KSmom8:My maid has been rude, slacking in her chores, ignoring to help out with my DS2. Finally arranged for a new maid to come in 2 weeks time, current maid does not know. Recently, agent advised her to do her job well till her contract expires ( she does not want to continue anyway ) so that I will agree to buy an air ticket ( more expensive ) to an airport nearer to her home, instead of what is stated in contract. She seemed fine and was quite happy cos i had bought a gift for her that day. However, the next day, she was so ill that she had to lie in bed. Brought her to doc, blood pressure was ok, no fever, no ear inflammation, she complained of giddiness. Doc said could be middle ear imbalance, could occur after a bout of flu...but she did not have flu previously. Anyway, decided to give her benefit of doubt, cos there is no physical sign for this ailment. She lay/ slept in room most of day, for 4 days!!! Seemed well enough to do minor chores that needed to be done urgently, and during those times, she would seem ok, and then at other times, she would just lie down. On the 5th day, she decided to rearrange the cleaning schedule...she only vacuum floor and did not mop, hang laundry from washing machine.... took her bath about 9am ( supposed to be around 7am ) which is around the same time as my DS2 bath, and went to bed thereafter at around 10am. This effectively meant that she had no intention of helping with preparing DS2 for school or with heating up his lunch! On the previous day, she also took a late bath but at least she helped with heating of food for lunch and rested after we had left for school. I was so mad that just before I left to send DS2 to school, I told that if she was so ill, I would need to send her to hospital. However, since I had no time, Sir would do it or Agent will send her, then I stormed out of the house. Miraculously, when i returned, my maid was up, offered to help carry groceries, prepared food for dinner and was ok for the rest of the afternoon and night ( though she did not keep the laundry ). I learnt that sometimes I need to lose my temper at the maid...normally I will try to keep cool and discuss things over with my maids. I now think no need to be nice, otherwise maid will makan employer. Just hope that it's the end of her giddy spells and lying down to rest... Don't think I can tahan for 2 more weeks ( already bought her air ticket and to her destination of choice! ) Hubby thinks that I should send her home immediately, but DS1 in midst of exams so an extra pair of hands would be helpful and I don't want to waste the air ticket ..however, if she decides to be \"unhelpful\" again, then it will be so stressful again. Any advice?
It's true that you need not be so nice to them at times. If not, they will really climb over your head. This is what my friend realised recently with her maid. She found out recently that her maid has 10 \"boyfriends\" outside. Being busy with her work she din realises it till now. When confronted, she denied it. Only when my friend threatened to bring her to the police station where she finally begged her not to do so. Sometimes fear can be a useful tool if need to be exercised upon