All About Autism
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by the way, can i also ask if the sand u use is bought from ikea? i find them a little coarse as i accidentally fell n landed my elbow in the pile, left me painful dents and slight scratches…
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I used iwritewords app. They've got a lite version but I bought the full version after trying it out. I think this was the app that interest my son the most. But you can try other apps, see which ones your niece likes.
I actually used the leftover colored sands from those sand art kits I bought home to do.Or if you've the time, can dye some rice grains with colors & use them for tracing too! No need to buy, just use everyday things.
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Blokus:
hi blokus,I used iwritewords app. They've got a lite version but I bought the full version after trying it out. I think this was the app that interest my son the most. But you can try other apps, see which ones your niece likes.
I actually used the leftover colored sands from those sand art kits I bought home to do.Or if you've the time, can dye some rice grains with colors & use them for tracing too! No need to buy, just use everyday things.
good, i like your line \"No need to buy, just use everyday things\".
this is so true for us parents... especially when higher cost of living is apparently evidently everywhere.... -
i dun have left over coloured sands, but i think using fine salt can do the job as well after pondering over your advice “No need to buy, just use everyday things”…
LOL… u inspire me much much… -
Blokus
His summary based on his assessment:
- Social Interaction
- Marked impairment in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviours such as eye to eye gaze, facial expression etc
- Failure to develop peer relationship
- Communication
- Lack of varied, spontaneous make believe play
- Restricted, repetitive and stereotyped patterns of behaviour, interest and activities
- Displays an inflexible adherence to specific, non-functional routines or rituals and may tantrum if disrupted
- Encompassing preoccupation with one or more stereotyped and restricted patterns of interest that is abnormal
Basically, he has fleety eye contact, lacks focus in a group learning environment and displays in-apt social behaviours such as thinking that everything in this world is a joke including people being tripped (empathy).
Just today, when my hb and the kids were in the lift, a middle aged woman walked in. Barely after she even stepped out of the lift, he was giggling and saying “old woman” many times in an audible voice. This, despite us, repeatedly telling him it was not a nice act and reinforcing that appearance did not equate nature.
Mashy
Hmmm…I wanted to see the P to request her to allocate my boy to a class with a teacher more experienced to handle him. Anyway, the AED called me this morning and told me that the VP would call me regarding this matter.
I read through some archives and I understand that your boy is only attending OT and ST by KKH (?). I will be meeting the PD next week and I was wondering if I should practice with my boy at home based on the notes given by the Social Skills Group in KKH first, instead of registering him with another private Social Skills Group as recommended by the ST. One factor is cost, another is time involved. Was your boy recommended to attend Social Skills Group by the ST?
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Somehow, the official diagnosis puts an end to answers which we have been searching for a long time. We initially sent him on suspicion of ADHD, but it was proven not instead. For the longest time, I felt like an incompetent parent. My IL repeatedly commented that my SIL (her daughter) could discipline her daughters very well while my boy was so hyper, climbing and jumping, and seldom obeying instructions. Even now, she felt that my boy must have been scared badlly during infant time and hence he had autism. Even my dad said that he was not obedient because we spoilt him rotten. Some friends would insist that a kid could be disciplined as long as the parent was strict and consistent enough. I was forever questioning myself, am I too indulgent?..am I not strict enough?..is there something wrong with my teaching? But when I compared my gal to other kids, I did not think so. But others will always look at my boy and make these comments. At least with this, I can guide him along knowing the direction. -
verykiasumummy:
The thing is, if your child doesn't want to nap, what can you do? Sing a lullaby over the phone? Quit your job and lie next to him? It is really up to the teachers to manage it because they are there physically. there is only so much we can do if we aren't there. If they don't want to nap at home, what do you do? Call the father to quit his job and stay at home? It is up to u who is at home to coax the kid to sleep or ensure that he has some activities to do so that he won't disturb others. I think the teachers should have some brains to think of solutions and not pass it to the parents who aren't in the school to do anything.i beg to differ from mashy.. afterall, they are still our own kids... how can we say its the teachers' problems?
helplessmum3, how old is your son? -
hi fizz,
i’m concerned about what you have said… and imagined myself in your shoes… u r very strong and i must say that u r a very good mummy… stay positive as no matter what others say, ur son is still yours afterall… -
Fizz:
Blokus
His summary based on his assessment:
- Social Interaction
- Marked impairment in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviours such as eye to eye gaze, facial expression etc
- Failure to develop peer relationship
- Communication
- Lack of varied, spontaneous make believe play
- Restricted, repetitive and stereotyped patterns of behaviour, interest and activities
- Displays an inflexible adherence to specific, non-functional routines or rituals and may tantrum if disrupted
- Encompassing preoccupation with one or more stereotyped and restricted patterns of interest that is abnormal
Basically, he has fleety eye contact, lacks focus in a group learning environment and displays in-apt social behaviours such as thinking that everything in this world is a joke including people being tripped (empathy).
Just today, when my hb and the kids were in the lift, a middle aged woman walked in. Barely after she even stepped out of the lift, he was giggling and saying \"old woman\" many times in an audible voice. This, despite us, repeatedly telling him it was not a nice act and reinforcing that appearance did not equate nature.
Mashy
Hmmm...I wanted to see the P to request her to allocate my boy to a class with a teacher more experienced to handle him. Anyway, the AED called me this morning and told me that the VP would call me regarding this matter.
I read through some archives and I understand that your boy is only attending OT and ST by KKH (?). I will be meeting the PD next week and I was wondering if I should practice with my boy at home based on the notes given by the Social Skills Group in KKH first, instead of registering him with another private Social Skills Group as recommended by the ST. One factor is cost, another is time involved. Was your boy recommended to attend Social Skills Group by the ST?
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Somehow, the official diagnosis puts an end to answers which we have been searching for a long time. We initially sent him on suspicion of ADHD, but it was proven not instead. For the longest time, I felt like an incompetent parent. My IL repeatedly commented that my SIL (her daughter) could discipline her daughters very well while my boy was so hyper, climbing and jumping, and seldom obeying instructions. Even now, she felt that my boy must have been scared badlly during infant time and hence he had autism. Even my dad said that he was not obedient because we spoilt him rotten. Some friends would insist that a kid could be disciplined as long as the parent was strict and consistent enough. I was forever questioning myself, am I too indulgent?...am I not strict enough?...is there something wrong with my teaching? But when I compared my gal to other kids, I did not think so. But others will always look at my boy and make these comments. At least with this, I can guide him along knowing the direction.
Yes, my son is still attending st, OT at kkh rehab. We recently started social skills 1-1 or rather 1-2 coz 2 therapists at the same time. His OT and ST is doing this monthly to equip him with social skills. End of the year, we will be attending a social skills group org by them which will have a few kids to let him practise what he has learnt in the social skills classes.
The PD at CDC KKH has recommended us going to private but we thought kkh rehab is ok. She didn't offer us any sessions with her CDC therapists, so nothing from them. Besides that, he is attending English and Chinese enrichment classes. His English class is becoz the pd said he will need some comprehension help in future.
So far we are quite happy with his progress. There are days that aren't so good but most days are fine.
I'm very strict with my son. He still ended up like that. So it's not strictness. But being strict and offering structure does help him in some way. He knows what is expected of him and when he doesn't obey, he has to face the consequences. Ignore all these little 'noise' around you. They do more harm than good. -
Fizz
In case u didn’t see it, we are attending kkh rehab. Not from the CDC side. Altho both are from kkh, they function independently. I haven’t attended CDC therapies so can’t say much about them other than their unwillingness to help coz my child was entering P1 by the time he was diagnosed. Kkh rehab has been helping my boy since he was 4 yrs old. We have attended their OT, ST, feeding clinic, handwriting groups, P1 readiness programme. So far so good. Some of them may not be as experienced as the private therapists but they are genuine. I’m glad we started there instead of CDC coz if we started with CDC, we would be forced to go pte by now and the much needed ST would be foregone since its supposed to be part of eipic. -
Mashy
Thanks for your input. How do we get into KKH rehab?