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Presby:

Why did a child become a bully? What prompted that behaviour? TV, Movies or violent computer games? Somehow it's unavoidable for a child to be exposed to violent as it is prevalent in TV, movies and games today. Sometimes they may learnt it from their parents, relatives and friends.


Many parents are generally OK if their child is a bully or rude to others. Recently I opened the door for a lady and the kid she was with was rude to me and scream that he wants to open the door but the lady just smile.

Do most parents understand the impact on the child that is a bully or rude? The child may lose friends and won't get support in school. If the behaviour persisted through to his or her adult life, he or she may be ostracized in the workplace or society.

This shows the lack of awareness among parents. Do most young parents know what and how to teach their children? Many may have the basics to inculcate their child but is it enough? How then can they develop a more holistic development so that their child has the right behaviour to be successfully in school and adult life? We can't educate other people's children and can only help our own children react in the most productive manner in today's world. The point is what can we do.

I beg to differ
BULLY wont be ostracized. In fact BULLY in class gather more bully to join in the act.
THE VICTIM is the one that will be ostracized instead.

My niece has been a victim since Sec 1.
We confronted the school involving the principal, vice principal and form teacher.
Ended up now she become the one ostracized in school.

This is so sad. It seems like a pretty serious case for the parents to take it up to the principal. The school should be objective in dealing with the case and help the victim overcome it. Would it be helpful if the case is taken up with MOE? The worst case may be to transfer the student to another class or even another school. If the same happens to my daughter, I will probably press on.

Why did a child become a bully? What prompted that behaviour? TV, Movies or violent computer games? Somehow it’s unavoidable for a child to be exposed to violent as it is prevalent in TV, movies and games today. Sometimes they may learnt it from their parents, relatives and friends.


Many parents are generally OK if their child is a bully or rude to others. Recently I opened the door for a lady and the kid she was with was rude to me and scream that he wants to open the door but the lady just smile.

Do most parents understand the impact on the child that is a bully or rude? The child may lose friends and won’t get support in school. If the behaviour persisted through to his or her adult life, he or she may be ostracized in the workplace or society.

This shows the lack of awareness among parents. Do most young parents know what and how to teach their children? Many may have the basics to inculcate their child but is it enough? How then can they develop a more holistic development so that their child has the right behaviour to be successfully in school and adult life? We can’t educate other people’s children and can only help our own children react in the most productive manner in today’s world. The point is what can we do.

How do we react to punishment when we were kids? My reaction is fear that my parents will cane me but did I remember the lessons and did I remember why I was caned? No. I just remember not to piss off my parents. Is this learning? So does punishment really works? The child lied like we did when we were young. Now that we have grown up, do we stop lying? So what is the best way to deal with a child lying?

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Well, what can i say, i have a son who is terribly weak in the math and chinese subjects. After outsourcing his education in those areas to subject experts, he has shown more interest in his academic work. I really do think that once we as parents divest ourselves from all that emotional baggage of wanting our kids to do well for each and every subject, we all end up tons happier and loads more well adjusted.

nice one there! my friend's daughter was quite weak in her studies, so my friend engaged private tutors for her. Her tutors' role was to help her with academic related stuff, and as a mum, my friend's role is to encourage and support her daughter whenever she faces any difficulty or fear in learning. This is been going on very well and her daughter has been progressing and improving steadily!

Glad to hear that the tuition has helped your friend's daughter. Can something be done before a weakness is identified and rectified before the need for tuition arises? What can be done differently for new parents so that the child do not need tuition going forward? If tuition is not required, then the child will have more time for other more meaningful pursuits rather spending double or triple the time to learn the same thing.

This is a great place for new parents to pick up tips on bringing up children. However, many tips may back-fired depending on the child and circumstances. It is a daunting task for parents today to raise their children and most are not equipped to do the job correctly. Wouldn’t it be great if there is a child’s formative years development program available for new parent to use as a tool for bringing up their child?