Hi helplessmum3, sorry I am not very convenience to type too long msg…

Yes, my son has same problem when he was 3-4, even doesnt want to speak single word. He has no eye contact at all even his father was stepping in when coming back from work. Example, his father called him, "hello boy, papa is coming back" but he just continue to play, totally ignore or he never has any reaction… sorry, if I write wrong. Anything he wants, he just use his finger to point but no talk until about 4+. He likes to stare at the spinning objects especially fan and car wheel, he could keep looking at the spining wheel for more than 30mins and he keep turning the wheel (toy car)repeat and repeat, he ignore what happen to his surrounding. There were lot of things make me upset during these years, I hope I have time to share all about my son story with you all… maybe I can ask my hb to help me write in English. Give me a week, I will be here again.

Hi Double E and Nugget and all,


After reading your post, I feel how ‘lucky’ am I. Pardon me, my English is not good. I am Chinese educated in Malaysia but I am PR living here for more than 20 years. After I read all of your post, I think it is a chance to share with you all about my ASD son’s story. I will try my best to write in English, else, sorry I will use Chinese. I hope my experience will encourage you all, please don’t give up your ASD child.

My son was diagnosed as ASD at 28 yr old. He is 9 yr old now. His symptoms was all similar with normal ASD kid, like Double E’s son. I had tried many many way to help and teach him in past 7 years. Of course, like all of the ASD kid’s mother, sorry, I think better I use Chinese as it would be more clearer. 在那六-七年的岁月里，我承受了无比的压力和痛苦，在孩子教育上，甚至亲人所带来的，这都不是一般人所能体会的。我花了所有时间和精力在他身上，甚至在承受不了巨大压力下，我患了短暂的忧郁症。但是，我很清楚我不可以倒下，因为唯一能尽全力帮助儿子的人就是我这个母亲。幸运的是，我在经济和精神上得到先生的支持。请你们记得，这一点很重要。因为这段艰难期间，我们需要另一股力量推动自己前进。

因为时间和字句太长，请原谅我无法将如何教导和培育儿子的经厉完整写下。最重要是我想传达的信息是，请妈妈们不要放弃。Your child will be better one day, and that is not a dream to get into mainstream primary school. My son is in P4 this year, he is doing well day after day, year after year, he could even get no. 10 in level position with total 230 students. I am ‘proud’ of him and I appreciate everything in this journey even it was bad. Please don’t give up, do and do more to help your child as he/she is so SPECIAL.
加油！