Private Life coaches for children?

[hpliew]

Hi


Parenting is a laborious journey and it’s definitely a roller coaster ride. Kids have their life progress too, but nobody can replace the anxious mom and ask her not to do anything yeah? In my opinion, you can do it yourself, learn and try to improve with your husband, do it with relatives or friends or whichever way you find it comfortable yes? Everyone has their own life, nobody should be so fixed in their living yes and it is true when you said everyone’s environment is not the same. I guess it’s more like asking for help?

When I first heard of, I didn’t really understood too. But then again, I try to understand what it is about. Well, there’s advantages in everything… I just like the way they teach good habits, positive attitude and so on and so forth…

Anyway, good luck with all your children!

[Mdm Koh]

I had a mentor in uni who has become a good friend of me and my husband, so I understand the importance of having someone to guide students along. Although it's great for kids to have a mentor in their lives, I feel that such a relationship is best cultivated when there is no money attached.


Like another parent posted earlier, not all of life coaches will be honest. They are, after all, business people seeking profits. From my experience (meeting them through the course of my work), I have found this to be somewhat true. There's risk in sharing with them about our private lives, especially if the family is in a vulnerable state.

I believe that many life coaches really do feel a calling to help people when they get into the biz and they are good at motivating students. However, if there's a need to hire a coach to help with the family's personal issues, parents have to \"screen\" this person very carefully to ensure that he is a person of good integrity. Also, you have to make sure that the solutions that he recommends really do benefit your family.

[CalmingMind]

Jennifer:

yeomaylin:

[quote=\"Jennifer\"]

I always find him very self centred. It is straining our relationships. His poor time mgt

Similar incidents hv surfaced in the past. All boils down to his forgetfulness n poor time mgt.

When I tried to talk to him about this, he would apologise but these incidents would re-surface again and again.

I tried to treat him like a mini adult, giving him choices and the rights to make decisions. However he disappoints me again and again.

Jennifer, my DD has similar problem -- (1) no time mgt & (2) always complaining, blaming others & denying it's her fault. I am also thinking of seeking councillor or profesional life coach for assistance. Many times, I hold myself responsible for not coaching her the correct way. :oops:

Her poor time mgt is due to her forgetfulness and SLOWNESS. I reject to rush out at night for her or to sch shd she forget anything. She has to be responsible for her own action. Does she learn her lesson after each reprimanding/warning fr teacher or me? Not much. :sad:

She is VERY slow in her hw. Her tutors, sch teachers and even classmates are commenting that she is very slow in writing. An est. 2-hr hw will take her abt 3-4 hrs to finish. :frustrated: There's no time for revision at all. I have no choice but to push back her sleeping time when it is near to exam period. (but surprisingly, she can manage to finish her exam papers in the nick of time - but of course, no time for checking).

She always blaming too. Blame teachers for being strict, giving too much hw. When I push/teach her how to write fast, she blames me for stressing her out. When she is slow, she blames the pen, :faint: ANYTHING... ANYBODY but herself.

I've tried all soft & hard approaches, rewards sys, penalty, time table etc. but none works. She always promises to change but these incidents will re-surface again.

:?:

:hugs:

I feel like you are describing my boy

This week Tues is not Science supplementary lesson, so we did not hv another rush out to buy whatever incident. Next Monday, I will hv to remember to ask him what he needs.

I am becoming paranoid- always asking him whether he needs to buy sth whenever we are at a mall.

The recent Monday, he was a very good boy- finished up all school work due or not due the next day, did the Lead.com assignment w/o surfing to his Aircraft Investigation youtube, did not throw any tantrum.

And he came to tell me this: you will be very happy if I behave like this everyday, right?

To which I reply: of course lah, which mother wont be happy? You go find me one.

He laughed so heartily at my reply.

Somehow I feel that he knows in his heart what he should be doing, but somehow he cant behave in the right way all the time. Tues was a down day, partially becos the weather has been raining in the afternoon when he wanted to go out to play.

Ytd was ok until 9.10pm. We had a small argument and he went to sleep shortly.

This morning, he told me that he suspects sb is stealing his pens/pencils in school. I did a simple acknowledgement as I know he is not going to admit that he misplaced the stationery and I also know there is a possibility of theft in school as this has happened many times in the past.

I recently made an arrangement to see a professional who suggested to me that my boy might be suffering from a xx condition based on my email to her describing my boy's behaviour. Our appointment is next Monday. We shall see how it goes from there.[/quote]
===> Jennifer/yeomaylin,
I am in the same plight as you
I'm feeling so helpless towards my DS who's in P3 this year. All the situations you related, my DS exhibits all. :faint:

===> Jennifer,
You mention abt the professional suspecting a xx condition.....can share wif me more about the professional contact details? via PM if more comfortable for you. I desperately need help.
:thankyou:

[Jennifer]

CalmingMind:

===> Jennifer,

You mention abt the professional suspecting a xx condition.....can share wif me more about the professional contact details? via PM if more comfortable for you. I desperately need help.
:thankyou:

Hi, sent you a pm.

[hello-panda]

Hi, does anyone has the contact which Jennifer mentioned previously? Unfortunately Jennifer is no longer a user in kiasuparent so I can’t contact her. If u have it can u pls pm me? Thank u so much!