Hi All

need some advise from U all experience parents. I am currently a working mother of 2, (3 1/2 years old and 9mths old). My girl currently in Nursery at PCF, next year when she is in K1 and my younger boy 18mths, I am thinking of enrolling both of them to a full time childcare. Reason is
1) For my girl, 1/2 day learning in the morning, but in the afternoon, she just watch TV and I find she will be very lonely at home alone just with my mum and nobody to play with her,
2) As my mum takes care of her, she tends to be very protective, when I compare her with her peers, I found she is not independent at all. She still needs to be feed, whereas I see my collegues kids who is in full time child care, can already eat by themself at this age

however, if I enroll both of them to child care, my maid will be very free but I can’t get rid of my maid cause my hb usually needs to travel very frequent and I need a helper during the weekend

Any advise?

Last nite went into my girl room, while she sleep...rememeber what all U had say, suddenly I feel so satisfy and my eyes turn red...I feel so ashame with myself. The little girl sleeping on her bed, she is so sweet and lovely....Thanks all for your encouagement

Thanks U all for your support, thats exactly what I need…support. I feel like a bad mummy cause in my heart, I do think about "There is nothing I can feel proud or can ‘show off’ my girl…" After having this thought in my mind, I feel like slapping myself real hard, how can I feel that way, my girl is a pretty, cute and wonderful girl, she had done nothing wrong, its not wrong to perform not as good as her cousin.

I send my girl to enrichment class when she is 8mths old, classes like igenius etc, but my SIL always like to comments, :ai yo, dun need all this crap la, my ‘EN’ also never attend such classes but looks she is so smart. I charge U 1/2 the price, and I teach your girl, just flash card only meh…such comments really piss me off. I dun mean to train my kids to be a genius, but at least as a mummy, I like her to explore as much as she can…She is now only in her nursery, cannot image in the next few years…

I know if I wrote this out, lots and lots of mummies out there will scold me, but I just wanna say things out rather than keeping things inside my heart. My girl is born Dec’05, she is currently in the nursary class at PCF and I think she could be a year end baby, she may not be as ‘mature’ as the rest of her classmate. My niece who is her classmate, born in May’05. (8 mths older than my girl). is an extremely ‘mature’ kids, speak well, extremely smart, outspoken, well liked, cute and pretty. The teacher in the school and even my mum (she is currently taking care of my girl and my niece) tends to compare both of them.

The teacher comments : Both of them spend so much time together, how come Xing (my girl) didn’t pick up a bit from En (my neice)
My mum comments (out concern)…wow En knows how to write her own name…Xing cannot even write a letter ‘A’ well… U must teach her leh…
my proud SIL like to say, U know En so smart, she knows all this, I only need to teach her once…
Yestersday ‘meet parent section’ I feel really lousy that on the development section, my girl rating are mostly ‘2’ (out of 5) and just a few ‘3’, whereas my niece is almost all ‘5’ with a few ‘4’. My SIL is really proud, teacher comments : wow Vicky is so smart U must have done a lot at home. SIL comments "No, I dun even have time to read her any story"…
When at home she will line by line explain to my mum the good comments teacher write on her daughter, where I feel like ‘hiding’ myself in the kitchen, quietly eating my dinner.
mummies, I know U will all say, dun compare, all childrens are born differently. I know, but all I want is my girl to be average, not below average. I feel myself is a very very lousy mummy, really bad and lousy