Name: Sugiyanti (Yanti for short)

DOB: 02/02/1980
WP No.: 0 06034659

When she first joined our family to look after my in-law’s granny, we thought she was a very caring and considerate person. She did her household chores very well and she was very fast and efficient. The best part was everybody in the family liked her. She was very conversational and her English was very good for an Indonesian.

It appeared that things were too good to be true. Things started to happen when granny was alone with her during the daytime. (I disagree leaving a helper alone with an elderly but the decision was not up to me) :
1. Granny had a bad fall which fractured her hip. She couldn’t be operated due to her old age and had to rely on painkiller forever!
2. Granny started getting bruises on her forearm. When asked what happened, she said she don’t know.
3. Doctor diagnosed that granny was malnutrition. If granny refused to take dinner, she will only get to eat the following day during breakfast.
4. Granny fell and had a deep cut on her head when she brought granny out.
5. Granny had a deep cut on her left arm during shower.
5. Granny had another cut on her right arm when the arm got caught in the wheelchair.

Whether it was accidental or intentional. Despite the above, my in-laws still wanted to keep her.

Slowly, things started to get missing. Useful household stuff and my personal stuff
1. Wooden Spatula
2. Porcelain pot for cooking tonic
3. Microfiber floor rub from 6 pieces to 4 pieces
4. Brand new skirt
5. She even poured my toiletries inside small bottles for her personal use.
6. etc

To make matters worse, she was given the authority to ‘run’ the household. Eventually, she got involved in our family matters and caused our family members to fall out with each other. It took us a great deal of planning to get rid of her.

Word of advise:

1. Never, ever leave your vulnerable elderly and children alone with a helper no matter how reliable she seems.
2. Never give too much freedom or authority to a helper.
3. Install CCTV as deterrent and a record when things happen.
4. Never, ever involve a helper in family affairs. (not even letting the helper hear the content of the discussion).

I would love to write to MOM to ban her, but I am not her employer. Is there any other way I can do to ban her from coming to SG?

Name: Sugiyanti (Yanti for short)

DOB: 02/02/1980
WP No.: 0 06034659

When she first joined our family to look after my in-law’s granny, we thought she was a very caring and considerate person. She did her household chores very well and she was very fast and efficient. The best part was everybody in the family liked her. She was very conversational and her English was very good for an Indonesian.

It appeared that things were too good to be true. Things started to happen when granny was alone with her during the daytime. (I disagree leaving a helper alone with an elderly but the decision was not up to me) :
1. Granny had a bad fall which fractured her hip. She couldn’t be operated due to her old age and had to rely on painkiller forever!
2. Granny started getting bruises on her forearm. When asked what happened, she said she don’t know.
3. Doctor diagnosed that granny was malnutrition. If granny refused to take dinner, she will only get to eat the following day during breakfast.
4. Granny fell and had a deep cut on her head when she brought granny out.
5. Granny had a deep cut on her left arm during shower.
5. Granny had another cut on her right arm when the arm got caught in the wheelchair.

Whether it was accidental or intentional. Despite the above, my in-laws still wanted to keep her.

Slowly, things started to get missing. Useful household stuff and my personal stuff
1. Wooden Spatula
2. Porcelain pot for cooking tonic
3. Microfiber floor rub from 6 pieces to 4 pieces
4. Brand new skirt
5. She even poured my toiletries inside small bottles for her personal use.
6. etc

To make matters worse, she was given the authority to ‘run’ the household. Eventually, she got involved in our family matters and caused our family members to fall out with each other. It took us a great deal of planning to get rid of her.

Word of advise:

1. Never, ever leave your vulnerable elderly and children alone with a helper no matter how reliable she seems.
2. Never give too much freedom or authority to a helper.
3. Install CCTV as deterrent and a record when things happen.
4. Never, ever involve a helper in family affairs. (not even letting the helper hear the content of the discussion).