is it wrong if i m the one who ask for divorce? is there any rules or policy saying tt one party cant initialize D?

ny parents volunteer for this year in gong shang. m still waiting for their email for volunteer jobs. izit they dont bother whether ur email add is correct or not they dont call n double check? especially email id hv zeros tt looks may look like ‘o’ to them. n email with yahoo some hv .sg some dont hv

yesterday my gal was telling me she was talking to him on the phone. He told her i don't love your mummy anymore, don't want her already also know that i call him that why refuse to answer my call. How could he tell my gal all these things. He thinks he is in the right, because of me that me him go and stray or a person stray and wants to push all the blame to the other spouse? All the while he did not financially support my kids for their school fees, diapers, milk powder etc. The house power supply bills, town council fees all are being paid by me. He has the money rather choose to spend on the scandal then to contribute to the house. How could he be so hard hearted and blaming me for all these. He is treating the house like hotel comes back very late and go to work so early. I am also a human he thinks i can stand all this nonsense? I am trying to keep cool and he do and says all these things to made me lose my patience again.

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hubby got EMA as i suspected in mar this year. His hp bill $200 plus lots of oseas calls. call everyday n one day can call more than 4 times. working on shift. oso if to file seperation any cheap lawyer to recomm? nw wat i worry is my gal no one to bring her hm after her 3hrs kindergarden(k1). currently is my mil taking care she is staying with us. relationship wif her is sour most of the time quarrel wif hubby cause of her. she is not spontaneous enough i m a working mum. everyday got to rush hm like mad women. go hm wash floor, my clothes eat dinner then go bring my younger son at nanny hse. so routine n stress. nite time got to take care of both she no need. long weekend is the worst both will fight. mil sometimes bo chap.


how cld u forgive ur spouse for straying so easily. till now i still cannot forgive n forget, staying under the same roof somemore. wanted to "d" but thoughts of the kids. lately his attitude also change last time when he is not working, he will sit infront of tv watch show. lately sudden change play with the kids . last time will just sit there see tv eyes glue tightly to it. so far i had no concrete proof what his r/s with tt gal. what made me puzzle is he keep on saying not enoug ppl need to do OT. where got ppl work more than 24hrs and is almost everyday. currently he is working shift work. got more to come suddenly bring hm so many clothes which i had nvr see him wear before. all this really made me more suspicious. talk to him awhile, his mood swing say u dont trust him. he said he want freedom sick of this family life. He said i never thinks of others made him no friend, no relatives. he want to go co D&D, friends wedding etc i let him go as long as he is in spore i m fine. he secretly go made new passport, go jb with tt gal somemore. although i had no proof but when call his hp is off, call office they said he had left for the day already. didnt come home til next morning abt 9am tell me got to finish work then come hm i know all this are lies but cannot confront him. he did not even pay a single cents for the kids fees, insur, milk powder, diapers, etc. when press him keepon telling me give him one more yr. yrs n yrs had past still no progress. got money spend on EMA no money for the kids.

Sometimes can even didn’t come home and sleep when asked will always the same reason not enough people got to cover duties. All these are lies.

hi cwc i totally agrees with sall my relationship with DH is getting worst, MIL i hardly talk to her for years. DH always side n speakup for MIL. He now said had enough of me saying he got no says in the hse somemore. this is actually excuses so tt he can stray outside.

will a personadmit he is having EMA if family members asked him? the mum n sis ask him he keep denying no, just said not enough manpower need to do OT. will not admit until it is caught or have concrete proof izit true?

how cld u forgive ur spouse for straying so easily. till now i still cannot forgive n forget, staying under the same roof somemore. wanted to \"d\" but thoughts of the kids. lately his attitude also change last time when he is not working, he will sit infront of tv watch show. lately sudden change play with the kids n. last time will just sit there see tv eyes glue tightly to it. so far i had no concrete proof what his r/s with tt gal. what made me puzzle is he keep on saying no ppl doing OT. where got ppl work more than 24hrs and is almost everyday. currently he is working shift work. got more to come suddenly bring hm so many clothes which i had nvr see him wear before. all this really made me more suspicious. talk to him awhile, his moid swing say u dont trust him. he said he want freedom, i never thinks of others made him no friend, no relatives. he eant to go co D&D, friends wedding etc i let him go as long as he is in spore i m ok. he secretly go made new passport, go jb with tt gal somemore. although i had no proof but when call his hp is off, call off they said he left already. didnt come home til next morning abt 9am tell me got to finish work then come hm i know all this r lies but cannot confront him. he did not even pay a single cents for the kids fees, insur, milk powder, diapers, etc. when press him keepon telling me give him one more yr. yrs n yrs had past still no progress. got money spend on EMA no money for the kids. :frustrated:

i had tried to savalage this marriage by showinh him my concern endup he said i nvr thinks of others his mil oso bot happy wif me. said i selfish all this while i hv sacrifice all my times to the kids at hm nobody knows or see it. he said his mum wan go the other bro hse n stay cause i was bad to her. he also must understand i m working everday rush hm like mad women do some chores then go bring my younder son is like mad women u know. somemore nite time got to wakeup sometimes the elder want will asked for milk n is very tiring not enough sleep. sometimes need mil to help look after coz i need to wash my clothes or keep. oso to teach my gal writing is this wrong? she isnot volunteer or spontaneous to help me of coz i will lose my temper looking at all the pressure i went thru. he still can comment only u tired others not. my gal is five this yr daytime mil no need do so much hsework she can rest tt shd benough. i work come hm fetch son play n look after them, i where got rest tell me who is more tired. he somemore say wan freedom ask me dont interfere. how i know wat he do outside who he goes out wif if i dont ask. he want go company event friends wedding i let him go as ling is in spore i dont mind. father of 2 shd b mature to think rite still wan enjoy n play. menvr think of others who come n think of me then i m going crazy. he outside got affair doesnt wan to admit. hv not ask him abt the osea calls

my mil i say her abit face black behind my back complain to hubby. scold my gal she oso complain worst behind my back somemore. hubby always side her. i says his mum wat wat wat he always give lamn excuses. hubby complain say his sis come i gave black face. whr got i came hm saw SIL come smile to my gal just nvr greet her cause i know she hates me. i just go rm put my bag n change clothes i come out she go homes so many times liao i just hack care. nw he blames me for dis outside stray i cries til eyes swollen. cant tell my family as i doesnt wan to stir up yet currently no concrete proof. i scold my kids mil give black face not happy. but she can pass remarks says later mummy scold kids dont listen to her i m kind so raise my voice onthe kids she not happy wat she wan???

hubby got ema as i suspected. this mth his hp bill $200 plus lots of oseas calls. call everyday n one day can call more than 4 times. working on shift. need to check any cheapest PI to recommend? how long they track n do they do oseas

trans? oso if to file seperation any cheap lawyer to recomm? nw wat i worry is my gal no one to bring her hm after her 3hrs kindergarden(k1). currently is my mil taking care she is staying with us. relationship wif her is sour most of the time quarrel wif hubby cause of her. she is not spontaneous enough i m a working mum. everyday got to rush hm like mad women. go hm wash floor, my clothes eat dinner then go bring my younger son at nanny hse. so routine n stress. nite time got to take care of both she no need. long weekend is the worst both will fight. mil sometimes bo chap