Is this behaviour of teacher acceptable?

[ammonite]

I agree with the article too. I also do not have problems with teachers who are fierce. But teachers who lie and accuse the child falsely, yes I have a big problem with them. They are usually not the fiercest teachers around but tend to play favourites and do a mediocre job teaching. They are like the colleague who do not do a proper job and then cover up desperately when the boss ask questions.

[concern2]

"Kids don’t learn from people they don’t like!" - Rita Pierson

[sharonkhoo]

concern2:

\"Kids don't learn from people they don't like!\" - Rita Pierson

But kids don't only like people who are nice to them! Some kids (eventually) really love the very strict teachers. Of course, that excludes teachers who are unfair or unreasonable, no matter how nice they may be sometimes.

[Nebbermind]

Donch even need to be unreasonable or unfair. As long as the teacher gets along really well with a ‘rival’ in class, the teacher will be ‘unlike’.

[concern2]

slmkhoo:

concern2:

\"Kids don't learn from people they don't like!\" - Rita Pierson

But kids don't only like people who are nice to them! Some kids (eventually) really love the very strict teachers. Of course, that excludes teachers who are unfair or unreasonable, no matter how nice they may be sometimes.

Agree. DS happens to like strict teachers - esp if they know how to deal with the bullies :evil: To him, strict is not equivalent to being likeable or not, but whether the teacher is being 'fair' - like \"why can't the teacher just punish those noise makers, why must punish the whole class and make us all stay back?!\"

[janet88]

Son likes strict teachers…bcos he will not be bullied.

I am ok, as long as they are fair and teach well. If they ‘scream and yell’, it also depends on WHAT they are yelling.

[ammonite]

concern2:

slmkhoo:

[quote=\"concern2\"]\"Kids don't learn from people they don't like!\" - Rita Pierson

But kids don't only like people who are nice to them! Some kids (eventually) really love the very strict teachers. Of course, that excludes teachers who are unfair or unreasonable, no matter how nice they may be sometimes.

Agree. DS happens to like strict teachers - esp if they know how to deal with the bullies :evil: To him, strict is not equivalent to being likeable or not, but whether the teacher is being 'fair\"[/quote]This is true for my ds too! Strictness is not the key issue, it is the fairness. I think it says a lot that for someone who is poor in Chinese, his favorite class was Chinese with three teachers in the class! He said he learnt something new every day and the class was not chaotic. Even when the teacher scolded him and called me to complain, he told me it was okay, the teacher was right to scold him and she was not picking on him.

Kids CAN tell the difference.

[BeContented]

ammonite:

concern2:

[quote=\"slmkhoo\"]
But kids don't only like people who are nice to them! Some kids (eventually) really love the very strict teachers. Of course, that excludes teachers who are unfair or unreasonable, no matter how nice they may be sometimes.

Agree. DS happens to like strict teachers - esp if they know how to deal with the bullies :evil: To him, strict is not equivalent to being likeable or not, but whether the teacher is being 'fair\"

This is true for my ds too! Strictness is not the key issue, it is the fairness. I think it says a lot that for someone who is poor in Chinese, his favorite class was Chinese with three teachers in the class! He said he learnt something new every day and the class was not chaotic. Even when the teacher scolded him and called me to complain, he told me it was okay, the teacher was right to scold him and she was not picking on him.

Kids CAN tell the difference.[/quote]Like to add on

Kids CAN tell the difference and many can choose WHAT to tell us too.

[ammonite]

No one can argue with that. Same for adults too…

[janet88]

Son can tell me when teachers scream and yell…they raise their voice about stuff related to work…it’s ok to him. He had strict teachers for several years and he is used to them. My point is, they must be reasonable.