slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2135035\" time=\"1718360050\" user_id=\"28674:

You have to understand that they aren't just being careless, they really can't tell what is too much. They don't know what is offensive, and it's hard to always have to remember the rules when you are relaxed. While you should keep reminding him and hope the rules become habitual, it takes a long time to build habits, and sometimes they won't be perfect.

Yes, there will be people who he should be wary of, but he won't always be able to tell. Does he have classmates who understand enough to keep a watch out for him? My daughter didn't, but thankfully, she has always been with people who are generally kind, or at least neutral. She has been bullied occasionally, but not too much, and we use those instances as teaching opportunities. For work, as a last resort, you can ask for help from Enable SG and Autism Resource Centre. My daughter was helped by them to get a job, and her boss has been understanding, but of course, it means the condition has to be declared.

We never considered letting our daughter go overseas to study - too many things could go wrong.

@slmkhoo Thanks for the sharing We understand that he lacks of empathy (part of the spectrum). I guess have to constantly talk/remind him. He is quite involved in my SIL church and we always encourage him to attend as the churchmates are kind and understanding people. They know his situation so is more tolerate.

Yup. We also his own \"case studies\" as teaching opportunities. I am also planning to visit Enable SG/Autism Resource Center for assistance as likely we will want him to be exempted from NS (psych has also suggested this).

Another concern is if he is exempted from NS, will that affect his career down the road. Also insurance part. I was told by an agent that people on the spectrum have problems buying health insurance. Do you face similar issues with insurance for your daughter? Thank you

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2135016\" time=\"1718337822\" user_id=\"28674:

My daughter is also high functioning autistic (Aspergers is no longer the official term for this). She's already graduated and working. Yes, oversharing is an issue as they don't realise how others will take what they say. Besides seeing a psych, do you talk to him about this at home? Perhaps you can give him some simple rules to follow - telling him what sorts of things he shouldn't say. We have been advising our daughter since she was young about what she should and shouldn't say about certain topics, and rehearsing with her the kinds of answers that she can use. This helps her say something without telling too many details. What sorts of things does he say that you think inappropriate?

Thanks slmkhoo for sharing. Yes both DH and I, and the psych have given him guidelines/rules to follow. We have also talked to him in length several times. In fact his oversharing caused unhappiness to some people around him and he knows the consequences (cos they will keep a distance from him thereafter). But don't know why he is still doing that esp when people are friendly to him and he will let down his guard and start the sharing part.

We have repeatly cautioned him to be weary of people that not all of them have good intentions. Just worry he will offend/being make us of others in future esp when he goes to work. Cos of this, we are also concern if he is suitable to study overseas by himself next time.

My son has Asperger (high functioning). Now in one of the Poly. One of the problems with him is he tends to overshare personal stuff with people who are friendly to him and can take things literally. We have arranged for him to see a Psychologist who has been helping him cope with these stuff.


But seems things are not really improving. We worry people may take advantage of this weakness of him (which happened before during his Secondary school time). Anyone in similar situation? If so, could share/advise how you cope please. Thanks