aims5120::hugs: I'm sure it will get better, super mummy, you can do it.Hi
Do I have the most number of kids in this forum currently?
....Cos I have 5 kids (aged 12y, 10yr, 5yr, 3yr and 1yr). I'm currently working and also a single parent (daddy departed last year)...
Life is tough but one has to move forward...
Latest posts made by Fettuccine
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RE: Club 3 or more Kids
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RE: Club 3 or more Kids
buds:
Hi Buds, now I recall...:-)Fettuccine:
Hey all, I thought I had joined a group something like this in this forum, but anyway, here i am again.
I think you mean Club SAHM where we all used to hang out, Fettuccine.
Club SAHM is regardless of the number of children.
I think the sharing here is more specific in a sense it is for all/any parents
with 3 or more children and sharing how everyone manages with everything
going on.... coping with more children under their roofs.... more mouths to
feed.... more errands to run... (etc) ....
Yes, more mouths to feed and the errands all clicked with me, including increasing costs... -
RE: Clothes for children
tamarind:
Thanks so much for sharing, Tamarind. I definitely go check them outI dislike shopping local shops, expensive and not value for money. I bought all my kids' clothes from overseas websites like
http://www.gymboree.com
http://www.oldnavy.com
http://www.landsend.com
I usually buy when there are discounts. I normally pay less than SGD20 for each piece of clothing, and the quality is excellent. I join sprees so the shipping is quite cheap.
Recently I bought some polo shirts from the Ralph Lauren website :
http://www.ralphlauren.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3950816
Each shirt is less than SGD20 including shipping, very good value !
In fact, most clothes that I wear are also bought from US websites
It is so much more convenient to shop online, if I were to Orchard Road to shop, I could pay more than $40 taxi fare, or spend 2 hours on the MRT. -
RE: All About GEP
blur-daddy:
Oh, you never know. One of my friend got a shock when her son got selected for GEP this year. Her boy was never in the top 10 in the class. I thought the GEP program is much interesting than the mainstream curriculum. Not for the prestige of being gifted but doing projects seem fun.Congratulation! I'm glad that's what suitable for your DS2 and happy for u. Twinning program just as well expose him to project works etc. BTW, did he make it through 2nd round?
My DS2 next yr is P3 and likewise, I doubt he is suitable for GEP...
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RE: All about Transferring to Other Primary Schools
noob:
Your son's school already has a safety net why transfer? For my dd she is willing to make a change that's why we go ahead with the transfer.[/quote]Ic. Wish my ds is more understanding like your dd. Our main reason for transfer is convenience. However, the distance to affiliated sec is also much further. Just thinking about driving three kids to three different schools is tiring for me.
If your son's present school has affiliated sec school, why transfer him ? If he is adamant to stay, he will be unhappy if you transfer him. Honestly, don't transfer him since there is affiliated sec school. Your son may have to make new friends next year but he is comfortable with his surroundings already.janet_lee88:
[quote=\"Fettuccine\"]
I hope my DS will change his mind after reading your feedback
He is very resistant to transfer to another school due to his close bond with teachers and friends. However, he will be in another class in P3 next year, but only with 3 friends from the old class. I told him, he still have to make new friends next year.
The reason we are changing school, is because of convenience. Of course, the decision lies with him as I do not want him to be unhappy and lose his grades. Despite all the explanation, he is very adamant to stay. In fact, his current school is sec affiliated. -
RE: All about Transferring to Other Primary Schools
janet_lee88:
If your son's present school has affiliated sec school, why transfer him ? If he is adamant to stay, he will be unhappy if you transfer him. Honestly, don't transfer him since there is affiliated sec school. Your son may have to make new friends next year but he is comfortable with his surroundings already.[/quote]Thanks for your advice, we have bought him new uniforms for next year (current school). So he most probably stay for the next 4 years
I hope my DS will change his mind after reading your feedbackFettuccine:
[quote=\"noob\"]
My dd has been transferred from a neighbourhood school to a all girl's school with affiliation this year in P4. She performed very well in neighbourhood school with an outstanding result of being the 3rd in level. I told her the reason of transfer and she understands it and accepted it. Since her transferred to the current school she has maintained her good result. The only challenge she faced was to make new friends with new classmates in the beginning but soon she overcome the hurdle and become much stronger.
He is very resistant to transfer to another school due to his close bond with teachers and friends. However, he will be in another class in P3 next year, but only with 3 friends from the old class. I told him, he still have to make new friends next year.
The reason we are changing school, is because of convenience. Of course, the decision lies with him as I do not want him to be unhappy and lose his grades. Despite all the explanation, he is very adamant to stay. In fact, his current school is sec affiliated. -
RE: Club 3 or more Kids
Hey all,
I thought I had joined a group something like this in this forum, but anyway, here i am again.
Iām a SAHM, with three kids (P2, K2, 2).
Spending alot of more time with my children at home with teaching and taking care of them. Hope I can find pointers from parents here. Cheers! -
RE: Do you cane your daughters when they misbehave?
\"Tapez\",
FYI:
Singapore Penal Code:
Chapter XVI: Offences affecting the human body
# Assault or use of criminal force with intent to outrage modesty ā Whoever assaults or uses criminal force to any person, intending to outrage or knowing it to be likely that he will thereby outrage the modesty of that person, shall be punished with imprisonment for up to two years, or a fine, or caning, or any two of such punishments.[66] This offence is sometimes inaccurately termed 'molest' by the media. If, in order to commit or to facilitate the commission of the offence, a person voluntarily causes or attempts to cause to that person death, or hurt, or wrongful restraint, or fear of instant death, instant hurt or instant wrongful restraint, the punishment is imprisonment of not less than two years and not more than ten years with caning.[67] If the offence is committed in a lift in any building, or against any person under 14 years of age, the punishment is imprisonment for not less than three years and not more than ten years and caning.[68]
As for your wife:
Chapter V: Abetment
* Abetment ā A person abets the doing of a thing when he or she ā
(a) instigates any person to do that thing;
(b) engages with one or more other person or persons in any conspiracy for the doing of that thing, if an act or illegal omission takes place in pursuance of that conspiracy, and in order to the doing of that thing; or
(c) intentionally aids, by any act or illegal omission, the doing of that thing.[27]
Whoever abets any offence shall, if the act abetted is committed in consequence of the abetment, and no express provision is made by the Penal Code for the punishment of such abetment, be punished with the punishment provided for the offence.[28] -
RE: Do you cane your daughters when they misbehave?
Tapez:
\"Tapez\",
I just stumbled upon this post. Like to share some of my thoughts/experiences. After reading your post I guess I am not all that child abuser.2ppaamm:
I'm going to sound like a child abuser. But I did cane my older daughter once 26 times. Very hard, to the point she asked for a break at the 21st time.
She did something really bad. She lied to me and accused her friend of something she 'guessed'. Then, she covered each lie with another one, hoping to cover up.
The rule in the house is, 1 cane for doing something that hurts people, and 3 canes for not owning up and lying. I added all those up and it was 26 canes.
That was about the only time I ever caned her, because she is generally well-behaved. From then on, she had never lied to me again. That was when she was only 9 years old, P3.
Spare the rod, spoil the child. It was painful but I guess I had no choice, I set the rules, I obey them as well.
When I do use the cane, it must be an agreed action between the child and me, and never the chasing around kind. It is a very long process (sometimes a few hours) but I guess if we want to use the cane, we'd better be sure or the kid becomes bitter and resentful.
We use the cane on our daughter. The last time I had to use the cane was when she was 14. We make it clear to them since young that we do not tolerate throwing their temper and insisting on buying things when we go out. The absolute NO-NO is being rude to us.
Some time ago, while we were out, my daughter insisted on getting an iPod. After refusing, she began to show the \"unhappy\" face. Eventually started being rude and sarcrastic to me. Straight away went home ...did not say a thing in the car and on the way back....that 30 mins or so of silence gave her a big hint she was in trouble.
Reached home, called her into our room with the cane in my hand. Explained to her where she gone wrong. Told her i was going to punish her and she accepted her fate after explaining to her. Gave her 8 strokes of the cane. 3 for being difficult in public and 5 for being rude...thats my \"market\" rate.
Usually when I administer the cane, my wife will be beside me. Get her to strip totally naked. You guys might think (oh no..this guy is pyscho)...but guess what, they will feel totally ashamed and exposed with nothing to hide. Because this is not her first time, she knew the drill well. But I must admit the last time we caned her, she had not reached puberty...she was only about 8 or 9. This time round, she had already turned 14 and we could see her budding breast and after she stripped, i gave her another short 5 minute lecture. Made her bend over in what i would admit as a rather compromising position. And i gave it to her...8 firm strokes. She cried after the first stroke and my heart ached. But i was still pretty angry at her for being rude to me. So i bite my teeth and continued.
After that more comforting and \"sayanging\". Don't know what you guys think, but it does work...since then she is always careful not to be rude with us and she has not thrown tantrums in a long while.
I'm disgusted to say that its the most sickest method of disciplining a child. Whether he or she is 14 years old or 1 year old, you have no right to use stripping as a punishment.
What does stripping help in disciplinary process? Humiliation is the worst punishment of all. If a parent/adult enjoys seeing a child naked, I can't help but worry it is a sign of pedophilia. I think you seriously need to look at how wrong you are.
I do punish my children. As far as discipline is concern, a first warning of reasoning in a firm voice should suffice to correct mistakes. There will be two chances. Third time, my kids will get caned. Time out worked only when they were in pre-school. And they get caned, 3-5 times is all they get.
However, I am proud to say I do not have to do this often. -
RE: All about Transferring to Other Primary Schools
noob:
I hope my DS will change his mind after reading your feedback
My dd has been transferred from a neighbourhood school to a all girl's school with affiliation this year in P4. She performed very well in neighbourhood school with an outstanding result of being the 3rd in level. I told her the reason of transfer and she understands it and accepted it. Since her transferred to the current school she has maintained her good result. The only challenge she faced was to make new friends with new classmates in the beginning but soon she overcome the hurdle and become much stronger.
He is very resistant to transfer to another school due to his close bond with teachers and friends. However, he will be in another class in P3 next year, but only with 3 friends from the old class. I told him, he still have to make new friends next year.
The reason we are changing school, is because of convenience. Of course, the decision lies with him as I do not want him to be unhappy and lose his grades. Despite all the explanation, he is very adamant to stay. In fact, his current school is sec affiliated.
We'll see how it goes, if accepted, we try to persuade, otherwise, we just have to juggle between two schools.