Hi Visual Text Education


Appreciate if you could send me the following exam papers :

1) Subject : English, A Maths, E Maths, Pure Chemical, Pure Biology, Elective Geography, Social Studies, Physics
2) Level : Sec 1, 2 ,3
3) Stream : Express
4) Topics: All
5) school: All
6) tests: CA1,SA1,CA2, SA2

My email is : [email protected]

Many thanks.

Lavina:

Hi LaziDad,


My 18yo son was also like that, eager to have friends but classmates rejected him.

There is a book Helping the child who doesn't fit in by StepHen Nowicki which is not bad. I also try to build good character such as be generous, helpful, tactful etc, and correct whatever inappropriate behaviour.

At the same time, I also emphasize \"better to journey alone than be badly accompanied\"

Even in primary school, he has met some boys who pretended to be his friends and then asked him to do bad things. He has also done some inappropriate things to please friends. So I trained him to be emotionally independent - friends are nice to have, but no need to go all out to make friends. Family more important than friends.

Just my 2 cents.

Totally agree with you and many thanks for the book.

Gifts from Heaven:

Hi LaziDad,


Have you found out why his classmates don't like him? Which specific behaviour of your son they don't like?
Have you tried to get the school to help?
People like his form teacher or the school's psychologist should be able to pair him up with some kids of his age so that they can play together, work together and help each other.
Also, maybe you can organise some play dates and invite a few boys from his class to come to your house to play with your son, so that they get to know him better. Or organise birthday party for your son and invite his classmates. Or even form study groups where a few kids come for an afternoon to study together and eat together. To get better response from the parents, you may need to provide transport and food. It's like a free kids' drop-off service for the parents. You can also use the opportunity to observe your son's interactions with his classmates and do the necessary guidance. You may want to read up on Theory of Mind. It is what makes your son thinks there is no problem with his behaviour and it is his classmates that have problems.

His form teacher told me that his classmates scare of him because he's unhygienic (eating his mucus etc ). I had him corrected though not 100% yet. The other things are he's always pushing his friend in order to be the first in the queue (any queue) or winner in games. If he can't win he will be upset and angry, sometimes violent.

Thanks for the tip of organizing party or study groups. I'll try and see how.

Have a great day!

Hi smlkhoo,


Thanks for the reply. The Autism thread is too long and I can’t find psychologist contacts there.

I’ll try your advice and explain to him again. How do you do that to your DD? you ask her everyday and explain to her or only when you know the incident?

Finally I can create a new thread :).


My DS is a high functioning ADS kid. He's doing fine academically. But he doesn't have friend at all. My heart sunk when he revealed to me one day that he had to play with P1 kids because nobody in his class wanted to play with him during the recess.

He wants to have friends, but the things he does in class often backfire and his classmates dislike him. I explained but he did not seem to understand. The way he see is his classmates are the problem because they don't behave in the way he expected them to behave :).

Do you think engaging a psychologist/therapist once a week to work with him may help? They're professionals and know how to explain to the kid. Please let me know if you have any recommended psychologist/therapist.

Thanks all.

Also want to say hi to all too, as I can't create topic and have to find way to earn KP$ :(.

Hi,


I would like to bring up this old thread for recommendation of good counsellors/motivation speakers 1-1 session. I’m having almost the same problem as TS with my teen boy.

Very appreciate your helps all.

Thx alot.

peterch:

Hi, one of my friend DD got this MT exemption and I read the letter from MOE regarding this.

According to the letter,
1. Your DS for can apply to any secondary school EXCEPT SAP school
2. Once you apply for this, you may apply to cancel the exemption but NOT Guaranteed

My advice, please think over this carefully and wisely. PM me your email, I'll try to get the copy of the letter for you.

Hi peterch,

PM you my email already. Thank you a million

Cheerfuldad:

Hi LaziDad,

Q1 His choices of seconday will not be limited. He will be using the PSLE T score based on 3 subjects to apply for all the Secondary Schools including RI, HCI, ACS, VS, etc. so long he meet the COP. This information has been confirmed by MOE and the schools I mentioned earlier.

Q2. Not Sure. :love:

Hi CheerfulDad,

Our nickname is very match :lol: . Thank a lot for your info. So my hope is alive again :).

Do you know what happen to the ML exempted boys in SAP school like HCI? Do they have to take HCL even they were exempted the ML in pri? Thx.