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BUT, he managed to score close to fullmarks for everything. So, I don't know what's the problem, I also did not do anything. No amount of screaming or scolding, carrot or stick worked.

wow, almost full marks? was he in a very good school? my son is in one of the very lousy neighbourhood school. we didn't manage to be balloted for the better primary school in the neighbourhood. his results are not perfect but hovering around 80 marks +/-. im concern because i feel the school standard is quite low. so the marks may not truely reflect the standard of a good school ie he will score lower marks in a good school. and also i believe his classmates are mostly quite weak so he does not feel motivated to do better as he feels he is already very good. he did not managed to get into the best class (1 best class, 1 lousy class and 4 normal classes). i also heard p1 and p2 levels are not difficult. but p3 onwards, syllabus is going to move very quick. if he is scoring aces i would leave him to be too like u did. sigh.

how did u manage to transfer him out of sec sch to a uni? which uni is it?

my son loses his things all the time too. sigh. i think if i add up all i have bought over last three years, i can open a stationary shop. i ensure he is equip the night before (2 pencils, 1 green pen, 1 eraser, 1 box leads, 1 ruler) and the next night after school, some of the items will be missing or replaced with someone else’s. when questioned, he would reply ‘don’t know’. punishing him doesn’t improve the situation to make him more responsible for his belongings. i give up on buying water bottles for the same reason so he just uses a mineral water bottle. ditto for coin pouch so he just puts the coins into his pocket. forgetting to learn spelling, homework, bad handwriting is usual for my son too. and yes, he loves to visit the school bookshop to buy useless items and recess is his favourite period so he can play catching with his friends. if only he is so enthusiastic about his other periods and work. sigh. yup, same situation of a active boy with attention problems, daydreaming. i need help… advise to make him responsible to at least finish his school and tuition work quickly. he really takes his own sweet time to think and write. if he stays focus , the worksheet can be completed within 45 mins. but he will take 3 hours. 2 hours if i remind him to do his worksheet every 30 mins. 1.5 hours if i sit down beside him and look at him do.

i face a similar situation with jasmine82. my boy is 9 and in p3 this year. he always has a very nonchalant attitude when it comes to any work. when it comes to games of any types, cartoons, he becomes alive and passionate.


recent case in hand: i check his school work almost every night. i would sit with him and he flips his school books page by page to check for homework. i had since early this year reminded him everyday to write his homework in his handbook but he had only done it once or twice. tried to encourage by praising him when he did but it didn’t work, he does not consistenyl write his homework list down. he will say he has finished his homework but when i check, will always discover undone homework and when questioned why, he says he forgot so i make him check in front of me page by page. he also needs to complete his work in front of me. if i am not around, he will be day dreaming and not doing his work.

this week, the chinese teacher called to say he has not handed in his chinese homework for nearly a month! i am so disdraught with this piece of news because i do check his work, he check his work but still, i am not able to detect he has not handed in his chinese homework. i had a discussion with the chinese teacher and she is agreeable to work together to ensure he writes his chinese homework in the handwork. sad to say the teacher teaching him english/maths rejected and said she is not able to monitor him so closely due to the size of class.

when asked, my son will reply he cannot remember. he is not afraid of our discipline. we have tried hard way and soft way. it may work for couple of days and he is back to his old self.

i really wonder how i can teach him to be more focus and concentrate on what he is doing. i know if i sit beside him during all his waking hours, he will be doing what he needs to do. but i really cant afford not to work. i am only asking that he be responsible and hands in his school work on time. what can i do?