I agree with you on the ‘no cane’ approach. When I cane, would I not be encouraging the aggressive and physical solution to the problems. However, I know parents who do cane, and I am persuaded to do so even by school teachers. So there were a few occasions when I do toggle between "cane" and "no cane". Nonetheless, I came to the conclusion that, cane is fine, but I need to be calm when I do so, i.e. I do not cane when I am angry.


Thanks for the sharing of your thoughts.