Happy75:

Hi,


How to judge whether a child's behaviour is acceptable or he needs to see psychologist? Can someone advise? Thanks.

Hi Happy75,

Hugs to you.
My advice to you is to bring your child to see a psychologist since it is affecting his and your day-to-day life. Psychologist can help to counsel your child if there is no case of ASD/ADHD. Some kids just listens better to outsiders than parents, you know :oops: . You will also have a chance to seek professional advice on how to handle your child properly and relieve some of your stress cos you have a listening ear.
All the best.

Hi So50,


I would think that for your friend whose kid can sit quietly through a meal, the ipad is the trick. And the ipad is probably showing the kid's favourite video :).
Your kid is still very young. It is already an achievement if he can sit quietly for 10-15 mins. I remembered that when my kids were that young, they would be brought out by the maid to take a walk once they finished their food. And if the maid is not with us, then my hubby and I will take turns to take them out while the other one eats. During my kids' time, ipad is not common, so we hardly take long meals or go out and meet friends for a chat with the kids. Then a few year later, there were those portable video players and I remembered my younger brother and sister using those to play cartoons for their kids while we have our get-together meals.
Anyway, even up to now, my 8 yr old AS boy will still get up and walk around once he has finished his food, if he is not on his ipad. So, if you don't want to give ipad, then you will have to bring other things like toys to keep him occupied. But it will not be as 'captivating' as the ipad :).

As for your other issue on sensory problem, my AS boy also had this problem when he was younger..around 1 yrs old. He was not diagnosed then and so we didn't know anything about sensory issues. We just had to avoid certain foodcourts cos every time we were there, he would cry non-stop until we leave that place. He got better as he grew older and I was also able to read his 'signals', so we will leave before any meltdown starts. And in any case if I missed reading his signs and a meltdown starts while we are in the shopping mall, I would bring my boy to the baby nursing room and stay inside with him with the door closed until he quietens down. The hugging method that ammonite shared does help to calm my boy too, so you can try. But be sure to hug him from behind and wrapping his arms down in your hug so that he wouldn't accidentally hit or scratch your face.
It's a long journey but it will get better as the child grows older and have better self-regulation.

royivybaby:

dear all

my dd was with seimpi mim program since 18 months and now she is 3.3yo. her class has only her 1 student hence they closed the class and merged her into a class whereby they are half a year in advance progress. she started to lose focus as the teacher will ask her to play piano whereby she haven't even learn the notes before. now seimpi offer me 1 to 1 lesson at $200 per month, 4 lessons at 30 mins each. I found another piano teacher who asked me to send a video of my dd playing piano and she commented my dd has no foundation and she suggested me and dd to learn piano together. price is $380 per month with 45 mins per session. I am at a total dilemma how to proceed from here. can anyone enlighten me?

Hi,
Is the $200 per mth quoted by Seimpi before GST or after GST? Seimpi is a GST registered company, so fees will need to add GST.
Seimpi also has many different grades of teachers. What is the teacher's competency level? Senior Master Trainer or just a normal teacher? Different competency level will have different charge rate. For beginners, maybe you just ask for a normal teacher.
For the private teacher, is she suggesting that you take 45 mins lesson and your dd take 45 mins lesson, or is it both of you share the same 45 mins lesson? Anyway, if you are not going to take lessons with her but just going to sit in, then the price she quoted is quite ridiculous for a beginner, unless she is a v well known teacher. For beginners, 45 mins may be too long since your dd is still quite young. Usually for young beginners, they start with 30 mins per lesson. And no charge for parents sitting in.
Hope this helps.

cafemug:

Hi, i would like to find out from parents who have gifted kids (as confirmed via professional assessment) studying in neighborhood schs. I'm wondering, do you let the form teacher know about your child's ability or do you just keep quiet?

My child has no behavior issue other than being very vocal. So far he's enjoying school very much. Base on Term 2 PTM, i could tell the teachers enjoy teaching him as he learns fast and is attentive in class. However, starting Term 3, i find that he starts to doodle on his worksheets and hands in untidy class works.
My gut feeling tells me that he's getting bored in class and thus putting little efforts in his works.
I wonder, in general, how do schools handle pri one kids who are gifted?

Guess it's your choice whether you want to inform the form teacher abt your child's giftedness or not, but do not expect that the teachers will give your child more challenging work to keep him from being bored and out of trouble. The teachers have a lot on their hands, so will not cater specially for a small group of kids, not low ability ones, or high ability ones.
The most they could do is probably nominate your child for some HA classes if there is one provided by the school, but these are usually outside the normal school hours. During school hours, some teachers may be a bit more resourceful. So your child may be assigned mentoring roles to help those slower kids, or assigned some leadership roles to help teachers carry things here and there and maintain order in the class.

Hope this helps.

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Hi Snow24,


Something for you to try when you are weaning your boy of 1-1 attention during table activities at home.
When doing table work at home, place one side of the table against the wall and your boy sits on the other side facing the wall. Then you will sit behind him. If he is not used to it at first, you try by sitting side-by-side and then slowly move your chair until you are sitting behind him. Then once he is ok with this arrangement, you slowly move your chair further and further away from him. In your table activities, you must include some short activities where he will be doing it himself while you watch. Slowly extend the duration of these activities. Also, slowly change from you are watching him while he is doing these activities to you are not watching him (like you do your own things) while still sitting on his side or behind him. Then progress to sometimes, you are not with him like you go toilet for 5 mins. Remember to give him lots of praises. Can also use the token/reward system we shared abt earlier.
On the therapy side, you can sign him up for group social skills classes. I know Dynamics and Weecare have such classes when my boy was abt your son’s age. But not sure abt now.
Couragemom’s suggestion for group OT is also something worth trying.

Hope it helps.

Hi LaziDad,


Have you found out why his classmates don’t like him? Which specific behaviour of your son they don’t like?
Have you tried to get the school to help?
People like his form teacher or the school’s psychologist should be able to pair him up with some kids of his age so that they can play together, work together and help each other.
Also, maybe you can organise some play dates and invite a few boys from his class to come to your house to play with your son, so that they get to know him better. Or organise birthday party for your son and invite his classmates. Or even form study groups where a few kids come for an afternoon to study together and eat together. To get better response from the parents, you may need to provide transport and food. It’s like a free kids’ drop-off service for the parents. You can also use the opportunity to observe your son’s interactions with his classmates and do the necessary guidance. You may want to read up on Theory of Mind. It is what makes your son thinks there is no problem with his behaviour and it is his classmates that have problems.

Snow24:

Hi

He is 5 years old.He is listening while he is lying on the floor when his classmates are sitting on the floor.If the teacher remind him not to lie on the floor then he will sit on the floor . Otherwise he is left lying on the floor.He is ok to sit on the chair.

How did your child kicked off the habit?

Hi Snow24,
Think my boy just outgrew the idea. He wasn't diagnosed then, so we didn't know his issues. We thought he was just being naughty. Fortunately, he got promoted to the more senior class fairly quickly and they stopped having floor time in the senior class.
Anyway, for your boy's case, if he is still listening to the teacher while under the table lying down, it should still be ok as he is not missing out on any info that the teacher is sharing. Of course that is not the right social behaviour, so you should slowly change his behaviour. Ask him why he doesn't want to join the rest of the kids on the floor. Sometimes it is a sensory issue or maybe he had a bad experience. You may want to tell him that there is this new RULE that no one should sit under the table or lie down on the floor in the classroom. Cook up some reasons/white lies why the rule. Then get him to sit on a chair if he doesn't want to sit on the floor. He can start off with sitting away from his classmates if he is not willing to join the group. Then slowly move the chair nearer after a few days. Then eventually remove the chair and let him sit on the floor, but maybe right at the back of the group, at the corner so that he has more space. Let the child lead you when he is ready, no use fighting with him when he doesn't want. You may need to get the teacher's cooperation.
And seriously, if your child hasn't any therapy, plse consider sending him to one, if you intend for him to enrol in mainstream primary school. Therapy doesn't need to be ABA (ABA = v intensive, time consuming and expensive). Can be just some behaviour management therapy where you share with the therapist what are the behaviours that you want him to change and they work with him 1-1 and teach you how to handle it. If his cognition is high enough, you should be able to see some improvements.

Snow24:

Hi

My child was lying down on the floor under the table when his classmates are sitting on the floor listening to teacher.I don't know how to tackle this. He need 1 to 1 guidance in class to do worksheet currently .Most of the time he doesn't want to do worksheet in school.

Hi Snow24,

how old is your child? does he stay there for the whole time while his classmates are on the floor? what does the teacher do? is he listening though he is under the table? is he ok to sit on a chair if he don't want to sit on the floor?
mine did that when he was around 4 in an enrichment class. He would crawl out after a while, like 10 mins, and sit on a chair. But he was listening to the teacher all the time. He kicked the habit when they moved to doing all their activities on the table.

Snow24:

The childcare dont give sticker as reward.How to implement the reward system.If I tell my child if his childcare teacher feedback to me he can complete his worksheet in class I will give him sticker when he is home?

It will not be effective if he needs to wait until he is home to get his sticker.
Does your kid go to any therapy class? If he does, maybe you work with his therapist. Both you and the therapist can adopt the same reward system. Leave out the childcare cos the childcare is not 1-to-1, they will not be willing to bend their system for your child only.
Btw, for a start, in order for the reward system to work, there are a few points to note.
1) the tasks the child has to complete must be seen to be achievable by him.
2) he must be able to complete each of his task fairly quickly to get his token (sticker) eg. within 5 mins according to his ability, not your ability.
3) he must be able to accumulate enough tokens fairly quickly to get his reward. eg. 3 tokens to get reward, so need only 15 mins.
It should not be like he has to finish 1 page of his worksheet (or even half a page) in order to get his reward cos for him to finish that, it may take him forever and he would have lost interest by then.
4) the reward should be something he wants/likes. eg. a sweet, a jellybean, or even a shot at his favourite game (but plse remember to set time limit for this type of reward).
So you pick a few of his likes and let him decide which reward he wants and displays it prominently on your reward chart as a 'bait'.
5) when he is familiar with the system, you can extend to more unfamiliar tasks and increase difficulty of task and increase number of tokens to get reward.

If you have trouble implementing this and your child goes to therapy class, then get your therapist to help you. This reward thingy (called token system) is a very common strategy in therapy classes.