Thank you insider for this thought-provoking and stimulating thread. I have enjoyed reading and learning from this thread on a daily basis. I do hope that you will continue to post here or in other threads as I believe I/we can continue to learn lots more from you.


I would really like to understand your last post regarding Confucius and life stages. Do you think you could translate/explain in English? :oops: I understand it could take a lot of your time so just a short summary will do if it takes too long. Sorry ya but really interested to find out that part.

All the best to you insider

Thanks insider for this meaningful thread. I have always enjoyed your posts and have used the wisdom to think through my problems time after time.


Are you able to share more on the relationship with our parents? Specifically, as an adult (educated, relatively successful and certainly at the age and have the capacity to raise own family), how much of our parents' instructions do we have to adhere to? The reason I ask is because increasingly I have been feeling that my parents tended to make suggestions in ways that if/when I didn't take up these suggestions, I was made to feel like I was an unfilial daughter.

Most times I adhered to all of their instructions. However lately, have been feeling parental pressure on issues that would potentially impact on my relationship with my very understanding and wonderful partner. I have considered parents' opinions as objectively as possible and to date, I cannot agree with their perspective. Do you have something to share that could shed any form of light?

Anyone else who has an opinion on this is also welcomed to share