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TheAnswer:
Buds,
Buds,buds:
Does your spouse/family take you for granted?
Do you feel like you are taken for granted sometimes? Ya know.. being SAHM.. people think that we are always there.. always around.. always knows.. everything. I had my dose maxed out today and kinda feelin' somewhat crabby. Hence this less than positive post. Sorry.. :imsorry:
You are appreciated although I do not know you personally. A great mum :salute: :snuggles:
:grphug: :hugs: -
I cook,clean,take care my kids,ferry them to school everyday…Yes,DH does take me for granted. I don’t mind coz love is unconditional…
All i nid is… a bit of time out wf him…as couple.It will nvr happen coz of his mum.I am still learning to accept it…
SOOOO…i get comfort from someone else…my frds! they always there with me.Once my kids grow up, it will be time for him to feel abandon…oh no,he won’t,he’ll be still busy chasing his mum’s shirt. -
buds:
Buds dear, :hugs: No need to apologise... We all have our crabby days. Take some time for yourself. You're a great mum and good person. :salute:Does your spouse/family take you for granted?
Do you feel like you are taken for granted sometimes? Ya know.. being SAHM.. people think that we are always there.. always around.. always knows.. everything. I had my dose maxed out today and kinda feelin' somewhat crabby. Hence this less than positive post. Sorry.. :imsorry:
And yes, DH and family does take me for granted.... But... I refuse to be taken for granted... Sometimes, I :spank: -
TheAnswer:
Read about your MIL. :hugs: take care of yourself too, ok?Honestly, we are all taken for granted sometimes.
Today I rushed down to the hospital as I needed to attend the care giver training. The appointment is supposed to be at 12pm. I rushed down from a funeral but I was not appreciated. The nurses think that being a tutor has a lot of flexibility. Say I have flexible schedule and all that. It's not even true unlike what most people believe. Maybe there are other tutors who are very free. I do not know. Honestly, I'm fuming mad at how inconsiderate some people can be. How insensitive their words can be! -
Buds dear,
Not all posts have to be positive...as women and SAHMs, we will have crabby days. You have been a great mum to 4 kids and survived your mil. I must say it is definitely not easy. Hope you are feeling a little happier today. :snuggles: -
buds:
Tell your hubby/family nicely that you don't like to be taken for granted. Sometimes people got carried away... My hubby ever told me that I took him for granted. I tried to improve myself but I told him to let me know if he thinks I don't appreciate him because my upbringing is different from his. My family is so big while his is small.Does your spouse/family take you for granted?
Do you feel like you are taken for granted sometimes? Ya know.. being SAHM.. people think that we are always there.. always around.. always knows.. everything. I had my dose maxed out today and kinda feelin' somewhat crabby. Hence this less than positive post. Sorry.. :imsorry:
Go watch movie yourself time to time. The one that you really like but can't bring children :snuggles: -
buds:
:hugs: Hope you are feeling better ..Does your spouse/family take you for granted?
Do you feel like you are taken for granted sometimes? Ya know.. being SAHM.. people think that we are always there.. always around.. always knows.. everything. I had my dose maxed out today and kinda feelin' somewhat crabby. Hence this less than positive post. Sorry.. :imsorry: -
Hey buds,
Take time out…go for coffee or ice cream…anything which makes you happy.
If you can get mum to babysit, that would be great. -
I'm feeling worse.
Mebbe from pent-up frustrations. I like to take things positively but I suppose it became too much for this last couple of days. It's easy for someone to console or advise to take time off but in reality it may not be that easy. Seriously, even helpers in SG gets a day off every week.
I'm still nursing a cold that i got from taking care of the boys. We never left the house at all the week they got it. 
They have not been sick for awhile too. I hardly get sick myself, but if i do.. quite jialat case.. sure konked out.
Mebbe hubs is just in one of those moods.. where he's having a bad day. Mebbe that might explain some of the nastiness. But i am sick and i definitely don't wanna be. I didn't ask to be sick. I still hafta take care of two sick babies.. i'm having a rough week myself.. i'm hell woozy but still managing.. but i'm kinda exhausted.. like exhausted and exasperated from how i'm being taken not just for granted but literally like taken for a ride... time and again. I feel kinda stupid in a way.
No one went hungry.. i cooked.. ok, for instance.. like two nites ago, i cooked http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?p=1007000#p1007000. Would you believe me if i told you no one ate? Mebbe he ate out. Mebbe sick of home dishes. Ok, DD2 did eat later on and told me she was sorry for taking me for granted and asked how she could make up for it. She did. I cannot eat medication because i cannot be meds-whoozy since i have to care for the boys. She offered to massage me so she could take my body aches away. She said, she knew how it felt to have the flu. A child! A child telling me this you know..
In moments like this, it made me think back. I could've have chosen a way out when i had a choice when i came to a crossroad some years back. I'm pretty depressed and whoozed enuff to now think mebbe i should have just hit the road then...
I literally got my life, my family, my marriage back together again after years of :censored: :censored: :censored: and i guess i've finally come to a point where i am not even sure this is all worth it.
I'm just tired. Tired from everything.
Sorry guys, i'm having a rough emotional roller coaster within me. I'm just whooze-ranting. Thanks for all your love, kind words and well... everything you're trying to pump me up to feel better. I suppose this will take awhile.. Gotta go. -
Aww... buds, you have every right to be feeling low, I dunno what to say to make you feel better But i will say it anyway
buds:
The only thing that talks a little to me when i am feeling down is :hugs:I'm feeling worse.
Mebbe from pent-up frustrations. I like to take things positively but I suppose it became too much for this last couple of days. It's easy for someone to console or advise to take time off but in reality it may not be that easy. Seriously, even helpers in SG gets a day off every week.
And 8 hours of rest every day , sista. Honestly when did you get that last ?
I'm still nursing a cold that i got from taking care of the boys. We never left the house at all the week they got it. They have not been sick for awhile too. I hardly get sick myself, but if i do.. quite jialat case.. sure konked out.
Mebbe hubs is just in one of those moods.. where he's having a bad day. Mebbe that might explain some of the nastiness. But i am sick and i definitely don't wanna be. I didn't ask to be sick. I still hafta take care of two sick babies.. i'm having a rough week myself.. i'm hell woozy but still managing.. but i'm kinda exhausted.. like exhausted and exasperated from how i'm being taken not just for granted but literally like taken for a ride... time and again. I feel kinda stupid in a way.
No one went hungry.. i cooked.. ok, for instance.. like two nites ago, i cooked http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?p=1007000#p1007000. Would you believe me if i told you no one ate? Mebbe he ate out. Mebbe sick of home dishes.
Ahh its the little doubt devil at work. The moment the turn their back, kick them away. Saps our energy these little doubt monsters.
Ok, DD2 did eat later on and told me she was sorry for taking me for granted and asked how she could make up for it. She did. I cannot eat medication because i cannot be meds-whoozy since i have to care for the boys. She offered to massage me so she could take my body aches away. She said, she knew how it felt to have the flu. A child! A child telling me this you know..
Buds , you know the men dont geddit :roll:
One day buds_hubs will make up for it. Just you wait.
In moments like this, it made me think back. I could've have chosen a way out when i had a choice when i came to a crossroad some years back. I'm pretty depressed and whoozed enuff to now think mebbe i should have just hit the road then...
You said it - you are pretty depressed. These chemicals or lack of them - dopomaine , serotonium and their ilk make us think drastically.
And for all you know in a parallel universe you might have just done that - taken a different road :evil:
I literally got my life, my family, my marriage back together again after years of :censored: :censored: :censored: and i guess i've finally come to a point where i am not even sure this is all worth it.
This one I must tell you, loud and clear.
It is worth it.
E v e r y b i t !!
Even if you find it difficult to feel it now, it will be crystal clear to you tomorrow.
I'm just tired. Tired from everything.
:snuggles:
Physical tiredness is bearable.
Emotional tiredness is another story. Needs lots of TLC.
Sorry guys, i'm having a rough emotional roller coaster within me. I'm just whooze-ranting.
Ok , atleast now I know you are a human being.
Not a Super Robo Gal who was designed to make us all feel inferior.
Thanks for all your love, kind words and well... everything you're trying to pump me up to feel better. I suppose this will take awhile.. Gotta go.
So here you go :grphug: :snuggles:
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