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My approach if my child is the target of bully:
1) if personal safety is at risk, run and report to teacher right away. To show bully the child know exactly how to protect himself if forced to. The bully will have to face the teacher now.
2) if bully destroys his books or stationary and my child cannot stop it without any tussles, I will tell my
child we will accept the financial lost. So that my child doesn’t have to confront bully or feel lousy over the lost. And report to teacher. The bully will have to face the teacher now.
3) if the bully pushes and my child feel hurt physically , treat it like situation 1)
4) if the bully pushes and my child does not feel hurt physically, I will want my child to stay calm and walk away. Repeated calmness and non responses may throw the bully off balance, and maybe the bully will
stop and even reflect upon himself and feel he is behaving non sensically.
5) if the bully taunts and verbally abuse my child, treat it as situation 4).

To help better manage situation 4 and 5, I will explain to my child bully’s behaviours are likely stem from problems bully may have and they are not having a good time too. And my child is more fortunate in this aspect . Hopefully my child see the bigger pictures and can overlook the temporary discomforts when in situation 4 and 5, and also develop compassions for bullies. And in all 5 situations my child able to stay balanced and not feel helpless. And of course, when seeing the bully coming toward my child, my child would have to take steps to protect himself first and not let the bully succeed. Then respond accordingly for situation 1,2 and 3, even the bully did not succeed

These are my personal opinions, coming from my own experiences. Not saying it’s easy to do.

Good advice! Would like to add too that if kid exp situation 3 then we do 1 but bully still repeats, will have to report to proper authorities and request to have meeting with parents of bullies (add situation 6) esp if my kid suffer too much from physical abuse. Really not acceptable and wont take it lightly the 2nd time around.

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Walk away unaffected. Some bullies want to see others looking hurt. It’s not easy, but if we can walk away looking unaffected, over time, bullies may just leave you alone because they are not able to transfer their negative emotions onto you, or they are not getting a response from you when response it’s what they are looking for.

Sure, bullies want us to feel bad but if we don't respond or react to them, they might get tired and stop but this is not always the case tho. Some bullies are v persistent. They will keep nagging someone until they get the reaction/response that they want. If avoiding them is impossible, what should our children do? 😟