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I can feel your frustration and anxiety. You can see the long-term consequences of your child's actions but your child seems to live for each day, each moment and does not fully appreciate why you focus your attention on the need for study and the importance of PSLE.

I'd like to offer a few observations and questions:

1. What daily structure/timetable have you established with your child? Is there a clear agreement between you and your child about how much is spent on each activity eg TV, computer, homework, revision, mealtimes, personal free-and easy time, etc?

My 3 children are not academically strong (2 older ones in P4 & P5 and youngest in K2) but one of the foundations I've instilled in my children is \"Self-Control\" & \"Discipline\" and I achieve these 2 behaviours through Clear Structure for all activities. For eg, my children are only allowed to have 30 mins of TV per child per day. They can choose their own programme on the channels I've approved. How do I know if my children watch only for 30 mins of TV? Each of them MUST use the timer clock (which I've purchased and used since they were in pre-schoolhttps://www.rachat-de-credit-simulation.com/regroupement-de-pret) when they start and when the timer goes off, the TV must be switched off. The timer is a Structure. The Time given of 30mins is also a Structure. What if they do not follow through? I've a clear Structure of Consequences for Non-Compliance or disobedience. They are banned from TV for the next day. Disobey for 2nd time, the ban on TV will be for one week. But I also balance with Rewards. If my child demonstrates he has done his homework properly and show good behaviour or it's the school holiday, they get to watch 1 hour of TV or watch a DVD which is 1.5 hours. This is just one example of TV. I use similar approaches for other activities too.

2. Motivation & Attention. Most children have short attention span and our school system promotes a very dry and unmotivating way of learning. Our children may not see the Relevance of the subjects they learn. They feel demoralized by memorising of facts and feeling underachievement.

For topics that my children are under-achieving and find them dry and boring, I find that as a parent I need to make the revision time in BITE SIZE. I organize the topics and use only 30mins for each topic and try to create some fun into them. For eg, we sometimes we role-play. My children become the Teacher and I become the student. Another time, we may do a quiz game and we form teams and win points. I keep these revision time-slots SHORT. 30 mins and if needed come back for another 30mins after the kids have some playtime.

Other times, I share with my kids which Mathematical operation or Scientific Principle is being used in daily life eg in cooking, in business, in shopping, etc. When children see the connection and relevance, they begin to appreciate. If I make them feel guilty, they will avoid learning and they feel demoralized. My questions for you to consider is: What Learning Approaches will be motivating for your child?

3. Study Environment. Is there a dedicated space for study? How organized and free from distractions is the study space? What environment would help your child to focus his attention? My children are given specific spaces to do their work and I train them to sit only in that space for studying. No studying on beds. I ensure their chairs structured properly for good posture and there's good lighting.

I hope these ideas may help you.

Hello, banning TV is not really my method, for me either I confiscate his phone and for the youngest I put it in the corner at least 15 minutes