siling:

janet88:

about 2 months into sec 1 and she is still trying to cope with the increase of subjects. fortunately she is in NA or else we would have drowned. topics wise more or less the same but certain components are not included for NA. she is having her Science CA today, Geography tomorrow, D&T and something else this week

It is a big increase in terms of workload. Students need to cope with more subjects.
Jia you to your child!!

Realistically parents can also assist their kids in this challenging transition to secondary school by not placing overly high expectations in terms of secondary school subject results being similar to primary school results (80-90 range).

ammonite:

Any recommendations for good places to do photo books? Please advise on price and quality too and anything that I should consider (eg binding, matt or non matt etc) as well. Thank you!!

There is My Social Book if you are planning to convert your Facebook photos and posts into a photobook.

Just joined this club as my son is born in 2015. Hello everyone!

zbear:

janet88:

the kids may be well prepared for any exam...but he/she can have a mental block in the examination hall.
I usually advise my son not to look around him but just focus on his paper...ignore any classmate who raises hand to ask for more paper.
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Another way is to avoid interactions with classmates whom you know have the tendency to be panicky and overly stressed during the mornings of the exams. This way, you won't be too affected by their words and behaviors.

SBKS:

1) Can anyone share how did you squeeze out ME TIME? :?

2) And what did you do during ME TIME? :idea:

other than kids time and couple time and work time and house time. trying to maintain ME TIME is quite tough at times.

When kids sleeping? when all are sleeping? during kids enrichment class time? etc?

It is very impt to have ME TIME. its quiet time to some, its self reflection time for some, its relax time for some. ME TIME allows you to relax and recharge.

Please share. :rahrah:

Hi, I think it's about managing ourselves and our physical environment. Inner peace is important, as if we do not have that, we can't relax even when our kids are sleeping. Some ways could be meditation, mindfulness exercises, exercising or just basically doing something that you enjoy doing, e.g. reading a favourite book and drinking coffee, going out with friends etc. Couple time is just as important. If you have people who can take care of the kids for a period of time every week, that's an opportunity for you to spend some time with your spouse on a kids free date night!

troubled:

Hi,


Any tested methods to know if child is telling lies??

I feel that instead of trying to go in the direction of catching a child telling lies, we can be good role models for them in terms of honouring our words and fulfilling our promises to the kids. If we promise we bring them to the zoo, we do it no matter how. We should not make empty promises or tell white lies/ half truths ourselves as we will be found out eventually. Ultimately, children are taught by what their parents are (we don't lie) and not merely by their talk (children must not lie). And if we do catch the kid lying, talking the kid through why he shouldn't lie always work better than punishing using punitive methods, which merely instills a sense of fear and resentment without real understanding.

sacredsagesg:

failure is life lesson. to fail to to learn a new adventure

I heard this quote below just yesterday and found it very relevant too.

Forget the mistake, remember the lesson.

ChiefKiasu:

So much has been put on academic enrichment that I fear we parents have lost track of what is more important - character development.


How does one instill good values in a child, such as honesty, self-reliance and perseverence? I think we all know that the best way to impart values and principles is to live them ourselves as parents, but supposed that's been done and it is still not working? What do you do?

Addressing the value of perseverance, some of the challenges a child faces that inhibit the building of this value would be overly challenging tasks, insufficient motivation, not being taught by parents and dislike for criticism. Increasingly, there is also a fixed mindset among children that leads to the thinking that their abilities are fixed.

Perhaps some ways that can be tried out would be breaking the tasks into smaller bits, praising the effort rather than the product and not to overreact when the child makes any mistakes. Focus should be on what the child learns and not just on completing the task. Parents should allow them to try things out for themselves, resisting the urge to do it for them.

One way which I have read up and actually found work for students under exam stress would be this. Works too for adults who are feeling stressed.


Close your eyes
Take a deep breath in through your nose for four counts
Hold your breath for two counts
Breath out through your mouth for four counts

You can repeat this 4 times.