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Sutton:

Come to think of it, regardless of whether the children are given rice or noodles, the children are still given food and do not go hungry.


Whatever food they have, their sustenance are still well taken care of.

But of course, we may have some brats who demand that what they are going to eat must be printed on a menu in black and white, thinking they're in some kind of fancy restaurant.

Oh, I am surprised in this era, we are still fixated about subsistence.

When someone feeds your child a piece of sh!t, you just ask your child to swallow it. Can't even question why because sh!t can fill your child's stomach, and for that you should be grateful instead of asking pesky questions.

Was 'sh!t' on the menu? :yikes: God forbids that!!!

Come to think of it, regardless of whether the children are given rice or noodles, the children are still given food and do not go hungry.


Whatever food they have, their sustenance are still well taken care of.

But of course, we may have some brats who demand that what they are going to eat must be printed on a menu in black and white, thinking they’re in some kind of fancy restaurant.

It’s never easy to get along with the in-laws. Reason being we all come from different backgrounds and suddenly we are supposed to ‘live together’ as a family. To us, it’s like suddenly we have a different set of parents whom we are clueless about, and to the in-laws, suddenly they have a different ‘Daughter’ or ‘Son’ whom they never knew or understand. There’s no blood relation, whatsoever between us, hence the feelings of estrangement, no matter how familiar one eventually gets with them. Whatever you say or how you behave will be forever under their scrutiny and any mistakes, shortcomings or limitations we have will not be readily condoned, accepted or forgivable. Not so if we were their own flesh and blood. So bottom line is, yeah…我们不是他们生的.


Whatever misgivings we have with our in-laws, what we need to work hard at, is to give them due respect. Not just because they are our spouse’s parents, but also to show them that we are well brought up by our own parents. 我们是有家教的人. That will give them no leeway to look down on us.

I think the best way to maintain harmony and preserve goodwill with the in-laws is to demonstrate more love, empathy and patience with them. Try to resolve things in a win-win situation and inject some sense of humour into issues that may get sticky. Yes, it can be a feat especially when our in-laws are stubborn and unreasonable. The fact that most of these elderly folks are not much or highly educated makes it even harder to ‘reach out’ to them. Change is always a scary thing to them and for them to adapt to the younger generation’s ways of doing things is like asking for the impossible. Just go with the flow and as long as an unkind word or act is avoided, that is victory on our part.

Another word of advice, try not to be too reliant on your in-laws. You’ll be surprised that they will respect you more.