I’m sometimes home alone with my maid when my mother is out and DS is in school. I stay in another room - my office - doing my stuff. Maid is always outside in the living room or kitchen doing whatever that she’s doing.


Sometimes when we need to be out "together" she would walk some distance from me and in MRT she would sit elsewhere. Others would not have guess we knew each other.

For this… I’m thankful!

I guess if you can’t trust your hubby then I don’t know what to say. Don’t hire maid lor… beauty is in the eye of the beholder so who’s to say if one is attractive to whom?

omgmum:

I also find that my maid acts one way in front of me, and another way in front of my husband. Does anyone else has that experience?

My maid is the same. She has been with us for about 1.5 years now. Started off very on-the-ball and do things proactively. She claims that she has worked in KL for a Chinese family for 4-years so I expected her to know \"stuff\".

About 6-9 months into the employment she started to get lazy. She listens to me but not my mother. Problem is that I do travel at times and my mother would complain to me about her going off doing what she pleases. She never admit her mistakes and sometime I catch her answering loudly to my mother.

Maid.. such headache. But I can't do without one at the moment

Orangetommy:

Personal reasons suggests that she is blackmailing you, or has something over you. If that is the case it might just be worth paying her in advance and suggesting she visits her mother. Then you could just cut you losses and hire a new maid, perhaps through a reputable agency and make sure that this one has impeckable references.
Otherwise, if she has nothing over you then don't give her any more money. That is what I think anyway!

\"Personal reasons\" in that I may need her assistance later on due to some of the events she witness. I'm sure she know that I'm dependent on her and she is using this to her advantage. Hence I'm stuck in this delicate situation.

DesertWind:

Hi Hi,

I ever loan my maid about 2 months of salary too and I did not like the feeling at all although she stayed with me for 4 years already! That was to pay for her daughter's stay in hospital for about a week.

During that 2 months tempers were short since she owed me money.

After that, I told her very clearly that I will not ever loan her more than 1 month again. Irregardless of what situation. So far when she went on home leave to build the house and want more money to pay the builders, at most I advance her that current month's pay. The rest she can otang, come back work for 2-3 months then remit money back again to pay off the builders or get another part built!

Long and short, take a stand and either tell your maid you will not loan anymore or at best just for one month. If you cannot terminate her now but don't want to be caught lending her money, this is what you should do. If she not happy she can walk off herself and then you can change maid!

I guess I will go with the \"one month advance\". Actually if she is telling the truth then I won't mind advancing her salary to aid her mother's medical treatment. Unfortunately there is no way to tell for certain.

Thank you all for your advice.

Hi,


My maid of 1.5 years keep borrowing money from me and my mother. She would ask my mother for a $100 loan and than on pay day I would return the money to my mother. Before her one year is up she told me that her father is ill and wish to go back to visit him. I paid for the airfare.

She just borrowed 2 months pay from me (pay till Sept) last month and now she is asking to borrow money again citing that her mother needs knee surgery.

If I advance her pay and she wants to go home citing that her mother is not well there is a possibility that she may not return since she has advance enough pay to worth her while.

To say the least… she is not a good helper. But because of personal reasons I cannot dismiss her.

BTW, her contract expires March 2012.

Any advice? Thanks.