I thought of that… but how to manage three kids and a full time career? He has so much time with him and money, I may not even win custody of the kids…

He wanted me to spend more time on kids, not happy that I worked long hours. I worked part time for a short while to take care of my kids. But I feel that coming back to full time career might be the right decision for me, though I would need to juggle three kids with no helper and also a full time job.

newbieks, you are right. He will still take me for granted regardless whether he gains more money from his side and still take advantage of me. Definitely his money will be finished one day, and it will not matter anymore whether it’s divorce or not that time, as the court cannot do anything to him too. It seems like a dead end to me in the future ahead ! Oh dear…

That’s why I’m very pissed off with his false accusation that I live off him. Other than providing the house by his father, I have been self reliant for my own expenses, my kids expensive tuition and enrichment fees, the groceries and daily expenses. He didn’t even give any. So unfair of him to say this… a lot of things to iron out with him when he goes for counselling.

His father gave him the money, perhaps told him never to trust anybody else, I don’t know the answer… Especially this is the only money for my husband’s survival of his remaining years, as he doesn’t want to work, has been leeching on his parents for the past 12 years…

Yes court ordered mandatory counselling, and he can’t run away from it…

To him I’m an outsider, so I have never been involved in his finance planning at all.

Dear Esteema, you are right. Now we are still comfortably living. But I always look far ahead. I worry in years to come, my family would be homeless instead if we need to sell our house to survive, though I’m holding a job. I just hope that we can see the kids through their education , have their own jobs and achieve independence, that will be one load off our shoulders first.

My concern is also how long can my husband’s money last? He still has 30-40 years to live, when his money exhausted , what if he expects me to support him, using the marital house paid by his father as an excuse? He has no health insurance at all. We still have 3 schooling kids. I consulted my lawyer and she suggested post nuptial agreement. If it’s divorce, he will still pay alimony using his money,but the court cannot do anything if his money is exhausted years down the road.

How can he be homeless when he can use 1.7million cash inheritance to buy himself a nice house? After selling the parents house , he gets more cash somemore? Both are in fifties already. My husband doesn’t want to work and we have 3 kids… really don’t understand my husband. The court orders him to go for mandatory counselling, and he can’t run away from it , like he used to at the family service center.

My husband is taking over my late father in law’s duties of paying for the household utilities including his brother’s handphone bill some more. Perhaps what I assume is he allows his brother to stay inside, and his brother using part of the money inheritance to buy over half the house? But my brother in law has a job what… Don’t understand the brothers