Club SAHM
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Hi all mummies,
My children are in P5 and sec 1.
I am thinking of quitting my job and become a SAHM. Can someone give me some advise…thank u . -
jjxy mum:
What are your reasons for wanting to be a SAHM? Many women are thinking of returning to the workforce when kids are around that age.Hi all mummies,
My children are in P5 and sec 1.
I am thinking of quitting my job and become a SAHM. Can someone give me some advise...thank u . -
jjxy mum:
I was a FTWM and chose to become SAHM when the boys were older, P4 and P6. I wanted to spend more time with them during the more critical pre-teen and teenage years. The reason we do it the 'reverse way' from some other parents: when the kids were very young, it is easier to get child care help like nanny, maid, childcare centers. Of course we still tried our best to spend time with them in the evenings and over weekends. As they grow older, we want to be the one to shape their thinking, mold their characters, coach them like a mentor in studies and social life. So far, this approach worked well for the boys and for me. The boys are 15 and 17 now, they are happy to have me around and my support to them has contributed to their overall well being. I am also enjoying myself, not missing my corporate life since I had my time and fulfillment as a career woman.Hi all mummies,
My children are in P5 and sec 1.
I am thinking of quitting my job and become a SAHM. Can someone give me some advise...thank u .
Hope my sharing is useful to you. All the best whichever path you decide to take! -
slmkhoo:
Hi,
What are your reasons for wanting to be a SAHM? Many women are thinking of returning to the workforce when kids are around that age.jjxy mum:
Hi all mummies,
My children are in P5 and sec 1.
I am thinking of quitting my job and become a SAHM. Can someone give me some advise...thank u .
I am tired of my current jobs that I have been working for 20yrs and I found that I lost my energy by end of the day. I have no strength to coach my children and do housework after 1 day of work in office. I wake up 6am in the morning and always feeling extremely tired.
Recently, I told my children that I intend to be SAHM, however they don't seemed to be looking forward to it. -
jjxy mum:
What are your reasons for wanting to be a SAHM? Many women are thinking of returning to the workforce when kids are around that age.slmkhoo:
[quote=\"jjxy mum\"]Hi all mummies,
My children are in P5 and sec 1.
I am thinking of quitting my job and become a SAHM. Can someone give me some advise...thank u .
Recently, I told my children that I intend to be SAHM, however they don't seemed to be looking forward to it.[/quote]Probably because your kids are already at the age where they prefer not to be nagged at. And by you staying home means they will be supervised more closely
My p5 dd often complained I talk too much. I can't help it le.
If I have to repeat the same instruction so many times, it should be her fault & not mine. I told her she should be the one reflecting
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jjxy mum:
Things to consider,Hi all mummies,
My children are in P5 and sec 1.
I am thinking of quitting my job and become a SAHM. Can someone give me some advise...thank u .
No 1. Is your hubby supportive of your decision to be 1.
No. 2. Is the family able to do with 1 income.
No 3. Do your parents depend on your monthly financial contribution. If yes, is your hubby willing to give on your behalf.
No 4. Do you have your own private savings.
Why not switch to working part time first. -
jjxy mum:
Me too.....has been working for donkey years.....have been wanting to get a part-time morning job....but so difficult to find a meaningful P/T job. Current place does not offer P/T job also, face time is of the utmost importance.....Hi,
I am tired of my current jobs that I have been working for 20yrs and I found that I lost my energy by end of the day. I have no strength to coach my children and do housework after 1 day of work in office. I wake up 6am in the morning and always feeling extremely tired.
Recently, I told my children that I intend to be SAHM, however they don't seemed to be looking forward to it.
My girl's results have been deteriorating....maybe partly due to a lack of discipline at her part, and also no proper supervision at home. But she definitely does not like the idea of me at home also..... -
possible to find "work from home" job? there r some jobs whereby u only nid to go bk to office occasionally,to collect paperwork,then do it at home.
my DH doesn’t give me allowance either. He pays for hsehold expenses. -
I was a FTWM until two years ago. When I was working, I simply have no time (worked rather late regularly) and no energy to coach after a long day’s work. I also chose not to scold, nag at the children the moment I come home . However, the situation becomes kind of critical when I started seeing red flag from tests, worksheets, exam and calls from teachers.
My ex-company was understanding enough to let me go on unpaid leave to see if my presence at home would help the situation. And I must say it did! Due to financial committment, I returned to work 1-2 months later but find that juggling both homefront and work is as hectic as before. I made the painful decision to resign so that I can focus on home. I cannot say it is a bed of roses to be a SAHM, there are sacrifices we made and maybe no one , will ever appreciate. At times, when DC do not behave or scored badly for exams, I doubt if my decision is right at all. During those times, I will always remind myself to be strong and that my intention is for the best, and if things do not work out eventually, then at least I will not regret looking back.
Having said that, you need to really know why you want to resign because that will keep you rooted during trying times. Most importantly, You need the support from your husband so he will not feel the burden of being the sole breadwinner. If he feels negative about that, frequent disagreements can occur. Financial is also another consideration. Money can cause disputes so this is one BIG factor you have to think hard.
there were times that my DC feel it is better off that I go back to work so that I can help hubby financially. There are also times that they thank me for being there and say if I go back, it can only be part time because they want me around at home. They are a confusing lot, right?
Anyway, I do have intention to return to work after DS PSLE. I do not miss corporate life but I feel that I cannot be there 24/7 for DC at all stages of their life. I have to give them space to grow as a person. I also think it is important to be in touch with the social world. -
Thank you all mummies for all the great advices.
I believed every mummy has considered all the impacts before becoming a SAHM.
It is a major decision in our life journey!
I am curious to know whether do all mummies have a ‘time-table’ to follow for each day…and what else you do during your ‘free’ hours.
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