Have been following this thread. Now, I want to update my experience here. Had an Indo maid for 7 months exactly before releasing her back to agent 3 months back. Currently two sons age 2Y4M and 8M. Life is happier and manageable. My hubby travels frequently and I can juggle two sons on my own. Both my sons go to the CC. Everyday after work, I will pick them up, go home throw the bags down and dump the soiled cloth into pail, wash milk bottles, prepare cc wear, waterbottle and breastfeeding accessories for next day. Bought a dryer, every 2 or 3 day I will wash the laundry for the small ones or adults. Then keep in the cupboard neatly. We order dinner tingkat. Everyday, we complete all the tasks and settle down latest 830pm including ahower, washing up dishes, clean up dinning area, cut fruits.... Then I will play with them and watch tv while waiting for the cloth to spin dry. Still have spare time to clean the floor if needed. My experience, things have to be really systematic. Everybody including my husband in the house will play their role which is not to mess up the house. I will also throw in thawed frozen food for my small one together with our rice in the rice cooker. Add water and puree for him to eat together during dinner. I will freeze sweet potatoe, pumpkin, brocoli... as I type this, my small one sits on my lap watching nursery songs on tv and grumbling with fever....haha So far, everything is organised, easy access, and this cut down alot of frustration . I cannot say my house is neat and speck. Too much toys... books.... haiz

nms1, You are my first encouragement. Thank you.


Sure got more cons… am I able to survive? Can more mummies share your experience?

Can anyone advise me if I need a maid?


I have two sons age 2y and 4m. Both go to cc fulltime. Currently I have a maid who does the household works and cook simple dinner plus clear up the mess my sons made when we are at home. I am a FTWM and my hubby travels on avg 1 week a month. When my hubby travels, I could work around this by asking my mum to come over and help to take care of my sons after fetching them from cc.

I read the life without maid forum and were very motivated but guess its alot of work and tiredness. I could get those irobot vacum cleaner, dryer, dishwasher, spin and go… and part time maid. However still apprehensive I cannot cope esp now that the new law on indonesian maids has changed if I want to rehire one. My current one is ok, but like typical maid, can talk back and sometimes can’t follow instructions. These are the things I cannot take. haha… cause I’m hot and bad temper. Another factor I’m considering change is I am very protective of my sons. I do not like my maid to handle them even bath and wash hands… HOW? Pls help me.

I have been reading this thread countless times imagining life without maid. Buy the roomba, dryer, engage PT maid and etc. Feel inspired to go maidless. HOwever, I WORRY I can’t cope since I’m a FTWM. I have two kids who are 4 months and 2 years. They go to infant and childcare centers full time, and my maid stays at home alone during daytime doing household chores. I’m now struggling whether to transfer her since she can be rather free and bore at home all the time.


She has been working for me 6 months now. Basically she don’t have to take care of my two sons. Elder one is taken care by DH and younger one is taken care of by myself when we come back from work and on weekends. DH says it good to eat homecook food and does not want to help out much with housework but he is active to take care of son. I am still training my maid to cook food for the family. Every night I have to brief her how to cook for next day dinner and she helps to keep the house tidy.

Anyone has advise for me? Should I continue with her contract?