ilovehermes:

My husband cheated on me for 10 months with another married co-worker. When he wanted to divorce me, he was extremely mean and hurtful to me. However when he broke off with her, it was done with considerations to her feelings. Although he is back with me now, I cannot help but feel jealous why he could be so mean to me but not her. What should I do? I hate myself for feeling this way as I want to move on.

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After an affair, the person having the affair will go through a stage of withdrawal, sometime extreme withdrawal. He will be distant from you. He could be mean, anger and in depression.

You feeling helpless, you want rebuild your relationship fast and your whole world now is about your DH or the OW.

Remember do not give up or lose hope of your marriage or DH. Don't not yell, scream at him as this will push him further away from him.

Goggle internet to get information, good site on marriage building.. I find these sites very useful. I know you've lots of questions that need to be answer.

http://www.emotionalaffair.org/affair-withdrawal-a-difficult-hurdle/

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