All About Autism

[Snow24]

Hi


Can anyone share tips on how to soothe or calm a two years old down in term of emotion regulations.

What did you do to train the child to be able to sit and focus longer.

[Angelique]

Snow24:

Hi slmkhoo


Yes the youngest one who is 2 years old. He ok with soup on rice with potatoes and carrots. But don't like beans eg black bean, baked bean. He also don't like soft food eg tofu, steam fish ball.For meat only minced pork.

My child is very very fussy.... he likes dry/crunch stuff too.
He eats silver fish from restaurants but must ask not to add chilli!!
Try Korean seaweed packs as they don't contain MSG .. my son like them a lot. He also eats breaded praw, pork cutlet - Japanese style.

He didn't eat any fruit until 1 year ago, now he eats strawberries and apple, nothing else - he hates banana!
Strangely now his eating boiled egg for some reason ...?
Good luck! :rahrah:

[Snow24]

Hi Angelique


Thanks for sharing.

Exactly my toddler like the breadcrumb chicken fillet. But he don’t like pork cutlet as too hard for him.

If he don’t like the dishes he can just eat plain rice omg.

Now facing feeding issue. I don’t know how to get him to sit down and eat by himself without having toys on the table.

The challenge is getting him to sit down longer duration and to self feed himself. He only doing 2-3 scooping by himself after that he walked away.

[sharonkhoo]

Snow24:

Now facing feeding issue. I don't know how to get him to sit down and eat by himself without having toys on the table.


The challenge is getting him to sit down longer duration and to self feed himself. He only doing 2-3 scooping by himself after that he walked away.

Do you eat with him? And has he always been allowed to play and walk away? Habits, once built, take longer to break. Start small - eat your meal alongside him, and encourage him to eat enough before walking away. Let him use fingers if a spoon is too difficult to manage, and you can spoon some of the food into him along the way. Don't allow toys or TV. But make clear to him that once he leaves the table, the meal is over for him, and don't let him eat anything else until the next meal. He will not starve if he eats less for a few meals, and hunger is good training tool.

[Snow24]

Hi slmkhoo


He has sustain attention issue and not interested in food.
I am working so I not the one to administer the meal.
His brothers eat with him at separate table as they are older so they dine at dining table.He using the children table.

Previously toys are used to entice and sustain his sitting at high chair when he was younger.He can complete the meal. Now change to sit at chair for meal. His hands, are busy with the toys no hands to self feed himself. If I take, away toys , he would not want to sit at table and chair to eat. Leave seat and walk away. So wonder how to implement the phase out gradually. Should I continue have toys at table let him learn to sustain at seat for longer duration or take away toys let him learn to sit at chair without toys on table compromise with shorter sitting at chair.

Think not easy to break his habit now but gotta do it.

[sharonkhoo]

Snow24:

Hi slmkhoo


He has sustain attention issue and not interested in food.
I am working so I not the one to administer the meal.
His brothers eat with him at separate table as they are older so they dine at dining table.He using the children table.

Previously toys are used to entice and sustain his sitting at high chair when he was younger.He can complete the meal. Now change to sit at chair for meal. His hands, are busy with the toys no hands to self feed himself. If I take, away toys , he would not want to sit at table and chair to eat. Leave seat and walk away. So wonder how to implement the phase out gradually. Should I continue have toys at table let him learn to sustain at seat for longer duration or take away toys let him learn to sit at chair without toys on table compromise with shorter sitting at chair.

Think not easy to break his habit now but gotta do it.

I would just stop having toys there. But if it is your helper or a grandparent supervising the meal, it will be difficult to enforce. Also, can you \"trap\" him in his seat? Like have having a booster seat with straps? Then he can hopefully be persuaded to eat more before walking away at will. Use his brothers to be a good example? You will have to let him sit for a short period initially and extend the period gradually. The main thing is not to let him eat unless he is sitting at the table.

[Snow24]

Hi


Anyone can share how do you teach child hidden social rules, social appropriateness when in public.Our children could be self directed and insisted on doing their ways. They might not think what they did are not appropriate or wrong.How do we educate or let them be aware.

[sharonkhoo]

Snow24:

Hi


Anyone can share how do you teach child hidden social rules, social appropriateness when in public.Our children could be self directed and insisted on doing their ways. They might not think what they did are not appropriate or wrong.How do we educate or let them be aware.

Use social stories, role play. And lots of explanations about what other people are thinking and how they are reacting. Then before going to similar situations, run through the social stories again. It will take many repetitions over many years.

[ImMeeMee]

Snow24:

Hi


Anyone can share how do you teach child hidden social rules, social appropriateness when in public.Our children could be self directed and insisted on doing their ways. They might not think what they did are not appropriate or wrong.How do we educate or let them be aware.

agree with slmkhoo. Our children need social stories on various scenarios to build up their 'data bank' so that they know how to react in various situations. Its also alot of explanation on what the other person is thinking about. So you can play games and activities like 'what happens next?', 'how does this person feel?' to build pre-emptive and perspective skills. Likely the child will not be able to give you answers at the beginning so you may have to fill them in with the answers. But as they get more exposure, they will slowly learn the 'model' answers or responses. I sometimes use thinking bubbles to get DD3 to verbalize on what the other person might be thinking or feeling. Work on things which are more tangible to help our children.

DD3's therapist just told me that the 'highest' level of social interaction is casual talk. Not sure how she is able to attain this, but at least it gives me a somewhat 'OB marker' when I am coaching her.

[sharonkhoo]

ImMeeMee:

DD3's therapist just told me that the 'highest' level of social interaction is casual talk. Not sure how she is able to attain this, but at least it gives me a somewhat 'OB marker' when I am coaching her.

My daughter is 20 and hasn't mastered this! She can answer questions and give her views, but she doesn't know how to chit-chat. The half-completed sentences, lots of things which people don't spell out in detail but expect you to understand, jumping from topic to topic..., she finds all these difficult. I'm not sure if she ever will master it. My mother is not good at social chit-chat either.