if i am a mil,

[sharonkhoo]

sleepy:

If I'm a MIL,

I want to get a say in selecting my (favourite type of) son in law :evil:

Already started brain washing my girls on my favourite type :evil: :evil:

But what if that 'type' doesn't suit them? They are the ones who are marrying the man. One of my cousins went out with this very nice guy, so nice that my aunt really liked him. When they broke up, my aunt was more heartbroken than my cousin! Frankly, I always felt that he was too nice to my aunt and my younger cousin, and my cousin (the one he was dating) probably got fed up in the end. We just tell our daughters that we hope they will find a man who will be their best friend and will make them happy (and hopefully being nice to us will make our daughters happy).

[vinegar]

according to my frd,if the man close wf his mother,he will choose the wife resembles to his mother. My DH very close to his mum,thus,both me n my MIL share similiar characters-that’s explain why we couldn’t get along.

[Mawar]

slmkhoo:

sleepy:

If I'm a MIL,

I want to get a say in selecting my (favourite type of) son in law :evil:

Already started brain washing my girls on my favourite type :evil: :evil:

But what if that 'type' doesn't suit them? They are the ones who are marrying the man. One of my cousins went out with this very nice guy, so nice that my aunt really liked him. When they broke up, my aunt was more heartbroken than my cousin! Frankly, I always felt that he was too nice to my aunt and my younger cousin, and my cousin (the one he was dating) probably got fed up in the end. We just tell our daughters that we hope they will find a man who will be their best friend and will make them happy (and hopefully being nice to us will make our daughters happy).

:rotflmao: yes, we used to ketuk our aunt's boyfriend. We took advantsge of him. Burgers, chocolates etc. But happy ending!

[buds]

sleepy:

If I'm a MIL,

I want to get a say in selecting my (favourite type of) son in law :evil:

Already started brain washing my girls on my favourite type :evil: :evil:

You sleepy is it? :skeptical:

If you are oredi MIL means you have no say liao lor. :slapshead:

[JonC]

I thought it is "If I am a millionaire".

[buds]

Joker, you! :rotflmao:

[janet88]

vinegar:

according to my frd,if the man close wf his mother,he will choose the wife resembles to his mother. My DH very close to his mum,thus,both me n my MIL share similiar characters-that's explain why we couldn't get along.

I will teach my daughter to open her eyes WIDE when finding husband material...preferably not the 'mummy's boy' or she will suffer.

[buds]

janet_lee88...


Such things (teaching our children to open their eyes WIDE when choosing a spouse) is not something we/they may be able to see or know in-depth before marriage. Like in my case lor. It could also be I didn't open my eyes big enuff. :politebleah:

I was one of those children who had parents (in my case, parent (mom) who in a way decided what was best for me. What she \"thought\" was best for me. Well, they say, a mother knows best, right? Honestly, it may not be so all the time or with all mothers.

Aniwaes, my story was.. my mumsie didn't approve of any of the other guys I was with. By that, I meant serious relationships. Suffice to say, I didn't get to marry my soulmate. One who knew me at my best and worst.. one whom i was passionately in love with.. one who could even always finish my sentences for me.. one who never once cared a hoot what my mumsie thought of him. He maintained utmost respect for her and loved her as his own. His take was that my mumsie didn't find the opportune moments to get to know him better.

My mumsie fell extremely ill from hearing news of my intention to call off my wedding (with hubs). She cried everyday. She barely ate. She practically was in like total depression. Yes, even though I was the one going through the temporary break-up. She totally refused to speak to me when she found out from my then-fiancé that I wanted us to have some separation time to realize if we really want this. Or actually... perhaps if \"I\" wanted it.

I couldn't stand seeing mom so sickly and she lost weight over the few months. She kept in touch with my then-fiance and often tipped him on my whereabouts and updated him on how/what I was doing. She didn't know I hooked up with my ex again (my soulmate), whom she detested.. because he was from another race.

Though it had been an excruciatingly tough marriage life that I had to go through, I knew I had tried my darnest.. and i really mean darnest best.. to make the best out of it.. to make the best out of every ounce i had in me. With a husband of my mumsie's preference and with the mother-in-law who emotionally abused me almost every day of my married life (living with her family), which I never in my life imagined I would be subjected to and/or subject myself to.. I chose to be the filial daughter.. and I dare say I made the best out of EVERYTHING I could and even when i was at the crossroads then, I fought for my happiness with the husband I slowly grew to love.

Truth be told, though it can never measure up to the love I had with my soulmate, (perhaps God had other plans for me) and the fact that there will always be only one soulmate, I don't want to wallow in regret all my life. Time is too short for that and it'd be a waste of the life given to me.

What I went through was never something my mom could've taught me, in fact to be honest.. I don't think any mother can.. not even to pre-empt.. But the life lessons I learnt from all those years of heartache and hardship.. will keep me stronger. I hope..

I try not to dwell on the little things no matter how it affects me. I may be in foul moods on and off when the \"occasions\" arise but I'll get over it and move on. Moving on is easier said than done honestly.. but I did it aniwaes. Still am.

[Nebbermind]

janet_lee88:

vinegar:

according to my frd,if the man close wf his mother,he will choose the wife resembles to his mother. My DH very close to his mum,thus,both me n my MIL share similiar characters-that's explain why we couldn't get along.

I will teach my daughter to open her eyes WIDE when finding husband material...preferably not the 'mummy's boy' or she will suffer.

Do u think your boy will become a mommy's boy?

[janet88]

buds,

you are really an amazing woman…having to go through so much emotionally.

i HOPE my son doesn’t become a mummy’s boy…bcos i do not want that to happen as his future wife will suffer.