Thanks you echo exactly my heart. That’s what my relative did. But now they think there should be more permanent solution. They juz offered another choice. That my girl go stay with them ‘permenantly’. Either way I am juz so saddened and so is my girl. She is already in sec 1 and she argued she can be home alone which is potentially not a safe option either.

Oh there’s a restriction on that?

Hi all please help shed some lights into my situation and give me ideas. would really appreciate.


recently divorced and moved to a one room flat near to my 13 yo daughter’s school. She is able to take care of her own daily need and i have a part time maid coming to clean the house weekly, dinner is solved by tingkat.

However, i run a small business and all the income comes from overseas work, which used to require travelling once a quarter, but from next year onwards for 1-2 weeks every month. Currently, my relatives will take turn to come stay over and keep my girl company. but i do know this is not a long term solution as it inconvenience them.

I thought of giving up this business that i spent last 7 years building up and it has finally established itself (abeit overseas). Being a not very highly educated single mum, this stable overseas income is very important to us.

Getting a full time maid seems to me now the only viable choice, she will have to sleep in the living room, wakes my girl up for morning school and accompany when she is home from 5 to sleep at 9. She is going to be very free as she wont need to cook and there wont be anyone at home from 7am to 5pm.

Do you guys foresee any problems that i should take note on my pros and cons list and potential solutions?

Would really appreciate some lights in this. Thank you.