tankee:This is the Parents' Networking Group for Greenridge Secondary School.
Once you have gotten your child in this school, come introduce yourself to other parents in this school and network with each other. Share tips, on-going news and alerts and discuss issues pertaining to the school.
Hummm.....will try that. Thanks for sharing.
slmkhoo:My solution to that was that I would reduce the amount of computer time if they nagged too much! I would tell them in advance that if I got nagged by them more than twice, then they would forfeit the next time (I allowed daily computer time during vacations), and I kept my word. It's amazing how that reduced the nagging! I also said they would forfeit the time if they did not switch off when they were supposed to. If you are firm, it really works.debbiehsl:Yup. That's why I only allow games in weekends now. Hope it works. : ( but like you said they will complains and keep asking you can I play. I finished my work can I can I....especially during weekdays...
Yup. That's why I only allow games in weekends now. Hope it works. : ( but like you said they will complains and keep asking you can I play. I finished my work can I can I....especially during weekdays...
Mawar:Agree! :goodpost:[/quote]Kids know how to push your buttons - they know that parents hate them to be bored. I harden my heart when my kids tell me that, and tell them to read a book or do a craft. Failing that, I will tell them to do housework or more schoolwork! That usually keeps them quiet. I have always been very strict about computer time, and at P3, my kids were only allowed 40mins a day, even during vacations. You have to be extremely hard-hearted and act deaf when you first start imposing limits because they will complain long and loud, but it's worth it.slmkhoo:[quote=\"debbiehsl\"]...even tell you nothing else to play or watch if you forbid them to play...
True. As a mom, we try not to tie them down with so much tuition and study all time. Therefore, we try to compromise. But somehow, this game really dun benefits them at all. They can argue with siblings and even tell you nothing else to play or watch if you forbid them to play...what a crap when I saw comments saying that this game helps in creativity, makes their mind more active etc. Problem is they are addicted to it rather than study...my god.
Steadyberry:I also notice that my ds has lost interest in his study. He is only in P3. Still a long way to go. If I keep all his fav games or toys, he would rather sit and do nothing. He told me lesser tuition so I am cutting down. But prob is he doesn't do assessment books or revision at all at home. Sigh...
In the end, I didnt stop his drum as he loves it. Like wise, boys is still boys, still living in wonder land, still yet to be mature enough to know what is the importance of PSLE. He didnt do well for science SA2. CA2 did well but lost forcus and careless for SA2. Haiz....nothing much I can do but to hope and wait for the time he can be more mature enough to think. Nowadays, the stupid \"mindcraft\" game is the one that is making me crazy...all his classmates is crazy about it including him. How I wish this game never exist... :slapshead:
concern2:Hi debbieshl, how is your boy now? Hope both of you are coping well. I can imagine how he will feel if you stop his other activities.debbiehsl:
I told him I wanted to stop his drum CCA but he cried. I suppose he likes the drum and that is the only thing to destress. The supplementary class on Wed is short term.
Very often, we feel we need 'me' time after spending so much time on work, kids, etc., and one of the things that some of us may also neglect is giving our kids their own 'me' time.
mummy so kiasu:Leave it as it is, if the boy really needs it. It is quite common for P5 & P6 to have tuition on top of supplementary lessons. However, if tbe school is giving enough, then don't have to over load him. Do communicate with his school teachers & tutors to monitor his progress. He has less than 1 year to prepare for his PSLE. Find out which components pull down his grade & focus on those area. Go for quality & not quantity. Do consider sending him to motivation workshop or camp during this coming Dec holidays. Don't forget to give him lots of encouragement & hugs too.[/quote]Did communicate with teachers and tutors but different opinion I got from them. He is weak and average with all subjects. Eg. CA1 he scored quite well in math. so i forcus on other subjects. In SA1 the subject I forcus got well but Math results drops. I also dunno how to handle. seems like all subjects need to have tuition. Haiz...debbiehsl:[quote=\"Imp75\"]Sorry to say but seems like a burnt out child. There's too much tuition and academic work, no time for passion or relaxation.
I know but just dunno which one to let go. All subjects are average only. If letting tution off with only school supplementary will not be enough. Did ask if he wants to let go the tue& thurs tuition or wed and sat tution he said dunno. Haiz.. he dunno i even dunno how to handle, which to let go and what to let go. letting him go drum wants to destress him cos he likes. : ( sad sad sad dunno what to do. Any advise. shall i let go all? will he flung? I so worry.
sleepy:Yes, too much.debbiehsl:He is P5 now.
Mon - end school at 1pm, 130 to 230pm school math supplementary, 430 to 630pm pvt tuition
Tue - end school at 1pm, CCA drum from 130 to 330pm
Wed - end school at 1pm, school creative writing 130 to 3pm, 7.30 tp 9pm (pvt EL paper 2 tuition cos Mon & Thur tuition dun cover much on cloze and compre.
Thur - end school at 1pm, school chinese supplementary 130 to 3pm, 430 to 630pm pvt tuition
Fri - end school at 1pm
Sat - pvt chinese tuition 9 to 1030am, creative writing 1245 to 215pm
Is it too much? The home base tutor dun cover compo. also only english, math and science. : ( I feels that he is doing it for the sake of doing but nor for himself.
You might want to do some restructuring eg. find a tuition that covers both paper 1 and 2 in one lesson.
May not be possible to cover paper 1 every week but there should be at least one compo a month.
I believe whatever learn during tuition need time to digest too so revision is important
Are the supplementary classes in school useful? May not need to replicate the compo writing with private tuition if already done that during supplementary classes
I think maximum is 3 tuition a week (really the max) because child still needs to do school homework, tuition homework, time revise what was being taught.
By the way, I opt my kids out of CCA
Mawar:Seek his buy in so that he has some control over his time. What do u mean by that? I dun understand? So wat shld I do?Seems like your son is doing an average of 12 hour shift on weekdays and half day Saturday. I assume his day starts at 6am. On top of the scheduled classes, I presume he has homework and assignments to complete?
Have you spoken to him about his schedule? Seek his buy in so that he has some control over his time. If you don't, he will find ways to protest or tune out.
Better have quality over quantity. If he goes on overdrive mode, he will burn out. You will be stressed out. Your relationship will suffer.
Don't ignore that at this age, some are starting to have growing pains.
Imp75:Did you find out why was he disinterested? Was he distracted, disgruntled or lack of motivation? Maybe analysing the root cause of the issue would help in applying solutions?
Imp75:Sorry to say but seems like a burnt out child. There's too much tuition and academic work, no time for passion or relaxation.
