My kids are 4, 8 and 12

Hi. I m planning to go without maids but not sure how we could organise the kids meals esp dinners. Would anyone have some suggestions? If tinkat, which is good please?

Just yesterday, my Selfish mil called my son and told him that she doesn’t want her mil to go home as she finds her irritating and troublesome. And hopes she stays at my place all the time. You see, my fil passed away a few years ago. Other working hard to keep my bills paid every month, we are also paying for my grand mil’s last hospital bills, and medical bills.


My mil has the time and money to sing karaoke, travel, shopping but expects us to pay for her own mil’s bills and maintenance.

I just no longer have anymore extras, and not work and stay home anymore.

The govt has encouraged us to have more kids, encouraging women to return to the workforce, encouraging more foreign workers into Singapore to work thus making the work life more competitive for working mums.


And now with the weekly off days implemented, which has brought problems after problems to the local families. When will all these stop? I have a hopeless mil who loves herself more than anyone else, so depending on maids after maids to look after the kids. Sometimes I find that I am the joke amongst the problems.

Have been depending on maids to look after my kids whilst I work, and I never fail to feel sad that I could not be the one to accompany them in their growing years.

I am also planning to let go of my maids. It’s partially because my mil has been always trying to get her mil to stay w us as she doesn’t like her. She is a nice lady but has been the subject of numerous quarrels between my husband and me. And I hate the fact that my mil is also getting us to pay for her mil medical bills. Mil is not poor just stingy. So to remove all these, planning to remove helpers, get everybody out of my place and put my youngest one in child care. Do you think it’s a good idea?