hquek:

1. stress to her to follow instructions. If she's not receptive, likely there are lots more worms you haven't uncovered yet.

2. remind her that roaches like to go where food is - by keeping food, she's only inviting friends of unwelcome sort. And tell her if she still keeps food, henceforth you will search her stuff every few days to remove all these and put in proper place. I don't think she'll like the idea of having you rummage through her stuff.

1. been doing that.

2. As I mentioned, I always gave reasons for things I ask her to do. She saw the ants in my kitchen and the roaches in my car and I too used that as reasons. I also told her we don't put food or eat in our roomso no double standards. But ya if I see food again. I will use your method.

Not going to take off days away for good. Maybe for three months or so.

Anyway, my old juicer was rescued from blowing so this one may be rescued too, if she is persistent in blowing it often. I actually don't want to remove her off days too.

lovekidsverymuch:

madinked:

She has since locked my girl in the storeroom, forgot to lock my car door but we never even punished or scolded her at all.

thats wat i am saying u being too liberal before if u suddenly become strict she will be no longer any good

And I'm saying not that she's very good in the first place. If I don't punish her, would she continue to be so careless with my things, knowing there is going to be no consequence. Of course she's going to be unhappy, but then she would also know it's fair and accept it.

lovekidsverymuch:

Well madinked u r giving too much liberty to ur maid useless to say u giving off every Sunday and now if u remove any liberty she will show black faces to u for sure

but if she's being so careless with my things, can't I punish her? I would think the punishment is fair.

She has since locked my girl in the storeroom, forgot to lock my car door but we never even punished or scolded her at all.

Thanks for your fast reply.


First, her attitude has never been good. She has been lazy, to say the least. For example, I just discovered not long ago, she hasn’t been cleaning my yard area. I asked her when she would clean it, she said when saw that it’s dirty. I used the shower head to flush the yard floor, and it was all dirt. She kept quiet.

There was another time I knew she kept food in her room. I told her not to do so. She said ok. After a few days, I still saw the food in the tin. I asked her if she still has any more food, she told me yes, she still got 2 packets of biscuits (I saw at least 6). Right in front of me, she took out the 2 packets of biscuits. I asked her again if that’s all, and she said yes. I asked her the reason for insisting on keeping the biscuits in the room, she said she wants to bring them out. But the thing is, she will have to walk past the kitchen anyway. Can’t she then take from the kitchen? Plus we assigned a place for her food. And we never opened that cupboard at all. In front of me, she so blatantly lied. What do you think of her attitude anyway?

I also stressed to her many times to be fair to us. Since she likes off days, we give to her. We only ask that she does her work properly. Which she is not consistent about. I have many grouses but I have put up with her. For everything I told her to do specifically, I always gave her the reason.

I just told her off yesterday, another incident, and told her to just follow instructions.

So having said that, I thought she would follow instructions today. I gave very specific instructions this morning, all because a previous maid spoilt another juicer so I was being very careful. I did tell her what to wash, and I didn’t say that of the motor part.

background info: She’s an ex-sin.

I need advice.


This morning, I wanted the maid to use the juicer. Being careful, I personsally took apart all the parts and left them in the sink for her to wash.

As for the motor part, I left it on a side table and told her to use a cloth to clean. I didn’t put it in the sink. Minutes later, I saw the maid washing the motor part. Needless to say, now the juicer can’t work. In an angry fit, I told her that after using the hairdryer to blow it for 2 months and the juicer still can’t work (come May), she will have to pay half for the juicer.

I know we can’t demand payment for spoilt items. But this is what I’m thinking. She has been with me for about half year. Since this year, we have been giving her every Sunday off, without any deductions in her salary. All in goodwill. But I’m thinking of taking away her off days in lieu of the deduction for the juicer. Can I do that? Since she cares about her off days so much, I thought this would be the best punishment.

kiasimom:

Haiz, that's why I always say maids to me are like men.
When you have them, you find them irritating, but when you don't have them, you miss them

True, true!!

Update on my maid, she asked for advance of $100 (that's equivalent to her 5 months pay since she's still repaying her loan) for the funeral. Should we? We are still insisting on seeing the death certificate first. But the funeral's on 10th. Even if we pay her, it will be on 10th or later. They can have the funeral first then pay? :?

Andaiz:

what'd you do madinked - whichever way it goes? In case they say it's too expensive to get (or send or some other excuse)would you still trust her? She even used her own flesh and blood to ,,, :shock:

I am going to remind her tonight to get the death cert. After which, I'm not going to say anything till end of the year. If she can't produce it by then, really, we all know the real truth. If it's real, she would produce. I'm only going to show her the site to let her know the extremity of her game.

Yesterday was supposed to be 2nd day of her mum's death but my dear girl hardly cried and had a voracious appetite. I am trying hard not to judge.

Hi hi,


Look what I have found. I don't know if this will be useful for other employers.

https://www.ecensus.com.ph/Secure/frmIndex.asp

US$20 to obtain a death certificate.

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I actually told maid this morning that the female boss of teh agency is my good friend. And she sms-ed me last night (I checked with her if the male agent told her about the death certificate) saying that there are many cheaters now, claiming deaths of mothers and fathers, so they now want the death certificate as proof. I asked maid to get the sister to send her a copy. On top of that, I told her that should she be unable to get it, I have a Filipino friend (this is true) whose relative is working for National Statistics Office in the Philippines so she will be able to help me obtain too.

The moment I mentioned death certificate (she gave me the crying look) and the moment I mention cheaters, she looked away for a while. Body language that she's lying.

Now I shall wait to see the death certificate. If she can really produce a genuine one, then I will prove her innocent.

Guilty unless proven.

Just an update.


I think after hinting and waiting for us to lend her the money for the tickets to no avail, my maid she decided not to go back afterall. Said she will stay to repay loan. I am prepared for her to leave after she has paid up her loan. Can icancel her work permit then?

My husband still treated her really nice. Still helped her do partial housework. The more I think about it, the more I think is a hoax. I am going to throw her more housework to do, just to ‘keep her busy’. I am helping her, right? I just don’t want her to think she managed to get away with the lie.

kiasimom, actually it was our agency who told us we would be blacklisted. Sigh stupid us for not reporting to the police after 2 of the maids ran away.