Private Life coaches for children?
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What you describe sounds like parenting. Unless the family has more serious issues, surely all this should be done by parents.
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slmkhoo:
What you describe sounds like parenting. Unless the family has more serious issues, surely all this should be done by parents.
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JossCruz , that sounds so like advertising. :skeptical:
and please to assume children will turn forty and be miserable , unless thay are helped by an external hired life coach is too much.
Why dont you share what your child was like, what the private life coach did , and how it changed their behaviour/attitude/action- that is sharing experiences.
What you have shared is your opinion of how useless parenting is in general and how great private coaches are. -
I am not firing up a debate here because all I was asking was a share of experience. Perhaps I think there’s so much more than I know so I gave it a shot. I have not mentioned useless parents because neither am I. Like, my husband, he pampers my daughter a lot and protects her very much… When she faces challenges like maths, she becomes dependent, I do try to pull it off but my dd slips out to go her daddy’s side all the time. When I have a session, I have her run no where, sits down and accept training like facing her challenges rather than depending. Clearing her doubts is one thing, meeting challenge is another. It’s not like I can’t do this myself, sometimes as a person, I need reminders to grow as a person and a mother too.
I am working mostly and kids are left at home as they are, sometimes one parent work a way and the other another, it’s between me and my husband, I can’t change him so I asked for help instead, perhaps I feel that there’s much more my children can achieve by having better attitude, in life or academic wise, I just don’t want them to be too comfortable. DD always has mood swing, swinging here and there, uncontrollable. By spending time and working with her, her problems surfaced, so she was highlighted not to be a "most pitiful person in the world", in that way she will always be trapped in her limitations. So, slowly she realized that she don’t blame the world except fixing her own attitude and thinking.
Well, I don’t know about others, this is just a preference, I am not calling all people to hire coaches, if you are happy with what you have, good on all of you! I just wanted to find out who does the same. Cheers! -
JossCruz:
Did you have a talk with your husband? i'm just thinking if he continue this way, wont it undo all the good that your DD is getting from the coaching once she is back home, in the comfort zone?I am not firing up a debate here because all I was asking was a share of experience. Perhaps I think there's so much more than I know so I gave it a shot. I have not mentioned useless parents because neither am I. Like, my husband, he pampers my daughter a lot and protects her very much.. When she faces challenges like maths, she becomes dependent, I do try to pull it off but my dd slips out to go her daddy's side all the time. When I have a session, I have her run no where, sits down and accept training like facing her challenges rather than depending. Clearing her doubts is one thing, meeting challenge is another. It's not like I can't do this myself, sometimes as a person, I need reminders to grow as a person and a mother too.
I am working mostly and kids are left at home as they are, sometimes one parent work a way and the other another, it's between me and my husband, I can't change him so I asked for help instead, perhaps I feel that there's much more my children can achieve by having better attitude, in life or academic wise, I just don't want them to be too comfortable. DD always has mood swing, swinging here and there, uncontrollable. By spending time and working with her, her problems surfaced, so she was highlighted not to be a \"most pitiful person in the world\", in that way she will always be trapped in her limitations. So, slowly she realized that she don't blame the world except fixing her own attitude and thinking.
Well, I don't know about others, this is just a preference, I am not calling all people to hire coaches, if you are happy with what you have, good on all of you! I just wanted to find out who does the same. Cheers! -
I agree with Dreamgear and I also agree with slmkhoo that this is what parents do. I think there must be some parenting course somewhere that you and your husband can attend. Some family counselling maybe? So, instead of your DD learn from a life coach, you and your husband should learn parenting skills. This would be better because your DD spends much more time with you and your family than with life coach. Especially, if you have more than 1 kid, it is cheaper and more effective than engaging a life coach for years.
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Yes I have, even the coach did, he is starting to change A LITTTLE! I am just hoping the more exposure my dd has, the more she stands on her "unsafe" ground. Changes is hard for him, I mean for adults so I turned my attention from changing him to my children instead.
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Yes I agree, sometimes it’s easy for me but the other party might not want to do it and I can’t see my children go to waste. I might want it but not the other, everyone has different environment so as a mom, I play with the cards I have. Like I said, it’s preferences based. I was hoping to hear more of whom adopted what I did…Thank you for all your attention and concern!
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JossCruz:
Well, I guess this would qualify as a more \"serious issue\". Generally, I feel that parents should do most of what you decribe, and maybe it should be the parent who has a life coach, not the child....Like, my husband, he pampers my daughter a lot and protects her very much.. When she faces challenges like maths, she becomes dependent, I do try to pull it off but my dd slips out to go her daddy's side all the time.
... sometimes one parent work a way and the other another, it's between me and my husband, I can't change him -
Not trying to b rude… Bt since we "out source" parenting??
Hv u ever consider d negative factor of hiring a life coach? Wat if d prog or d coach betrayed d chd/ur trust? It will b a even bigger impact on d kid
( coz no obe geniune care for ur chd other fan her own parents!)
Also on pro side, ur chd gets so comfy wif d coach /prog tat they dun confide in u as parents anymre???
I believe in gg parenting courses, movitation classes even emtional management skills bt life coach… Wow sound so foreign… N r we @ tat stage of out sourcing our kids to solve parenting issue now??? -
Hi,
you are not rude, just concern. I understand, thank you by the way, I work with the coach and my kids but just not my husband, I was just hoping we can do it as a family, life coaching isn’t much like parenting, perhaps its not popular in Singapore. I find it more like a facilitator whom I work with.
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