyone know when our child go national service would the Mindef take into consideration their special needs? When assigning vocation for them.

[Double E]

Snow24:

Hi


Does anyone know when our child go national service would the Mindef take into consideration their special needs? When assigning vocation for them.

Snow24,
You are thinking so far far ahead!.
From what I know, ASD kids can be exempted from NS if we want to. And of course, if we want our kids to serve NS, I am quite sure Mindef will assign them simple tasks, they prob will not trust them with rifles and granite!

[mashy]

Wow, isn’t that too far away?


I’ve read about an autistic NSman’s account that it can’t be exempted. I think it will probably depends on how severe the condition is. If able to go mainstream and Pathlight, then unlikely to be exempted.