Sec schools, esp Sec 1, are definitely tougher than primary school coz of additional and some more ‘alien’ subjects (history, geography, etc). It is common to see average marks hover around 60s and 70s and for those who just manage to ‘squeeze’ themselves into super schools via extensive and if-never-give-will-die coaching, around 50s if these kids’ coaching is removed.


It is also therefore NOT THE TRUTH to say that sec school will be less ‘stressful’ than PSLE. They are just different.

But kids who have mastered enough self learning skills in their early years will not suffer so much in sec schools coz chances are they will have the ‘inbuilt mechanism’ akin to ‘survival instinct’ to auto learn to adjust, adapt and survive within manageable stress. This ability comes from those chances that were given to them by not-so-KC and not-so-KS parents when they were allowed to learn to swim on own. This natural innate ability either can be built slowly or can also be taken away slowly by their very own parents during their early years.

For those kids who have been hand-held for so long, there is a high chance that they need to be handheld further into sec schools and maybe into JC and perhaps into their uni years as this may seem to be the only way that they KNOW they can float. It is a ‘pattern’, a learnt sense of helplessness that they are so used to that if removing the tuition, they may TANK!

So parents you do have a choice to be KC and KS ttm / face green green or choose to be concerned-enough parents who give only adequate support (never over support) for your children to discover their own path / way. Emphasising here is adequate support when the family and kids still can have a good balanced life that can be fun and fulfilling and not over-support till straining almost everyone.

Real butterflies emerge themselves with their own efforts from their cocoons. Those who are forced to be butterflies will end up in no where.

Sow the seeds and reap your own returns.

I hope more not-so-KC and not-so-KS parents can lend your voices to balance this forum, else it fits the saying of “Three People then Tiger Becomes Real” (I can’t type Chinese). I can read some KC parents fanning some of the KS parents and then all sing together in ‘harmony’. Do new parents a favour to support the motion of primary school education indeed doesn’t need to be so stressful for the family and the children and that it is really manageable.

Sometimes ignorance is a bliss. Cannot imagine highly educated people ‘scared’ of primary school education to the extent of not willing to have kid / more kids when it is just so a tiny part of a child long journey in this wonderful life. New inexperienced parents must be ‘frightened’ by such reading!

First World Problems are not problems.


http://www.businessinsider.com/ddbs-firstworldproblems-haiti-water-ad-2012-10#ooid=BzbW4zNjoikHTvAgiyizvurN86sOUkjO

One can choose to be kancheong or even kiasu or whatever.


If one has chosen to be so, then perhaps he/she should take up all the stress and pressure instead of keep harping and harping and harping non-stop.

This forum seems like lacking balance views from parents who are more ‘relaxed’ and more level-headed and the KC and KS ones are much more vocal. Therefore, not-so-KC and KS parents have to note that this forum is not a balanced one when you read about how difficult and how tough the whatsoever and whatsoever is. It is NOT THE TRUTH (unless you are going after results for super sec schools then maybe you need to be KC and KS to that extent else please, there is really plenty of time to smell roses instead of burying your nose in schoolwork).

I wonder why no parents whose kids enjoy schooling participate more in this forum to give this forum a more balanced view instead of making it so lop-sided. It’s just a PSLE and why it sounds like it’s a major war?